How can we choose Good Friends?

Good friends - How can we choose good friends? How can you benefit from them?
Philippines
July 31, 2012 5:40pm CST
An article in a magazine capture my attention because it talks about choosing friends. True friends are loyal and help you to do what is right. True friends also have the courage to correct you if they see that you are acting foolishly. Of course, we like to be accepted by others that's why we imitate those around us. Friends can can influence the sort of person we will become. I would be willing to know about your idea about choosing good friends. How can you benefit from good friends?:)
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@ryanong (9697)
• Vietnam
1 Aug 12
I need time to know a guy is a good friend or not...many guys talk nice but not really good in friendship, some rarely talk nice but they are truly a good friend.
@myfb2009 (8308)
• Malaysia
1 Aug 12
Ryan, for that kind of matter, only through time you will get to know which one is good friend and which is not suitable as our friend. I ever came across a few persons who possess that type characters. Only through time, i get to know which one of them i can keep as my good friend...
• Islamabad, Pakistan
1 Aug 12
There is no device to scan a person for friendship, but, the only device is your luck. if you are lucky you will find a good friend. why we failed to find a good friend? because we have some expectation from the person that we think "That is my friend". So, I said don't expect from your friend just care him/her. Thanks and be my friends for ever.
@ryanong (9697)
• Vietnam
2 Aug 12
Well, some guys are good with this person but not good with us, and friendship need sharing and caring also. I have some friends, we don't have a chance to talk everyday, but they are always around me whenever i need...and if they need me, i am always there for them. I met 100 friends, but with the time around 10 guys are good in friendship only...
@bjc66bjc (6746)
• United States
31 Jul 12
I think people most of the time chose people who have some of the characteristic that they don' have, yet someone that have a lot in common...I have 2 real great friends that I feel extremely close to and fond of them.. They know me, respect me and understand me...and likewise.. We secretly call ourselves " the three Diva's"...see we are all over 63 and we feel we can call ourselves anything we want....LOL
• Philippines
31 Jul 12
Hi bjc66bjc wow! amazing friendship. I hope I'll have that kind of friends too until I grow old. Great friends stay forever.:) Thanks and have a great day.
• Islamabad, Pakistan
1 Aug 12
Hi bjc66bjc You know why you like your fiends? because they like you. and the three precious worlds you use that "Know me, respect me and understand me" are the three successful ways to make friends. One of my elder said that it is very difficult to find a good friend in life, the person who have two good friends he is luckiest person in the world. so, I am so happy to hear that you have two good friends. Thanks and take care
@bjc66bjc (6746)
• United States
2 Aug 12
Hi tariq you are absolutely right,,you can't have real friendship if its a one way feeling..And I indeed feel very blessed when it comes to my friends....
• China
1 Aug 12
There is a saying gose like this, what friends you choose decide what fate you will have.That make the significante of friends in one's way more obvious.I believe that a real friend will not only accompany beside to share your happiness,but also stand back of you when you felt lost.He or she will told you honstly that everything will be ok,and if it's not ok, it;s not the end.That is what we call FRIEND.
1 Aug 12
Yes I agree with you, friends will influence our mind in some degree, so we need to choose the best friends in life. And also about loyality and trust, it is the most important beside communication.
• Philippines
4 Sep 12
Hello friends Thanks for sharing your thoughts and ideas here. I believe too that loyalty and trust is is important in friendship. If you trust each other then whatever happened your relationships will stay stronger same with loyalty too.
@KrauseHome (29175)
• United States
2 Sep 12
Good friends are very important when it comes to living life. Especially people who you can count on no matter what. Many women also need one they can talk with and rely on no matter what is going on in their life. The best way in choosing best friends often depends on who you can relate with the most and have things in common with. It varies as we get older but someone you can count on no matter what is going on in your life is always the best.
• Philippines
3 Sep 12
Hello KrauseHome Your words are really true. We all need friends whose always ready to help no matter what happen. Thanks and have a great day..^_^
@Hillxuan (77)
• China
9 Aug 12
making a true friend is worth celebrating.during our lives,we will get some correct suggestions.it's a weathy for everyone.true friend will point out the faults that you made.true friends may not contact frequently.but once you face big troubles,they will help you at time.make friends are so hard because of made friend is true friends
• Philippines
10 Aug 12
That's right Hillxuan We can always count on them and it's really hard to find one. Though they're living in distant part but they're always be there for us..
@lifes97 (885)
• United Arab Emirates
1 Aug 12
hi, i guess you can not choose really the friends or you can say the goods ones of frinds because they will be good at first and later you will find that you was not correct about them, so i think because some friends have different faces for many situations you will not be able to find the good friends unless you are in a situation where you find the real friend is really beside you and thought that situation is affecting him or her badely they will be there for you no matter what
• Philippines
2 Aug 12
hi lifes97 Friends come in different races and culture.. and if we find one we should keep and treasure them..;0 thanks and have a great day
@airasheila (5461)
• Philippines
1 Aug 12
hi there litvillegas, well, it is quite hard to choose good friends now a days especially if you are already an adult. since you are becoming choosy and sometimes hesitant to express who you really are. although you are showing your good traits but it sometimes hide what your real attitude is. maybe, the only thing you can say he/she is a good friend if he/she didn't show any disgusting attitude towards.
