Why can't they just accept it and move on?
By 911Ricki
@911Ricki (13588)
Canada
July 26, 2012 1:11pm CST
I was getting ready this morning for my interview. I set out black dress pants, black falts, and a purple top. I had a shower then did my hair and if anyone has animals you know not to put nice black pants on until your literally out the door. I was eating breakfast, when my Mom asked me when my interview was (since I had to work both jobs today as well). Both her, my sister, and youngre brother start going on. My brother and sister both applied to this position in the past, both got the brush off immediately. Neither in my opinion have work experience, or in that field. Even the lady in the interview today said me working at a fast food place for 8 years isnt the same retail experience. My sister worked in a library, and had 0 retail experience even now she has 1 year experience. My younger brother has 0 work experience, or volunteer. They carried on how he should of got the job, he deserve it more since I work other jobs I dont need it, and how he wants it more. I just ignored them and left for the interview. I'm not letting their negativity get me down, then I would bring it to the interview. I applied to a few more position, my parents stood there saying he should apply for them, he needs a job more than me and carry on for ages about it. Yet, I dont see him activily looking for a job, trying, and his attitude I wouldnt hire him. I've been avoiding them all day, and not telling them about the interview, they will just say how I dont deserve it, and so on. I just dot understand why they carry on like this, they should mind their own business and accept my brother cant find a job until he changes his attitude, and behaviour itself not because places dont want to hire a boy, or someone with no experience.
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10 responses
@wilsongoddard (7291)
• United States
26 Jul 12
Their behavior is ridiculous. I do hope that you can move out of there soon, so that you don't have to deal with that sort of thing anymore.
Next time they say something like that, just remind them that your brother won't be the one taking care of them in their old age. Let them ponder that for a bit.
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@CTHanum (8234)
• Malaysia
27 Jul 12
They must feel unfair but it is totally not your fault. You don't need the job? How could they say that you. They should know that your current jobs is still not enough for you since you need to pay for many things. So, you really need the jobs.Ignore them.(^^)
@911Ricki (13588)
• Canada
27 Jul 12
How is it my fault that neither of them can get a job? Which is what they are basically saying. They just want me to depend on them, I find my parents are trying this lately, and I;m trying to do the opposite unlike my sister, I want out and on my own.
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@KrauseHome (36448)
• United States
27 Jul 12
Personally I think they are jealous and if they really think they have a better chance at this position then why are they not working there or applying for the job themselves? But remember even if you do not get this position don't let your families opinions get the best of you.
@BarBaraPrz (45476)
• St. Catharines, Ontario
26 Jul 12
Attitude goes a long way...
Are you sure you're not adopted?
@anklesmash (1412)
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26 Jul 12
Its a shame that they didn't wish you luck in getting the job.Who gets a job isn' t the person who deserves it more but the person best suited to doing it not that i'm saying you don't need the job you probably wouldn't be applying if some extra income wasn't needed.Though i can't really see why they are upset at you for applying as your application isn't the reason they didn't get the job the reason is that they didn't have the neccessary experience and though you were better qualified for the job you still may not get it as your experience isn't really in the same area.I'm glad your not letting their negativity get you down and i hope you get the job or another one soon and i hope your brother and sister get ones as well so they can stop moaning about you.
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
28 Jul 12
I definitely agree with you that they should just accept the fact that they didn't get that particular job and move on with their lives. I can see your brother and your sister being upset that you got the interview when they didn't get one because there is always a part of siblings that like to compete with each other. As far as your parents go, I think that they should be supportive in your looking for another job and should accept the fact that you are getting further in trying to get this particular job than your siblings did. In addition to that, I also feel that they should support your siblings in looking for a different job.
@Suggar (3606)
• Bulgaria
26 Jul 12
Well this is strange to me. You are all their children and they must support all of you. It's true that if someone has never worked, he needs little experience, which actually may change his behavior and instead of useless this person may become a very responsible guy. But still you are all their children, so they must treat you with respect and support all of you.
I guess they just think if your brother start any job, he will start changing his personality and will become really more kind and responsible about making money, paying, saving them or whatever he does.
I may say as a person who has been working for few years before I start working online, there is nothing more sweet than everyone to spend the money he made of his own work or also made with his own hands. That's how people learn to appreciate the money, when they start earning them themselves.
@natliegleb (5175)
• India
26 Jul 12
see if you judge most people are like that only in the innerself.So i think we will have to just leave it to them and keep moving on.we cant force responsibility into them,they have to take it naturally
@Robswife2006 (1208)
• United States
26 Jul 12
Trust me when I say I understand. Both my sisters each have their own talents, leaving me w/ very little. I enjoy Photography but I'm far from being a professional. My husband's family praise my photos & tell me how good they are, but 9 times out of 10 I get nothing from my side of the family. My one sister & her husband(most especially her husband) constantly put me down & make fun of me. I try not to let it get to me, but this is something I've had to deal w/ my whole life. So believe me I understand how you feel.
@NailTech (6874)
• United States
26 Jul 12
I'm glad you ignored them and just went on with what you had to do. I know it bothers you inside that they say things like this but they should just keep it to themselves if they feel that way. It isn't your fault if you get the job and he doesn't. You're not doing the hiring, the other person is. If he doesn't get it while you do I hope they will be happy for you and move on too. You do deserve the job, more than him actually cause you are so work oriented, and have the right kinds of motivation.
