Lied to ....

@hsofyan (3448)
Jakarta, Indonesia
August 3, 2012 7:49am CST
As a junior, I don't live with my family. At first they were kind to me, but over time, I was treated like a housemaid. Then I think to earn money and live independently. Completed the lesson, I was selling ice cream. For that I am always late getting home. I was lying on the delay. I said, there are additional lessons, extra curricular activities, study groups, etc.. I need to find a reason to not upset homeowners. Homeowners have almost drove me mad and when I say that I was late getting home because playing with friends (because I ran out of reasons). It took me a year to raise money, as the capital of commerce and live independently. I Wrong?
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@indahfth (11173)
• Indonesia
3 Aug 12
You are not wrong. I also did the same thing as you. Since elementary school I was living away from parents. I live with someone else, and work with that person. I rarely get together with my parents. I often feel guilty, because leaving my parents. But, for school, and ease the burden of parents, my guilt a little lost.
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@hsofyan (3448)
• Jakarta, Indonesia
3 Aug 12
Is it the same as when I lie with the owner of the house, where I live?
@indahfth (11173)
• Indonesia
4 Aug 12
Sorry. I do not understand, you mean.
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@hsofyan (3448)
• Jakarta, Indonesia
4 Aug 12
Sorry, my english may be bad. I talk about my lies, to the owner of the house where I live. I did that so that I can raise money for independent living. My question, is it wrong if I have to lie in this case?
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• Indonesia
4 Aug 12
I think you were not wrong, you did it because you did not like to be treated as a housemaid by the homeowners, you wanted freedom and live by your own without anyone used you as housemaid without payment. I think they took advantage of you, they let you stay but they wanted you to be their maid without payment, that is totally wrong. We heard a lot of similar cases as yours, at first they were kind but then as the time goes they show their true purpose which is take advantage of innocent student and used the student as housemaid but without salary.
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@hsofyan (3448)
• Jakarta, Indonesia
4 Aug 12
Maybe they think, feed and bedding are worth the salary. At that time I was only 12 years old and had not thought about salary.
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• Indonesia
4 Aug 12
You were so young and was so innocent that is why they used you, I hate this kind of people if they really meant to help other people they should do it sincerely and not using the underage to work for them without salary. But Im glad that you fought to gain your freedom and living by your own.
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@hsofyan (3448)
• Jakarta, Indonesia
4 Aug 12
Maybe they didn't mean it like that. Only slowly, step by step, they need more help. As this happens over a period of 1 year. I don't want to hold a grudge with them. At least they have helped me. Thank you for your attention, FF.
@Greninee (369)
• Philippines
4 Aug 12
I can say it's not wrong to be independent. You are just lying because you have a good reason and it's not wrong.I can say that you are a strong person...I can see that you've been struggling in your life,,...never ever give up..follow what your heart tells you and never be afraid to try and do your best.
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@hsofyan (3448)
• Jakarta, Indonesia
4 Aug 12
Thank you for your comment. But, you are flattering me. I'm not great like that. Many mistakes in my life, and I continue to learn to not repeat the same mistakes.
@dazzledlady (1624)
• Philippines
4 Aug 12
We are taught that lying will always be wrong. But the truth is, we all lie. We lie for different reasons, it maybe to goodness or bad. I cannot be a judge for your actions but I think you are right on not giving up on what the world laid infront of you. You strive hard to be where you are now . A person must never be confine in the circumstances they are in if they want to improve. Maybe it was wrong to lie to them because you were giving them headaches with the lies and its right for you to repay them for staying with them. Maybe its right because they are overstepping your rights as a person. You alone will know which is which but if the deed was done then I think its about time to move on , look forward to your new life. If you feel guilty about shat you did, then talk to them and explain your side. If they are good people, they will understand and if not, well not your lost anymore. You did what you think is best for you to survive.
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@hsofyan (3448)
• Jakarta, Indonesia
4 Aug 12
Husband and wife owners of the house had passed away. But I see their children on Facebook. They greeted me with a friendly (they are under my age). Now they have been in my friends list on Facebook. Another time, I will meet them to tell you all this.
@Suggar (3612)
• Bulgaria
3 Aug 12
I am very sorry that you had to grow up so early, when usually people has their parents caring for them and all their needs and they are able to educate and so on. BUT I believe that you did the right thing for yourself and you are not wrong. Growing up earlier than usual is little sad, it happened to me too because of other reasons, but what a childhood now-a-days kids has - playing computer games or all day in front of the TV watching movies like zombies. I don't mean to insult anyone, but my childhood was not like that. We played with the kids outside of home and we had amazing summer vacations off school.
@hsofyan (3448)
• Jakarta, Indonesia
4 Aug 12
The best thing is normal growth, following the age. Grow faster or slower, is equally difficult. Difficulties that must be realized, for a balancing act.
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