Potty Training My 2 1/2 yr old

Canada
July 30, 2012 9:52pm CST
Hello all, I am looking for some input. I have two young boys and I am and have been trying to potty train the oldest (2 1/2) for quite some time now but he does not seem to get it. Any suggestions, comments anything that would help would be great. I do have a potty and I ask him several times a day if he would like to go potty and he says "no, no potty. no, no pee. and no, no poop". I've tried to set him on it for about 15 mins, nothing. However after 10 more mins he pees in his diaper. He refuses to use it most times. Please help me with this dreaded potty situation and I stress out just thinking about my youngest sometimes I think he'll potty train before my oldest. Any tips would be very helpful, thanks for listening :)
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@Jenith (1382)
• Philippines
1 Aug 12
At this age my son already knows how to poop and pee. What I did is I always let him watch youtube about potty training. Remind him always specially in the morning to tell mommy if he is about to poop then every two hours I ask him if he wants to pee. I don't push him to do it coz I tried it once and nothing happens. He ends up crying. Also, when I poop, I let my son go with me or go with his father and we show him how and what to do when we are about to poop. It really helps. Now, he is 3 and when he poop/pee he would tell me right away. Now I'm happy and hassle free. Good luck to you mommy. Hope my ideas help you in any ways.
• Canada
1 Aug 12
Thanks so much for your response. The YouTube videos are a great idea I am going to search some up. Do you have any suggestions on videos that really worked for him? I have started to take him to the bathroom with me and he does ask mommy what are you doing and I tell him I am using the potty. I then ask him if he wants to go n he says no no potty lol but then again everything is no no this no no that for him right now lol
@Jenith (1382)
• Philippines
1 Aug 12
LOL.... maybe you can tell him to tell you if he feels like poop or else monster will come and pick him up. Then he would never see mommy and daddy and everybody in the family again. Teach him to poop in a fun way. Exaggerate it and make some silly sounds I'm sure he will laugh out loud and try it by himself. Lately, my son was addicted to hotdog and I don't like it. What I did is I show him a video on youtube about worms, freaky worms and told him that there's a worm inside his fave hotdog and if he gonna eat it worms will grow big. He was scared and everytime we see hotdog in a mall he won't ask for it instead he would tell me "mommy I saw worms". Funny but it works. Sometimes we need to scare them but not to the extent that it will affect to them psychologically. Of course, we need to tell them the reality when they grow up and understand what's going on around.
@Jenith (1382)
• Philippines
1 Aug 12
You may type on youtube "potty training for toddlers" or change toddlers into babies, child, kid...etc. Hug and kisses to your kiddo
• Philippines
31 Jul 12
Hi, there are potty books being sold in bookstores and your child might like them. Children are different from each other, and one child can breeze on potty training while the other child might resist it. My first child was pretty much potty trained at two. I used books on her, there's this book with the sound of flushing too, cuz kids do get creeped out when they hear the flushing sound. They think they might get sucked too!My second child wore a diaper till 3. She pees on the toilet allright but she claims her diaper is her bathroom. When she turned 3, she suddenly got "mature" and claimed she doesnt need the diaper anymore. So, without forcing her to use the bathroom, she actually volunteered to do it!! So, don't push them, cuz it will just be a struggle.
• Canada
31 Jul 12
Thanks very much for the response :) lol that's how my guy is right now claiming the diaper as his bathroom lol The potty books are a great idea I'll have to look for some and just hope he matures sooner than later. Hopefully my other little guy will be easy by wanting to follow his brother but your story proved that may not be the case lol I guess it's one of the many joys of parenting :)
• Philippines
31 Jul 12
Yup, they come in different packages. Wait till you hear about my third child. He didn't use diapers at 3, but insisted on putting diapers to poo when he feels like it, and asks me to remove it after. What a waste...He used to be potty trained and would even use the bowl, but I think he slid there or something that was why he got scared of using it again, thus the diaper thingie. Anyway, when he started to go to preschool, he went suddenly "all grown up" and stopped that diaper bit.
