Will you acept to have a date with a friend even if you know he´s a womanizer?

July 21, 2012 3:56pm CST
That´s a very simple question. Will you acept to have a date with a friend even if you know he´s a womanizer? I have a friend that wants to have a date with me, but I´m not very sure about it, I knew him since 2008 in my career course, we met each other and up this moment we are very close friends. The only problem that makes me stop and think is that I know his life with a lot of details, and makes me think he is a womanizer. I love him and I accept him as he is, thats why he is my friend at this moment. Have you ever live a situation like this? What did you do? thanks for all.
10 responses
@riyauro (6421)
• India
21 Jul 12
Womanizing is a very bad habit. If he changes than good but if he doesn't , then definitely you will have problems with him later. Our choices today will reflect in the future. So i would suggest you to think again. Okay, by womanizer, what did you mean? sleeping with other women, or just flirting? Because if he is flirting, then he has chances to change, but sleeping with other woman is different story altogether. Because if you know that and still going for a date, then he will take you for a ride or take you for granted. He will do that behind your back also. So, just be careful doll.
21 Jul 12
First of all, I would like to say that spanish is my mother tongue, but I used English because is an international language and I do the best I can. Second, thanks for replied on my discussion. I used this word in both meanings you mentioned, flirting and sleep with. Here we have a common phrase that in english is something like this "an older dog, wont never change the way the dog is". It does a very complicated problem, as you said, and that´s what makes me stop and thinking about. I really love him as a friend, but the problem is that I know the way he is and makes me be confused. Thanks for all.
• United Arab Emirates
24 Jul 12
Cougartown, if you are so certain that your friend does both then he is not only a womanizer, he is a pimp and he cursed because he would definately not have time for himself and he would never have any positive thoughts coming from him, no ideas or talk that would include his previous experiences with ladies he has played. So you should be careful because he isn't your friend maybe he has always being there for you for some reasons best understood by him alone, don't be decieved all he wants is just to get into your pants like he has with many other ladies. Such people should be avoided, so why the date with him?
@alilin28 (1527)
• Uruguay
22 Jul 12
In my opinion you should get an opportunity to see the truly intention of him, telling him what you think about it just for let him see your point of view. Of course, you are the only who choose what you want to do, I think that everybody here gives you are point of view, a little bit different cause your confusion. Hope you did the best you feel. Have a nice day.
22 Jul 12
maybe you were right, mabe I have to talk first with him and see the intentions. thanks for gave me your opinion.
@velentina (891)
• Mauritius
22 Jul 12
I have a complete point of view than others. I think you should accept the date but you must keep yourself to the limit. Your friend may be womanizer but his heart will choose only one in the last. I have this experience. You meet a person, you talk to him/her then you see that person is not to your standard, then you opt for other person. In this way you try to make a choice. So of course you will be called a womanizer. But the truth is different. Finally you stop when you get the person of your choice. I hope you will understand this relationship and give you friend a chance and discover your feelings for him.
• Bulgaria
1 Sep 12
Hi take care not to meeting with that kind of people and how to recognize them just see this article that gives to you a lot of advices about them: http://socyberty.com/sexuality/how-to-know-womanizer-immediately/ Have a nice day!
• Bulgaria
25 Aug 12
I do not a lot of this kind of men but you can check this article: http://socyberty.com/sexuality/how-to-know-womanizer-immediately/
@jureathome (5361)
• Philippines
21 Jul 12
A date, with a friend, doesn't have to end up to a serious romantic relationship, does it? So, you can go out with him and just enjoy his company. Be careful, though. Are you concerned you might fall for him? Or, perhaps, you already have feelings for him.
22 Jul 12
yes, you were right, it might not end up with a serious relationship. I have to think very well. thanks for gave me your opinion.
@bjc66bjc (6730)
• United States
22 Jul 12
I think you can answer that question much better than any one here...after all you know him we only know of him,,But I think you should really follow your heart and your mind.. being that you know his character, can you see yourself putting up with the behavior you have seen him display..if you can then 'Go for it"..But if you don;t like the way he has been treating women in his past, what make you think you would get any different treatment...??
@NailTech (6874)
• United States
21 Jul 12
Probably not, it has been one of my downfalls with men. It seems the meaner you are the more likely a guy is to stay with you and only you. In my family anyways. I have always liked or dated alot of men who just didn't want me cause I was too nice I suppose and had other women on the side so if they got bored with me they had them to go to. I truely just want to be happy with no drama with one man for just me.
@doccerz (46)
• Philippines
22 Jul 12
Play hard-to-get, love. Do not accept the date invitation. Tell him you have other plans but tease him a little bit. Then, wait and see. If he's really serious about you then he'll pursue you still. I'm not saying you should play the flirting game. I just want you to wait it out to see if he's really into you. More like telling him in a subtle way, "Hey, you're my friend and I'd like to give you a chance. But I don't trust you as of now; you have a track record. Try to prove your intentions first."
@Raine38 (12257)
• United States
21 Jul 12
Yes, but it will have to be within the context of a friendly date only. I personally and purposely avoided womanizers, but then if I have a friend like that, then I would like it to remain that way unless he would change his womanizing ways. I wouldn't be he one to waste both our times.