Her Wedding..should I come or not?

Philippines
August 3, 2012 3:44am CST
I have been thinking if I should come or not on her wedding day. For the past years, I had some heat argument with her and after that we never talked to each other until now. I still could not forget of everything she said to me...all the insults and being underestimated. I was devastated of what she did. But past is past. I know I should forget everything and forgive her. She didn't invite me in person but she told someone I knew that we should go there. I think I have to go. I don't want to miss this part of her life. Who knows, maybe we'll be fine later. Happy mylotting!
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18 responses
@Raine38 (9050)
• United States
3 Aug 12
You said she just invited you through another person? I think you should wait for the actual invitation that has your name on it that you are indeed invited; at least that's what I will do if I were in your shoes. If we didn't talk for a long time, and the last time we did is even during an argument, I will be needing some more concrete proof that she indeed wants me to attend her special day. It's just that I don't want to feel awkward there, not knowing what to expect. But then you know her better than anyone else, so it's still your call. =)
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@chiumee (851)
• Philippines
4 Aug 12
it's your call. but i agree with Raine38. the most i can do is to send her a greeting card congratulating her on her wedding day. maybe i can even request the person who invited me to hand deliver the card to your friend. i just can't go there without being personally invited.
@mtrguanlao (5527)
• Philippines
3 Aug 12
Hi there! Honestly,I don't usually go to occasions when there is no direct invitation from the person,be it written or just vocal. You said she insulted you,what if she will insult you again when you attend her wedding since you were not directly invited by her? If she really is sincere in reconciling with you,she should have given you an invitation card or call you. But hey,this action is for me,this is me..you are not like me. I am not saying what you're gonna do is wrong. Your decision is just a sign of making things into what should be in a friendship. I know friends do quarrel at times but if both persons have high pride,their friendship will just go to waste. You can try attending to her wedding and reconcile. That might lead to a new and better friendship,who knows!
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@lady1993 (15622)
• Philippines
9 Aug 12
Yeah, that happens only once, or a few more times in a person's life anyway-- i hope it's just once.. Maybe you can fully reconcile with her if you attend.. You can become closer again and mend your relationship.
@svjomboy (876)
• Philippines
9 Aug 12
Real friends will hold through good and bad times,my advice is i think you should to go that's her memorable moments you should to support her even through bad times better to do forget and forgive!!! That's friends are for....
@Daisy_22 (1230)
• Philippines
5 Aug 12
If you are ready to face the consequences you might experience then why not?It might be one move to get back the way you were used to before.Tess, it's one way of letting that pain inside your heart gone. It's a must for you to be able to feel the true happiness in your life without any pretentions.It's not as easy as saying hi! but be strong just like saying goodbye to the person you love. Conquer your fear by facing the things your afraid of.
• Philippines
4 Aug 12
I won't. specially if she would say horrible things, if my brother would say things to me like that there's no way i would ever see them again. besides, YOU SACRIFICE A LOT as far as i can remember in your past discussions. there's nothing wrong missing parts of others life. i mean? WHAT ABOUT YOUR LIFE? should you fill it first?
• Indonesia
4 Aug 12
do you ever be a close friend to her?? if yes, then coming is wise decision even you have never talked each other for long. even this can be good started for both of you to open new curtain and fix your friendship. but my advice, you should wait official invitation from her too
@shylade (3138)
• Philippines
4 Aug 12
The fact that she don't invite you personally but she wants you to be there is showing she must already regret what she had done to you. You are right. Past is past. Holding grudges is not healthy. Just go and greet her. I know it will give you a lighter feeling after making up with her.
@Byamee (84)
• India
4 Aug 12
Waiting for the real invitation will be the best idea. If she was so eager to invite you, take you back into her life then she could have called you, but she does this through a friend. Its her special day and she might have just said it in a conversation to save face. So think before you leap or might end up embarassing yourself and her. Try and plan a surprise encounter with her and see the reaction, that should tell you everything. All the best!
@chum24 (569)
• Philippines
4 Aug 12
afterall you must forget it we just only a human even god forgive us, you must forgive her as you said past is past go to her wedding day maybe that day she will apologize to you and say sorry for what she have done to you. its a right time for you to talk to her and you may fix whatever happen.
@ryanong (9697)
• Vietnam
4 Aug 12
If i were in your shoes, i won't go...because she didn't invite you in person or makes a phone call to you tell about it It is not a normal party, it is the wedding, then i will go when i am invited only...
• Philippines
4 Aug 12
Hello girl! I think it's alright if you'll attend to her wedding. She might be happy to see you and some of your friends on the very special day of her life. I hope whatever bad things happened in the past be put to oblivion for the sake of you friendship. Just be positive. Have a great weekend! :)
@Bhebelen14 (4561)
• Philippines
3 Aug 12
I think you should you, this is the right time for you and for her to fix whatever happened in the past between the two of you. Inviting you through other person showing that she really want to see you and become part of her special moment of her life.All the things that happened in the past need to forget and move on.
• India
3 Aug 12
Hi friend, as you mentioned she didn't invited you personally, then why you are interested in going her wedding? you don't get any benefits by going as an uninvited guest, if i am in your position, i never go to this kind of uninvited marriages, i just pass my wishes through our common friend and provide a presentation through him.
• Philippines
3 Aug 12
Yes, you have to go because she invited you even not personally. We have to forgive and forget. I hope your relationship will be okay soon. If you are friends, just remember the happy moments together. Those insults, maybe, she just told you because she got angry and the argument was at its heat sothe only thing she wanted was to hurt you. Give her another chance.
• China
3 Aug 12
Yes past is past,so why not just forget the unhappy stuff and move on,at least,you two can also be friends cause you two know each other so much and stay together for such a long time,so if it is me I will come to her wedding day,that is the most important day for her so anyhow she want your wish and congratulation.
@hsofyan (3452)
• Jakarta, Indonesia
3 Aug 12
A wise decision. You really should come, to show that you have forgiven him, high-minded and have a future. I am sure you will invite many guests sympathy.
• Philippines
3 Aug 12
go on the right side. i am sure she also knows that there is a gap between you. and one way to keep everything ok is by inviting you. i also believe that it will yield a positive results between the both of you if you will show yourself at the wedding. always be thankful of the moment that there is somebody seeking forgiveness from you. its one way of God wanting to forgive you of your sin. Blessed are the merciful for he or she shall be forgiven.