• Canada
1 Aug 12
Thanks for that one it was really cute but probably not fun at the time. It's good to know that there is a chance they may go back otherwise in like year or two I probably would have been on here asking why the relapse lol But I now know not to push him too hard that's what most are mentioning. It must have been a bit frustrating though to have to get diapers again but when he was in preschool I guess he noticed all the other kids not using diapers and wanted to be a big boy at that point. I've heard a few stories now about our kiddies just one day deciding to use the potty maybe thats what my little one will do :)
@shylade (3137)
• Philippines
31 Jul 12
Hi! If your child still resist it at this time, don't push him. Maybe he is not yet emotionally ready for that. I try to potty train my son when he was 14 months and bought a potty chair but to my dismay he won't use it so I hide that potty instead. After several months, I have a new nanny and she saw the potty chair. She asked me if she could use it and train my son, and since I have nothing to lose I said give it a try. You know what, it only took two weeks and my son was potty trained before he turned two. He can say poop and pee, and he do it with his potty chair or comfort room. From that I have learned not to force my son. Because the more we force our little child, the more they will resist and this will be a battle between the two of you. The process will just take longer. So I think, if he don't want it just yet, try it some other time. Make him familiarized with the potty chair and teach him what is poop and pee. Is he's using disposable diaper? Maybe you could use cloth training pants instead so he will be able to feel the wetness.
• Canada
31 Jul 12
Thanks so much for the response. I have started to just ask him if he needs to go and most times he says no lol and I leave it at that. Would that be pushing him to much do you think? He is in disposables but I have tried pull ups cool alert but he never said anything :( and I have tried training cloth underwear and he peed in them with the next 5 minutes lol. All I can do is laugh about the situation and be content in knowing he will learn oneday but I often wonder when that day will be lol
@shylade (3137)
• Philippines
31 Jul 12
A I see. I think he is not yet ready and you are right, he will learn that one of these days.
@kaka135 (13992)
• Malaysia
4 Aug 12
Perhaps you can try to let him use the toilet, instead of the potty. I used to let my son use the potty, but he didn't like it. I actually didn't bring him to the toilet, but when he saw the dad use the toilet, he wanted to imitate, so I let him do it. Then, I found out this is the better way to potty train him. During his potty training period, I experienced as what you said. but when I potty trained him, I didn't let him wear diaper. He just pee or poop in the shorts when he hasn't well trained yet. I just let it be, and encouraged him to tell me before he wanted to pee or poop. He always told me after he pee or poop, and he didn't move at all, I suppose he didn't like the mess too. I understand this can be quite disgusting for parents who clean it, but I found that as long as you wear the diaper, it doesn't work out so well or so soon. I let him diaper off at home first, then when he got used to it and quite well trained, I tried to let him diaper off when we went out. It took a small step at one time. Also, I think when the kid is ready, then he just suddenly knows he wants to pee or poop, he will go to the toilet. I have gone through the training period for some time (can't remember how long it was, perhaps one or two months), it was sometimes tiring, but suddenly one day, he just went to the toilet nicely and perfectly! Then the next training was to let him diaper off during the sleep, I was wondering how to do that. Recently, he could wake up in the middle of the night and went to the toilet without we woke up him. I am very happy for that, that means he grows up a bit. By the way, he is almost 3 1/2 years old now. I still think that, when he is ready, he will just know it. Of course, as parents, we need to be there to guide and help. Hope this helps.
• Canada
8 Aug 12
Thank you very much for your response. I'm hoping to have a success story such as yours. I find the diaper off is working the most but he still goes all over the place lol.... I know I'm in for a long haul but hopefully he'll get it sooner than later. I'm afraid to put on underwear because I dont want him to get use to going in his underwear. I will continue to try the no diaper method and hope that one day hes going to say mommy I need to potty.
