Could You Forgive Someone Who Has Constantly Hurt You?

United States
July 28, 2012 6:42pm CST
People can hurt our feelings, even our loved ones do it. Sometimes it comes in various forms and then the apologies happen. Yet even after the apology and after so many times of having your feelings hurt, you still feel upset about it. You want to forgive that person and you do but you realize you really don't, you want to but...you don't know how. Has this ever happend to you? Is there someone you want to forgive, but cannot because of the many times they hurt either your feelings?
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• Philippines
29 Jul 12
Yes, I would because our world is full of temptation and humans are prone to sins. Everyone would do such thing all over and over again.I myself has one that a particular bad deed for several of times. Anyway, If the Lord could forgive us a million of times, why can't we?
• United States
29 Jul 12
It's not easy to forgive. It usually depends on how the person was hurt. I have been hurt by people that I want to forgive, but in my heart I cannot. Maybe it has to do with experiences. I guess one just has to learn to forgive others for their mistakes.
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@Axai2012 (371)
29 Jul 12
I haven't really experienced that before but thinking about it maybe just maybe because of the love you have for that person that no matter how many times that person caused you pain, you still forgive that person. Simply because you don't want that person out of your life but if you do then you would've driven that person away.
• United States
29 Jul 12
It's not always easy to forgive at least in my experience. It's as if I want to but it's never easy to do. Some people have hurt me so much and so badly that I cannot say I forgive them. I would want to but some things are to painful to forgive.
@Dominique25 (9475)
• United States
29 Jul 12
Yeah it can be very difficult to forgive people when they continously do things that hurt us. I try hard to forgive. But sometimes I just feel that a person should try themselves not to hurt others. For example people need to learn to hold their tongue. And often times when they don't it causes hurt feelings.
• United States
29 Jul 12
There are things in my life that have been done to me that I know are not right, and when they become continuous then something has to be done. I will have to learn to forgive, but some things are just not that easy to. After yesterday, I'm still wondering if I could forgive.
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• United States
2 Aug 12
I'm sorry that things keep happening to you that makes it hard for you to forgive. I don't know what has happened the other day but I hope that things have improved for you. Keep working to forgive others and this will help you to become a stronger person.
@Hatley (164507)
• Garden Grove, California
29 Jul 12
hi bettymarie my dear dad molested me once at age 8 and I never let myself be alone in our home with the lecher from then on. I was filled with hate towards my dad and my dear hubby told me the hate was not bothering my dad but was making me feel ill. so I did for g ive him and also asked why which he refused to answer. I had to respect him for being my dad but I did not owe him like or love either.Just respect but I got rid of the hate and it felt like a ton of weight had been lifted off my shoulders.
• United States
29 Jul 12
I'm sorry for what happened to you. I'm glad that you were able to look past the situation. I hope that I can do that in the things in my life and with the people in my past that have done me wrong. I'm so happy for you for getting rid of that anger inside you. I hope one day I can do the same.
• United States
28 Jul 12
Although he's never once asked for my forgiveness I wish I could forgive my Father for my own peace of mind simply because I know that the anger I feel towards him hurts me more then it ever could him. The fact that he never once tried to apologize proves that. My father was physically abusive to my sisters & I but he never believed he did anything wrong. The three times he tried to contact me was when I was much older. It was after I got married & somehow word got back to him that my husband got a promotion. Of course he called to try & hit us up for money, so I never even bothered to answer the phone. Some people I believe just don't deserve to be forgiven.
• United States
29 Jul 12
I know that feeling, it's actually more of a feeling with my father-in-law. He did a lot of things to my husband and I when he lived here, and we will never forgive him for the things he did. I agree that some never deserve to be forgiven. I'm sorry your father was like that to you. Sometimes we have to cut people out of our lives, in some cases however, it's not that easy.
@svjomboy (876)
• Philippines
30 Jul 12
It's so difficult to forgive the person specially your someone hurt you or cheated you, i have experience before that my someone cheated me. When i find out he cheated me i talk to him and ask why? He have a lot of reasons, he ask an apologize to me and i accept it and forgive him. But the second and the third times he still do it, i have no chance just to let him go...But there is a lot of situations how to forgive, well we are not perfect in this world even God could forgive us, i can forgive him but i can't accept him anymore!
@sender621 (14956)
• United States
30 Jul 12
Even though someone was hurting me all of the time either physically or emotionally I would probably still have it in my heaert to forgivr them. Forgiveness after all is a huge part of the healing process. i don't think forgetting what happened would come as easily. It would certainly have to change the way i felt about that person and the relationship we would have now.
@mr_pearl (5037)
• India
29 Jul 12
Hi Betty... It depends upon who's hurt and how deep the effect was! I'm of forgiving attitude most of the times. I don't mind small things, small irritating remarks... Or even small mistakes... There have been a few instances and grieving instances, which I can never forget... There're very few people, whom I can't forgive...