Negotiating Options for my Mother's Monthly Allowance
August 2, 2012 2:13am CST
Since I got married, I've been providing for my mother's financial needs, because she has no other source of income, and she'd be too old to work. However, I've stopped working since end of last year, and would have to think of other ways to continue providing for her. Recently, I also gave her a small capital for a small business, where she could get some profit for her savings for emergency use. Before I left work, however, I have saved some amount enough to cover her allowance for the whole of 2012. I plan to get an online job, to have my own earnings, and have the capacity to continue supporting my mother. It's already the middle of the year, and I'm still not comfortable getting a full time online job, while taking care of my newborn. And, I may even need until middle of next year to start working. So, I've thought of asking for her cooperation and proposed to reduce the amount I give her every month, so that the balance left could still sustain till May or June of next year. And, she could temporarily use her profit from the business to help sustain her monthly needs. I hope she understands my intention, and not think of any negative thoughts out of it. Afterall, this will only be until I find another source just to be able to provide for her.
3 Aug 12
Hi, You are really a loving great daughter and I wish everybody should read and understand your discussion here. I appreciate your kindness and willingness to help your mom and you will be always blessed with your mom. One I read your discussion, I just rang up my mom and talked her for sometime and enquired about her good health. She is now living with one of my sister and aged. I know how much my mother loved and cared when we were so young. Many children never take care about their aged parents and this is the worst what they can do for their loving children. I can understand your position and even think that your mother also will understand your situation. However, as this is the case, you can openly talk to your mom that you are in a little bit short of money and whatever with the current situation, you are providing and once you are stable, you can provide a better help to mom, and I am much sure that she will agree to you. Warm regards
6 Aug 12
Thanks for the reassuring words you shared. It makes me feel better to know that other people appreciate what Im trying to do for my mother. And, I really do hope my mother understands that at the end of this all, I only want to make sure that I can continue helping her financially, and that I would never leave her hanging in the air.
6 Aug 12
There are few such daughers in these days and I am much sure that you will get such a great return from your own' daughets in the coming times. All the best for your loving mom and you as well. I really appreciate your state of mind and hope you will get a lot of money to help your mom and a better living for yourself. Regards
3 Aug 12
I was pleased by your interest with your mother and your care to her , and try to help them financially, despite your circumstances .. God bless you Speak with her , tell her circumstances and that this would be temporary and once you get a job will increase the amount again , she certainly will appreciate it .
6 Aug 12
I think she just got used to the times when I was still working and could pretty easily give her anything she needed. I even give her shopping money ocassionaly. I really want to give her the best I can, as much as possible. I just have to get a good online job, soon, so I can continue to make her happy.