@sedel1027 (17855)
• United States
3 Aug 12
Could the issue be that he just isn't ready? Does he care if he has a wet or poop diaper? Does he remove his diaper? If not, he may not be ready. Some kids aren't until they are 3 or older. We bought my daughter a potty when she was 14 months because she had already been taking off her diaper and showed some interest in the potty. We kept her in diapers because we were traveling a lot and we couldn't consistently train her. Her potty was always around, so she could use it when she chose to. Really, I wasn't forcing the issue since I knew before she turned 2 we had to move half way across the country. Before my daughter turned 2, we told her that when she turned 2 diapers went away and she had to use the potty. It was okay to have accidents, but she could only wear underwear. The first week, she didn't leave the house (which sounds mean but we had just moved and after 2 weeks of not having her toys and getting new toys for hr birthday, she was thrilled). What I did was notice when she went, then 20 minutes later put her on the potty, we read a book or sang a song, just something to relax her. If she went, I'd give her a sticker for her chart. If not, I'd wait another 10 minutes and sit hr down again. Took about a week, but she was fully potty trained. At 2 1/2 she does have a few accidents 1-2 a week, always at home (thankfully) and usually when she is distracted. Unless he knows his own body cues, he is not going to be able to tell you if he has to go. You will have to do that for him - yes it is a lot of work! Don't ask if he has to go, just take him. Honestly, if your youngest is interested, I would potty train them both at one time.
• Canada
8 Aug 12
Thanks very much for your response. Yeah my youngest (17 months) is removing his diaper he did it twice this morning actually. I'm hoping the youngest will do better than my oldest and he'll follow by example.... I find it kind of strange that my youngest would train before my oldest but as most say each child is different. My oldest is not giving any cues at all.... Even when he goes in his diaper I ask him if he want potty and he says no no potty. I'm starting to be almost certain he is not ready I just wonder when he will be. I really wish he would because the montessari school I want to send him to states he needs to be potty trained, I hope its soon though. Thanks again
@samd87 (327)
31 Jul 12
Hi there. I never had any problems getting my two potty trained, my daughter was just 1 and my son was 2, having said that though they never used the potty, I didn't even have one with my daughter as she was so young I didn't think she would be ready, she just had her diaper off in the house one day and told me 'wee mammy'. I had to take her onto the big toilet and hold her and she went no problem, after that I always left her diaper off at home as she would let me know when she needed to go. With my son I bought him a a little potty and he wasn't interested at all, so I bought him a more expensive one that was bigger and had it's own toilet roll holder and pretend flush, he took quite a interest in this one and would like to sit on it but when he needed to go he would bring me a diaper so he could go in that. Then I bought him a small toilet seat that sits on the toilet and a step for him and he used it as soon as I showed him, he got very exited that he could use the big toilet like his mammy and daddy and big sister. So maybe it could be something for you to try, also with boys you can get little floating balls that go in the toilet and make it into a game, he has to try hit the ball while weeing, makes it a bit more fun for them, maybe try leaving his diaper off whenever you are at home, expect a few accidents but eventually he should let you know when he wants to go.
@dorannmwin (36698)
• United States
31 Jul 12
First of all, potty training should not be something that you push on your child, you should wait until they show signs of readiness for potty training. One of those signs would be coming to you and telling you when they are wet or when they are dirty. I also found with my children that it helped a lot when I would let them come in the bathroom with me when I was going to the bathroom so that they would understand it more clearly. In addition to that, just talking to the child about it and offering them small rewards is something that is good to do when starting potty training as well.
