I Just Don't Think It's Right...Part 2

Jacksonville, Florida
July 31, 2012 8:01am CST
So I just wanted to update everyone about the pregnant girl doing drugs and such... Well her boyfriend broke up with her yesterday. He said he was tired of trying to change her because she does not want to change herself. He got frustrated with her yesterday because he caught her doing something she should not have been doing...And he said she brings him down with his faith. So, if she doesn't straighten up he will get full custody when that baby is born. I feel bad for him and the baby, definitely not her. Do you think he made the right decision to walk away?
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• United States
31 Jul 12
Yes. The sad part is his thought that he could change her in the first place. It is tragic if he thought if he had a baby with her, she would change. Ah No! Like everything , real change comes from within and it is a personal choice. You can't bully a person or try to love them into it. If she is belittling him and he can't take that , he Should leave! Getting custody maybe hard but if he wants it , he should go for it. The scary part is that the baby maybe harmed by her behavior.Time will tell.
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• Jacksonville, Florida
1 Aug 12
Yeah he is young and still thinks he could change the world. Who am I to kill that dream? I wish I could change the world too, I just know better now that I can't. He has not learned that yet... I think he did think if he got her pregnant she would not want to hurt the baby. He was wrong for thinking that though. Now she is hurting herself AND the baby! =( She is definitely holding him back from things and he is tired of feeling like her dad instead of her love. Her own parents want nothing at all to do with her.
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• United States
2 Aug 12
She may not want the baby. Or, she doesn't know that what she takes in , the baby takes in. Or worse , she may not even care! Poor guy. He needs to find someone else. And when the baby comes , they could take the baby away from the birth mother. I say this if and Only if she doesn't change. she may change Who knows. Many a good mother didn't take care of herself during the pregnancy but turn themselves into damn good mothers. Time will tell.
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@Suggar (3612)
• Bulgaria
31 Jul 12
I believe that when people doesn't reach the point of understanding each other and making the best for themselves having in mind that the best for themselves is also the best for the other one, everyone has to be free to quit. Sometimes I feel that way, when my boyfriend doesn't pay attention to high higher blood pressure or also his higher weight, also I feel that he doesn't put too much attention into making a better thing about his kidney problems like stopping some foods which are not good for people who has this health problem. But I guess I accepted and liked him like that since we started, so I have no power to leave him now, 3 years after we have been together.
@alaskanray (4642)
• United States
31 Jul 12
I'm sure it was a hard decision for him to make but sometimes you just have to forget about the mother and concentrate on what is best for the child. I'm glad he is in a position to rescue his baby from a bad situation.
• Jacksonville, Florida
1 Aug 12
Yeah it was hard for him. He was crying when he called and told us. I felt so bad for him. She was definitely holding him back and he was tired of being more like a father to her rather than her lover.
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• United States
1 Aug 12
I can imagine.
@jillhill (37384)
• United States
5 Aug 12
You can't change someone who can't change themselves....so he did the right thing...she has to hit rock bottom before she will change. Maybe having the baby taken away will be a wake up call...or maybe not!
• Jacksonville, Florida
5 Aug 12
I completely agree with you. If she is not willing to change there is nothing anyone can do for her. She will have to hit rock bottom first.
• Philippines
2 Aug 12
hi LMB, Maybe even how much the guy loves the girl if the situation is like this we can't blame him for leaving her. The girl just give the guy a reason to leave her besides the guy maybe had too much this is sad happy mylotting
• Jacksonville, Florida
3 Aug 12
I don't blame him one bit. I would not have lasted with her as long as he did to be honest. I could not live that way. I am hoping he gets custody of the baby. It is so sad.