Different Wedding Culture

@ARIES1973 (9534)
Legaspi, Philippines
July 28, 2012 2:06am CST
My friend's daughter got married today and we attended the wedding ceremony. After the wedding ceremony at the church, we went to the reception, and we found out a new custom and practice. They would visit each table bringing a wine which they would offer to each gentleman and ladies on the party. What amaze me is that they had with them a basket where a visitor would put a small token, say a hundred bill for the couple. After that, they would dance to the tune of a local song and the visitors would then pin paper bills on the clothes of the couple. How about you my dear fellow myLotter, can you share the practice in your place during wedding? Your response will be greatly appreciated.
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@Shavkat (56609)
• Philippines
28 Jul 12
It is quite similar practice in rural areas of my country or even in urban part. Before getting married, they have this traditional celebration of dancing in their hometown, while the couple dance in the center of the floor. People give some bills and pinned it on their clothes. It is done also in the reception after getting married in the church.
@ARIES1973 (9534)
• Legaspi, Philippines
28 Jul 12
Thank you Shavkat for participating and sharing the wedding practice in your country.
• Philippines
28 Jul 12
It's the same in our country too. There's this dance before and after the wedding and bills are pinned on the dancing couple. But I attended one wedding celebration in a remote area where the people are not so capable of giving big amount of money to newly weds. So instead of the traditional practice where they dance and the visitors pin bills, the visitors dance as well while an usherette goes around carrying a small basket and the dancing visitors drop coins or paper bills for the newly weds. In another remote area also, I experienced a celebration the night before the wedding where single ladies from the barrio are seated in front of the dance area and visiting men who did not bring with them a partner may ask one of the ladies to dance with them. At the side of the chair is also an ornamented basket where the guy will have to drop an amount like payment for the dance. The collected amount will all be given to the bride and groom after the celebration as a gift. =)
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@ARIES1973 (9534)
• Legaspi, Philippines
28 Jul 12
Wow! That is really something different! Never have seen that practice. Thanks for sharing thersdae.
@asdomencil (4276)
• Philippines
28 Jul 12
What we did during our wedding is the traditional money dance. After we have our meal, we went to the center and starts dancing with the emcee asking the sponsors and friends to help us raise money that will be used to start our life. Some pinned it in our dress while some just gave us envelope. That is the most commmon wedding tradition in our place. Another thing I remember is when you enter the house or the reception hall, they will throw you coins with uncooked rice which symbolizes wealth.
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@ARIES1973 (9534)
• Legaspi, Philippines
28 Jul 12
Wow! That could be a good tradition to keep. I only know about throwing coins during new year. Thank you asdomencil for sharing you thoughts and experience.
@jureathome (5363)
• Philippines
28 Jul 12
Was that really a cultural thing or were they just being creative? The couple dance is common, where visitors would dance with the bride and groom after they pin bills on their clothes. The part where they roam around with a basket is somehow new to me, too. But, perhaps that is just their variation of the money tree.
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@ARIES1973 (9534)
• Legaspi, Philippines
28 Jul 12
That was the first time I experienced that kind of thing, too. Well, maybe but I don't know yet as of now. I would ask this new friend of mine when we see each other on Monday.
• United States
28 Jul 12
I have not been to a wedding in over ten years. I have no idea what is the custom fro us here at all. Ithink your situation was very nice andit would be nice to go to one like it one day.
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@ARIES1973 (9534)
• Legaspi, Philippines
28 Jul 12
I wish you could. We are only staying in one country, yet there are still some pratice which we do not know. Thank you for participating.
@riyauro (6430)
• India
28 Jul 12
In Fiji it is like simple but sweet wedding. Their will be Yaqona (Kava) ceremony and then vows and then dance. Our traditional style. Here in Goa I have been to some christian weddings and there is a live band and the bride and groom start the dance which i guess common in christian weddings, but one thing which I saw first time is they carry the bride and dance in the local songs and it has lots of fun in it.
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@ARIES1973 (9534)
• Legaspi, Philippines
28 Jul 12
Thank you riyauro for sharing you experience regarding this topic.
@roberten (3131)
• United States
30 Jul 12
There is no one specific cultural experience attached to weddings here due to the great diversity in cultures. Some people jump over brooms, some people are lifted and carried about in chairs, some people throw bouquets, some people have money trees, and the list goes on for what seems forever. You can mix and match here or make up your own rules. The only concern here is to have your heart's desires sprinkled with endearing memories.
@cupkitties (6928)
• United States
28 Jul 12
We went to my second elder brothers wedding, but its been many years ago so I don't remember much about it. People brought gifts for the bride and groom. There was a lot of talking and dancing. Very bad and very silly dancing. They also have a special dance between the bride and groom and then there is the mother / son and father/daughter dances. Uncooked rice is dangerous to the birds outside so instead we blew bubbles to send the couple home.
@jricky1 (6809)
• China
28 Jul 12
We can see different culture through wedding of different countries.lol,in my country,most people do not get married in the church but to choose some place they want and be romantic.Also,many friends or colleges come to celebrate,maybe a little different through the process,but overall the heart of the lovers are true.
@Raine38 (9029)
• United States
28 Jul 12
Okay, this is something that I haven't personally experienced, but this is what happened to my friend's cousin's wedding which was held in the province. It was all traditional from the ceremony and to the reception. When all of a sudden, their aunt stood up and asked for the mic from the emcee and started selling...wait for it...rice cakes! I mean we all know that some vendors peddle these rice cakes and they sell it for as low as 10 pesos each. But in that particular reception, her aunt said it is priced at 200 pesos each! The aunt further explained that the proceeds will go to the newly wed's starting-up fund. My friend's cousin was soooo embarrassed; her officemates and bosses from Manila were there. To make it worse, their aunt started calling out people's names and even said "Hey Mr. _____, the owner of ____ Company, we expect you to do better!" OMG totally humiliating! To try and save her cousin from further embarrassment, my friend went to the couple's parents and asked them if they can stop the "show". She was told that weddings in their province really do this. Oh well... A few days after the wedding, my friend asked her cousin how's everything going on with her and her new husband. And when she asked how much money they made at the rice cakes sale, her cousin said she never saw the money. Good thing our wedding had none of the extended families, LOL!