Life skills over education?

@krupar5 (287)
United States
July 26, 2012 9:06am CST
Hello fellow lotters, Yesterday my ex and I went to an orientation to a possible new school for our daughter. We both love what the school has to offer and had agreed that we would send her there if it can benefit her. The school has the wonderful concept in which the children are responsible for all of their own actions. They also are given a senior exit research project that requires them to make a webpage with active links,have a virtual portfolio and other things. The best purpose of this school is to allow children to be ready to work and enter the world with the experience to achieve what they want.If the child wants to attend college then they set them up to do so, but if a child would like to go work they teach them the knowledge to succeed. In order to graduate the child must also complete an internship which they set up for the child. It really is a wonderful opportunity.My problem is that the classes they do offer. My daughter will be entering her second year in high school and the classes they offer at the new school she has taken most of them. In her current school, she will be taking physics and pre-calc. If she were to transfer she will be taking bio or chem, which she passed with an A and a mix of geometry,algebra I and II, again in which she has taken and passed. I want her to stay at her current school, but I think my want comes to knowing she will continue to live with us at my home. If she transfers she will need to live with her father. I know that doing an internship and teaching life skills are beneficial, but so is education and challenging her.I have already spoken to the guidance counselor at the new school and she will not be able to take calculus or physics until her senior year.as you can see her dad wants her to transfer and I do not. We are both bias and any thoughts will be most appreciated. Thank You.
3 responses
• United States
26 Jul 12
What does she want to do? I would find out what she wants, its her life let her take the path she wants to take. I know what its like to be pushed around doing what other people want you to do, let her do what she wants live her life on her terms see what she wants. Hope this helps.
@ronadelle (1547)
• Philippines
26 Jul 12
I agree with music. I think it is best to know what your daughter wants and desire over this matter. Your child may be feeling confused right now as her parents have different wants for her. I may not have the right to say this, please dont get me wrong. Im sure that your daughter is old enough to know what she wants and is responsible to take whatever journey it is. Dont worry though because im definite that she will always respect what you think is best for her, but she will also appreciate it that you trust her so well to decide for her own. Happy mylotting!
• United States
27 Jul 12
Yeah, i agree with you as well with the confusion. Any time your parents are on different terms with what they want you to do it will confuse there child so much. I lived with that my whole life, my parents got divorced when i was 8 and before and after they were always on different terms.
@krupar5 (287)
• United States
6 Aug 12
Thank you for responding. Her father and I also divorced and we do not see eye to eye. Personally I think she should stay. She has told us that she is okay with either choice. She understands the benefits of both schools, but she has also transferred many times. We have been discussing this for a while (my daughter and I), and I think I will keep her here. She hasn't quite said yes but I think she wants to stay.
@inkyuboz (1288)
• Mandaluyong City, Philippines
26 Jul 12
I believe that you can gain life skills just by simply "living life". I still believe in the old boring rote education we get from our schools. I know it sounds impractical to some people, but you really do need math and science and believe it or not, history, to grow up and become a well-rounded individual. Again, you can learn your useful life skills when you're growing up. Heck, you can even learn them while studying in school. You learn from the other students and more often than not, you learn from the books you're reading as well.
@krupar5 (287)
• United States
6 Aug 12
Thank you for replying. I am starting to lean in the education side because I believe you can learn life skills also. I have been thinking about this and I figure if her dad feels that an internship is important then I will look into getting her one by myself. Thanks again, happy lotting.
• China
26 Jul 12
Well, in my opinion, the life skills are more important according to my experiences. Maybe you can suggest your daughter learn some skills in the field she likes.