Tragedies when you're old/Tragedies when you're young

@AmbiePam (50263)
United States
July 21, 2012 8:21am CST
The older you get, do tragedies get easier or harder for you to deal with? The shootings in Colorado have really gotten to me. I remember back in 1995 when the Murrah Building was bombed in Oklahoma City I had nightmares of explosions (I was only 13). But it seemed to be easier for me to deal with than recent tragedies. I think everyone was devastated by 9/11. But then this shooting, I don't know. Maybe time has made my mind think years ago I dealt with things easier. Or perhaps the younger you are, the less likely you are to think about horrible things. I don't know. I know when I was younger I always assumed when I was older and someone I loved died, I'd be more equipped to handle their loss. And I guess I am. It certainly though doesn't mean it hurts less.
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• United States
21 Jul 12
" the younger you are, the less likely you are to think about horrible things." For me that is not true. I lost my dad when I was 12 so I just assumed Everything bad Will happen. When 9/11 happened I thought ok , we all are going to die All at once. But it didn't happen. Have I grown to handle things better? I am not so sure.
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@AmbiePam (50263)
• United States
21 Jul 12
I said, perhaps the younger you are. I guess when you lose so much when you're young there is nowhere to go but up.
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• United States
22 Jul 12
I guess so.
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@RitterSport (2452)
• Lippstadt, Germany
28 Jul 12
Dear Ambie, havent followed up closely cause I get out here too early and get back home too late - again - and the last weekend has been sort of frantic as well. You are right, we deal better with such tragedies when we are younger. It was much easier to pull myself together when I lost a loved one then than it is now. You feel much deeper that the life isnt endless and that there is so much you want to do and so little time.
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@AmbiePam (50263)
• United States
29 Jul 12
Very well said.
@winterose (39918)
• Canada
23 Jul 12
Yes it is terrible that is for sure. But when you let all these terrible news stories affect you personally you can get very ill yourself, so take care.
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@AmbiePam (50263)
• United States
23 Jul 12
Thank, winterose. I know.
@ElicBxn (60894)
• United States
22 Jul 12
you were 13 in 1995? gads you are young! I do think that young people aren't as enured to violence as older folks and that's why they are more likely to have bad reactions to things than adults. I can't begin to tell you about how many children in the early '60's who had nuclear nightmares...
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@AmbiePam (50263)
• United States
23 Jul 12
I can't imagine. I mean I was amazed when my mom told me stories on how they practiced in school of taking shelter in case of a nuclear attack.
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@ElicBxn (60894)
• United States
22 Jul 12
you were 13 in 1995? gads you are young! I do think that young people aren't as enured to violence as older folks and that's why they are more likely to have bad reactions to things than adults. I can't begin to tell you about how many children in the early '60's who had nuclear nightmares...
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@jillhill (37383)
• United States
22 Jul 12
9/11 really affected me because I knew that my SIL's both would be required to be involved being military...I was also upset by Oklahoma city. This last shooting has not affected by much at all....but not because it's not important....it's because there are so many issues going on in my own life.....so much stress...that I am exhausted. I do feel so bad for the families....
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@celticeagle (120480)
• Boise, Idaho
21 Jul 12
Tragedies are tradegies no matter how you look at it. I think that as you grow older you may understand the situation better so you may be able to take it better because of that. I think that 9/11 was such a shock for all of us that it will always be the worst we have suffered to date. Senseless and unreasonable acts like this are hard to handle. Like the Arora, Colorado shooting lastnight on the news. It is so senseless and hard to understand.
@ANTIQUELADY (36488)
• United States
21 Jul 12
gOOD DISCUSSION, aMBIE. tHEY ARE HORRIBLE ANYTIME THAT THEY HAVE HAPPENED IN MY LIFE TO BE HONEST.I don't know how anyone would not be affected by this one in Co.So sad when someone gets to the state of doing something like this. Makes u wonder, doesn't it???
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@katsmeow1213 (29044)
• United States
21 Jul 12
I think when you're younger you don't really comprehend the severity of such tragedies. Young people think it's like a movie or a video game, and since it doesn't affect them directly, such as a loved on in one of those tragedies, it's not something worth worrying about. As you get older you realize the severity of it and have more empathy for those who are affected by the tragedies. You understand that it could have happened anywhere, including right in your own town. It could have happened to anyone including yourself and those you care about. You also begin to see that things like this happen more and more often where as when we were young it was only a few times we'd heard of terrible things like this happening. Now that we're older we can think back to numerous tragedies in our lifetimes and it seems scarier.
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