what do I DO!

@verolop29 (1096)
United States
July 21, 2012 8:30am CST
Hello mylotters!! today i have found out some very distressing news that has been happening for a while now and i dont know what to do about it. well..i DO KNOW but the last time i did something like this i distroyed my family forever and i have paying the price for that. u see as a child i was molested by my 'father'. i call '' because i have known this man MY WHOLE LIFE. he later on adopted me and my older sister and my last name changed. as the years gone by he started doing things to me that i no longer remember. my sister remembers and sometimes she tells me what he did to me and when i try to recall what happened to me all those yrs ago i get this BAD migrane from heck...so i cant remember. i tell her so and shes like im glad u dont remember because if u did u will not be with marcus the way u r...im like WHAT??? so i just brush it off. so when i was 13 or 12 i told the police about what was happening to me and they took him away. before that ever happened, we both told our mother and she did nothing. i remember us telling her and she would say to me 'ur taking my husband away from me'...how is that possible? i was not a woman. i remember i started my cycle that yr at the age of 12 and then i guess thats when it progressed much more..it is very difficult right now to tell u all this..i dont think i have really forgiven them for doing this to me... anyways its happening again. my brother-i think-used to molest my nephew when he was smaller, then he moved away. now my nephew is touching his little brother. my sister is a single parent and she works most of the time and if she's not working she partying. i feel like telling my sister to open her eyes and see whats going on. my neice ariel told me she has seem her brother touching their little brother and she has stopped him many times. ariel told me she has told her mom but all she did was whip his hide black and blue and yelled at him. that didnt help in any way. im scared to death of that happening to my girls. so as soon as i heard about this i started teaching my daughter self defence. and enrolled her in martail arts classes. not long after that, i saw that my newphew got hurt his nose was bleeding and his eye was a little colored. and then i knew that he tried to/or did touch my daughter. i cried. my daughter caught me crying and she told me she felt sad that i was crying. i had a good talk with her and told her she did awesome(because she really likes that word!) when she handeled her cousin. she told me she was scared when he grabbed her behind. she told me she kicked him in his middle and hit him in the face with her head and ran to find me. im glad i did this. but im not glad its happening to my family again. the whole reason why i put my dad behind bars was so that history wouldn't repeat itself. now it seems like my family suffered for nothing. every member of my family have been molested in some way by someone they knew. i know i did the right thing in enrolling her to those classes. i even told my husband IF HE EVER DID THAT to our daughters i will leave. i will not hisitate. and he will never again see his daughters. ever. i know kids lie. but a person can tell if something is not right by how the child acts. never again... so what do u think i should do. i will talk to my sister about this and see what she will do as a mother. and if it doesnt end, should i end it? should i talk to my nephew and get him help? i think that if i ask his mom to get him help, she wont have time...
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21 Jul 12
What u did,is a right things!!!!Im proud of you,i think we all here are.If your mom keeps talking to u like that,forget she even exists.
@verolop29 (1096)
• United States
22 Jul 12
thats going to be hard to do! im just glad i dont have my sisters' memories! u know, she is just now learning how to accept and forgive our mother for what she didn't do. back then when it happened and kept happening we told her and she refused to do anything about it. over the years...my sister built a wall of resentment toward our mom. they could not be in the same room without 'teenage' drama lol!.. i would look at my sister and shake my head sadly and cry inside. im the type of person that has a very good consience and i will do whatever needs to be done.
@riyauro (6428)
• India
21 Jul 12
oh vero, it was sad to hear your story. I feel bad for you, but i am glad that you are trying to help yourself and your family. You are a good mother. Otherwise today's mothers give birth and party and don't have time for their kids and all sorts of things happen. molestation has become part of every society and men are behaving like animals. They don;t know who is daughter, mother or wife. such people should be severely dealt with. Good that you complained about your father. If he being a father is doing this then why should you think twice about complaining. about your nephew, I feel you should talk to your sister for once and see what she says. If she is not bothered then you can't do much about it. You have an option to stay away from these people. If your sister is bothered means she is encouraging what's happening. You can take your daughter and husband away from such people who can be harmful. You can live a happy life somewhere else, because there are good people as well
@verolop29 (1096)
• United States
22 Jul 12
it makes me sad to do such a thing. i will talk to my nephew and see what happens but i will not let my daughter near him in any way. she will have one major skill i didn't have, and that is defending oneself! thank u for giving me the confience i so desperatly needed friend!