Have You Ever had Terrible Disappointments that Keep Repeating Themselves?
July 28, 2012 5:26am CST
Well, no Family Reunion for me again this year, what a BIG disappointment. I work with people who seem to make it their mission in life to prevent me from attending my annual family function. No matter how well I plan, my coworkers always seem to succeed in causing me to miss my family reunion each and every year for the past several years. This is getting very old to the point of me being ready to quit my job. I have two bills I must pay first, IRS and school loan. As soon as I get my bills paid (estimate 10 to 14 more months), I'm outta here. Have you ever experienced repeating disappointments; what did you do about them?
• Legaspi, Philippines
28 Jul 12
How sad stowyk. Well, hopefully you could attend the family reunion in the next year to come. What could be the reason? It's okay if you would not share. I also have disappointments in life. But I make it a point not to think about them. I want to think most of the good things that happened to my life and my career. But there are really times that I just can not just keep those things in one corner and thinking about them really makes me feel sad.
• United States
29 Jul 12
I planned everything except a Plan B. I was originally planning to fly but my son decided he wanted to go too so I asked my boss if I could use a company vehicle and drive instead. I did not have enough for two round trip tickets. My boss and his wife both said it was okay and said I could drive the van. I spoke to each more than once to insure I would be able to use the van. I told a coworker the day and approximate time I had planned to leave. About 20 minutes before I was due to leave, my coworker that I shared my travel plans with called my apartment and said that our boss asked him to call me to come into work for about two hours because my coworker had to attend a wedding. I was reluctant but went in because two hours wouldn't put me much behind. I went in at 6 p.m. and my coworker relieved me at 10:15 p.m. My boss attended the same wedding and returned later. When my boss returned he called me and I asked him again if it I would still be able to use a company vehicle for travel to my family reunion. He was hesitant and then asked me when I wanted to leave. I explained that I had planned to leave at two but had to sit on the desk for my coworker and I wanted to leave as soon as possible. He hesitated and then said sure. I asked my boss which vehicle he wanted me to take: the car or the van. My boss said, "No, no take the van." My bosses wife was still at the wedding but my coworker did call me when she returned. I went to the office and got the key my boss left at the desk and loaded up the van. Just a hair before midnight, my bosses wife called my apartment and said they needed the van to fit everyone in for the wedding this weekend, and then told me to take my bosses' truck. I sat for a few minutes and tried to figure what to do because my boss wanted me to drive the van and his wife wanted me to drive the truck. I finally decided to return the van and forget the trip. No matter what vehicle I would have taken, it would have created a hardship on the company, I did not want that. It was too late to rent a car. It was also too late to catch a ride with my cousin who was going to the reunion. Over the last several years (minus last year), issues related to work have prevented me from attending my family reunion. I was so hopeful that I would be able to attend this year so when all failed, I slipped into a deep depression. My boss blew up my phone and even came to my apartment and knocked on my door and window. I wasn't up for visiting with anyone due to my great disappointment at missing the reunion so I took the day to meditate and get over it. I was a bit annoyed when a different coworker used a pass key to walking into my apartment without being invited. That made me angry. Other than that issue, I did not take offense at my boss or his wife because things happen. Neither vehicle was mine and I had no right to either of them so there was no getting angry for them not being available for my personal use. I was more upset by the invasion of my privacy. It was bad enough that I had to make the decision to not attent my family reunion but to have people knocking on my doors and window, calling me over and over on the telephone, and walking up into my apartment without being invited made the day all the more horrible. Next year it is my goal to have completely paid off all my debt and not be employed here. I hope I can attend my family reunion and revisit family I haven't seen in years. I'll just have to work extra hard and try to make it happen.
28 Jul 12
I can understand the disappointment of missing an annual family reunion. It was bad enough to miss one, not to mention it was more than one! I don't know what your co-worker did to force you to abandon your planned vacation. But you have to stand firm and maybe inform your employer that you have to take your leave. After all, you have already planned it in advance and that they should know that you have given up for them in the past. I personally have not had such an experience as they always like to say that there is no one too important to miss in a business. So my vacations have been taken as planned - airplane ticket and hotel room paid - who is going to refund that to me if my leave is cancelled? Even for my staff who have sent in their leave application, I will try to arrange so that they will go on leave as planned. There has never been any case where a leave application had to be cancelled for shortness in man power. I hope you will have no problem in attending your next family reunion. Good luck!