• Canada
31 Jul 12
Thank you for your response. Alot of thing thing you mentioned I have tried. But I guess I'm just not consistent enough :s I do often take him to the bathroom with me and tell him I'm on the potty and he repeats but I'm not a 100% sure he fully understands. When he does go in his diaper I normally say u should go pee in the potty and big boys go on the potty and he just repeats lol but he has gone a few times well and I always do a big celebration n give him high five lol he gets quite excited actually. Maybe I should focus on having him tell me when he goes in his diaper more often :)
@riyauro (6430)
• India
31 Jul 12
hmm. I don't have any kids as yet but I think you don't put him like that for 15 minutes and all. Just monitor what time after meals or when he does poop. We all have a timing of potty like most of us is in the morning. So, like that he must be having timing like that. so around that time you ask him. But don't force him to potty. It will not help. I hope I was of some help to you. have a wonderful day babygirl. All the best
• Canada
31 Jul 12
Thank you for your response :) I am swaying more towards waiting a little longer. But he does go on the potty sometimes. I recently let him start running around with no diaper and the other day he trunk led in the floor got up and said potty and went and pee'd in it however the next day he pee'd everywhere lol I guess there's good days and bad days but eventually he'll get it :)
@cotruelove (1038)
• Denver, Colorado
31 Jul 12
Thanks for the discussion. I never had a problem with my own children, but my oldest grandson was another case entirely. His mother worked, his babysitter never took the time, and he was almost 4 years old before he was trained. Both his mother and sitter were inconsistent in the training process. He was perfectly content even with other children around that he was in pull-ups or diapers. His doctor didn't even think it was a problem. But this grandmother did and so did his mother. This is what we did. I took him home with me for one week and promised his mom that he would be potty trained before he went home again. It was pretty simple really. He was old enough to take to the store and into the children's department. I told him if he were to use the potty and quit going in his diaper then he could wear the cute little boy underwear that he liked and I would buy them for him, but he would only get to wear them, if he used the bathroom properly. The second thing I did, was allow him to play games on my computer that were age appropriate to him. Most of them were shareware that I got for free and I sat with him when he played or he sat on my lap. I told him, I'd put him in the new underwear and he would sit in my lap, but if he pooped or peed on me, then the computer was off limits for the remainder of the day and he would be wearing diapers until the next day. He was a very smart ADHD child who at that time was not yet diagnosed with ADHD. Within two days, he was in the new underwear and using the bathroom properly. In his case, it was about motivation and making him see the value of using the bathroom. He continued to stay with me for a week and enjoyed the use of the computer, and I told him, he needed to continue to use the bathroom properly or when he came to visit he would not get to use my computer. His mom was delighted and he grasped the concept and probably already had, just wasn't motivated until I gave him a reason. Giving him motivation worked so well, that when he wanted me to take him to the zoo, he would ask what he had to do to get me to take him. It was a bit confusing to him, when I told him he didn't have to do anything except behave when we were there or we would come home. Good luck to you and hope you find a satisfactory method that works for you.
• Canada
31 Jul 12
Thanks very much for the response. Really cute story too :) but my guy is 2 1/2 and he doesn't quite understand all we say to him yet. I have tried to sit him on the potty and tell him he can have a treat after he goes but he doesn't get that all the time either. He constantly says wanna cookie? Lol when do you think is the best time for him to be trained by? Should I wait until he is 3 to start? I will definitely keep this in mind but I think it will work when he's a bit older.
• United States
31 Jul 12
We have a 21/2 yr old girl she is getting the idea but some times does not tell us, poops in her diaper then tells me. The plan is to catch her before she goes, but not always possible. Wake him up in the morning and immediately set him on the potty, while he is sitting there put his hands in cold water,that should make him go it works with almost all babies,toddlers and all. Next when he poops his pants make him wear the diaper several hours be for you change him, talk to him and tell him that he should have told you so you could put him on the potty. Above all don't be mad a t him and yell, that is not the way to do it. hope that helps, and good luck
• Canada
31 Jul 12
Thank you so much for your response. Reading it I had a despicable me "light blub" moment :) the hands in cold water is a brilliant idea. I will be sure to try that tomorrow. The poo is a good idea as well but wouldn't that cause diaper rash?
@Axai2012 (371)
31 Jul 12
I have read that the more you push your child to use the potty the more they will resist, because of power struggle. This is very interesting. Please refer on this link: I think it is very helpful. www.rogerknapp.com/medical/pottytrainingrefusal.htm. Good luck!
• Canada
31 Jul 12
Thank you for the response. I have heard of that, and we have tried to not push him. He will be 3 soon and I know of many little boys who are trained by 3. I guess patience is key though :)