• Philippines
2 Aug 12
hi airasheila yup absolutely true!! thanks airasheila Have a wonderful day
@paulli3 (312)
• China
1 Aug 12
you want to choose good friends, in fact, it is easy, if you think someone is your good friend, then he or she is. actually, you feel happy when you get along with your good friends, and you always have same habit, you like same things, and you are no stress when you face your good friends, you trust them and you are willing to share good things with them, if you have people can do these, they are your good friends.
• Philippines
4 Sep 12
Hello Paulli3 Yeah,usually close friends share the same habit,like and dislikes,. Thanks and have a great day..:)
• China
1 Aug 12
Last night,one of my best friend got angry at me because i was absent from her birthday party.I sent her message to apologize and she refused to reply.I have no idea how to account for my disgust with this kind of party. We become good friends at the first time we met in the middle school.It's really a precious friendship for both of us .This affair make me feel sad and i begin to think deeply what is friendship? How should we maintain it ? In my opinion ,Friend is who dry your eyes when you cry,give his hands when you shiver,cheer for you once you get success.Share happiness with your friends, The happiness will increase to double.On the other hand, Don't be hesitate to her when you feel sad .Then the sadness will decrease to half .That's just the magic power of friendship.Becides,understanding and faith will be the key to keep it. As for me, i will try my best to ask for excuse from my friends.I would like to have a heart to heart communication with her.
• Philippines
4 Sep 12
Hello Joyce Thank you very much for sharing your magic power of friendship.:) Yeah! I absolutely agree with you, understanding,faith and trust are the key to have a successful friendship. Have a great day^_^
@debbygirl (214)
• Philippines
1 Aug 12
I think good friends can be tested in time. I mean, you cannot say someone is your good or best friend if you only new him/her for 3 months and would see that person twice a month. I mean, friendship can be tested by time.
• Philippines
1 Aug 12
Hi debbygirl Two thumbs up for that...(V).If you know the person for many months or even a year you would know if he/she is a good friend..:) Have a great day
@myfb2009 (8308)
• Malaysia
1 Aug 12
Lit, good friends are that type of friends who will be with you nor matter you are in what situation. Besides that, they must be a very understanding person, to be able to communicate without any problem. Although i only have one good friend in my life but i am happy with it. Because we had went through thick and thin from childhood until now and we still keep in touch. Although sometimes we might disagree on certain matter but at last we are back together again.
• Philippines
1 Aug 12
Hi myfb2009 It's nice to have a childhood friend. Conflicts between friends are just spices in our life..:) It's a test how strong is your friendship... Have a great day..^_^
@Paper_Doll (2376)
• Philippines
1 Aug 12
Be careful in selecting your friends. You have to consider some aspects before choosing one because friends can greatly influence our attitude and personality as a whole. What you have mentioned above are all true. Because we wanted other people to accept us, we tend to change our personality so we could fit to them. And sometimes, we forgot to consider if it is right or wrong. So choosing our friends is something that we should have to think first because there are friends that would lead you to the wrong path. A good friend on the other hand, like you have mentioned, would guide you do the what is right and would stand to that no matter what. And never try to hide your friends from your parents. Let you parents meet them and know more about them. They would help you decide if they are good for you or not. The bible is also a good guide on how we could choose our friends. Try to read them and learn from the examples from the book.
• Philippines
1 Aug 12
Hello Paper_Doll Thank you for your wonderful thought. Yeah you're absolutely right! Parents can help us to choose good friends. Bible has set a good example of friendship.Like Jonathan and David,:) Thanks and have a great day
• Philippines
1 Aug 12
Your post reminded me of three very good friends of mine at work who were transferred to different branches. We used to call ourselves "THE ORIGINALS" . This is because we were the pioneers of the company in our branch. Our group consist of our very own manager and we, three, lead officers. We used to enjoy just being at the office because then we'll start and end the day with our echoing laughs as we work. But those were the days, and now, we are all separated from each other because of work too. My firs two friends were transferred to two different branches and we all cried so much when they left. We couldn't do anything because it was the company's directive. We were all crying because we'd be separated from each other and them, from their families, as well. After a few years, my manager was also transferred to another branch and like before, we couldn't refuse to what was happening. I was left alone to make new friends. Much as I'd like to, I find it really hard to find friends who will equal any of my three far friends. I have new colleagues with whom I also share with but deep inside, I long to develop the same friendship that I've had with them. I don't know if it's me or them but I still can't say they're as good enough for me as those three before. :(
• Philippines
1 Aug 12
Hello thersdae_me Very touching story..Thanks for sharing.. You really have true friends and even though you are separated each other it's not the hindrance to stay connected with them. You can have new friends but old friends will stay in your heart. Same with me I have a lot of long distance friends and even though I meet new friends I'm still longing for them.
@kingparker (9700)
• United States
1 Aug 12
It is really hard to find a good friend in life. A good friend won't need to be many, one or two maybe enough. For me, personally, I don't have much good friends. Most of the people I know of, I won't call them friends, maybe just acquaintance, or the same category. Good friend is the person as you described above. And they don't existed many in this world.
• Philippines
1 Aug 12
Hi Kingparker Thanks for your idea. Nowadays it's really hard to find good and true friends that's why we need to treasure if we find one. Have a wonderful day