Possible Goodbye

@MandaLee (3738)
United States
August 4, 2012 1:00pm CST
I am leaving for vacation tomorrow. It could not come at a better time. Sadly, a member is being disrespectful on my discussions for no reason and I am very disappointed about it. What action can I take? I may leave mylot altogether. I am sorry if I hurt or offended anyone.
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@mommyboo (13198)
• United States
4 Aug 12
Just ignore the person or report them. This place is full of trolls and people who just enjoy being pests. I see it all the time and unless they are taking digs at friends and I SEE it, or personally following me around and digging at me, I try to ignore it. They WANT a response or to see they have annoyed you, so it's better to act like you didn't see it at all, or even better not to see it. Sometimes I have not returned to reply to postings in a thread BECAUSE I know somebody went in there to harrass me because they disagree with whatever I posted lol. Doesn't really matter much if I never see it, does it?
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@MandaLee (3738)
• United States
5 Aug 12
I will ignore them.
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@mommyboo (13198)
• United States
6 Aug 12
Good! Please don't allow someone lousy to ruin your experience here or cause you to leave! I am always sad when someone leaves in response to troll behavior or bullying, because the person who SHOULD leave is not the victim!! The person causing the issue should leave or be forced to leave instead lol.
@Micmac (8997)
4 Aug 12
Don't be discouraged and I hope you don't leave mylot. Some mean bully had a big kick being disrespectful on my discussion before and I told him off in a pm. He didn't stop me from mylotting by any means. I was thinking doesn't he have anything better to do with himself than to pick on me? So, I go on my merry way and let sleeping dogs lie. Some people want to make a big show to hurt others instead of acting and settling a different opinion in a kind manner. Those kind of bully types should watch their own character for it becomes their destiny. Manda, you have many good mylot friends here so think of them and just don't give that bully any attention.
@MandaLee (3738)
• United States
4 Aug 12
Thank you.
@Micmac (8997)
5 Aug 12
thanks dear for the BR! Have a nice vacation!
@Graceekwenx (3163)
• Philippines
5 Aug 12
Hi Mandalee. Leave the bad stuff behind. You cant shove Mylot just because of some nasty and insensitive members here, I get some of those too. If you leave Mylot, you will be leaving the good ones as well, and i dont think they deserve that. Besides, I like your topics. We need better posters here. hehehehe.
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@MandaLee (3738)
• United States
5 Aug 12
No, they don't. Thank you so much!
@GreenMoo (11842)
5 Aug 12
Enjoy your holiday and forget about it. Some people find it easy to be mean spirited online when they don't have to look you in the eye, and some people just don't realise that they're hurting someone with their words. I haven't seen the discussions in question so I can't comment, but either way I'm sure it's not worth walking away from all the nice people you've come to know here.
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@thanks1961 (7046)
• India
5 Aug 12
This is a common platform, world-wide and he/she is not the only person here and there are millions of others taking part. Pleas understand that people are different in view, opinion, thinking etc. and they may react in their own view, which we need not bother much on it. Even I had few similar experience and the day onward, I simply ignored them and that is the best reaction for it. What you do if someone you don't like in your office? Classroom etc? Only because of they are there, you cannot resign and quit or you can't simply change the classroom. Just ignore or avoid such people, and go ahead more straight. As long as we are true and correct, why? why should we go back or take a diversion? That means we are running away from the situations. So, from my point of you, simply because of such an incident, you need to be more strong and precises which will make them jealous... This is the best treatment for such people... But, I can understand your feelings too!
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• Philippines
5 Aug 12
People see a whole in different angles, front view, side view, top and bottom view. There are those who will affirm, confirm, be an ally to our ideas, but there those who think the opposite because they encountered or experienced differently. So, when someone will think negative or bad about you, just accept his/her opinion. Every person has the right to his/her opinion. From that point, you can have a good discussion. My daughter also experienced such a situation that made her cool off, but I told her, this is the your chance to see the effect of things unto others. My advise is don't leave mylot, continue to share your opinions. Everyone in free to air his/her nuts, remember.....
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@much2say (39688)
• United States
4 Aug 12
Hey MandaLee! Aw - don't go! I don't know what the situation is, but don't let one member get you down. There is a report abuse button [!] but honestly I've never used it - and I don't know exactly where myLot draws the line when it comes to "disrespect". I've had my share of hearing some rough words - but eh - these people are just saying what's on their minds like everyone else - remember we always have the choice of listening or not. I know these punches can sometimes hurt - but seriously, don't let it get to you personally . . . just ignore such comments. But don't leave myLot altogether over "a" disrespectful member!!
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@enelym001 (8333)
• Philippines
4 Aug 12
HI Amanda, You might be feeling hurt by words told to you by a fellow member, but that should not be a reason for you to leave myLot. Things like that happen... if you hurt them with something you wrote, or someone did not like what you wrote, just ignore and continue with what you;re doing here. We all have the liberty here to write what we want as long as we are not violating its guidelines. Btw, enjoy your vacation!
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@grenzy8 (183)
• Philippines
4 Aug 12
Hi mandalLee, I know that you are now experiencing some kind of internal trouble just because you feel that you have hurt someone. PLease bare in mind that in this world no matter how good you can be there are still someone who will not appreciate you at all because you cannot please everybody. Now, if you leave mylot just because of this person who was being disrespectful with your discussion then let him be that's her character, it's not worth it. Don't show to anyone that your weak enough to be troubled by this nega type of person, you won't be happy,I tell you. Just enjoy mylotting with all your heart.
@hsofyan (3448)
• Jakarta, Indonesia
4 Aug 12
Your: discussions started: 89 discussions answered: 1385 number of friends: 585 number of interests: 204 became member 4 years ago 1,134 profile views all-time Why because someone hurt you, then you leave us? Whether one is more meaningful than us?
@MandaLee (3738)
• United States
4 Aug 12
You are so right. I won't let that drive me away.
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@hsofyan (3448)
• Jakarta, Indonesia
5 Aug 12
Thank goodness. Together we face "he/she". Stay tuned and GBU
• United States
4 Aug 12
I hope you report the post to mylot and don't leave. We love having you here.I don't know why people have to be so rude to others for no good reason. Please don't leave the site. get some cooling off time and return with nothing like this on your mind.
@MandaLee (3738)
• United States
4 Aug 12
Thank you, Sharon. I reported the person. I am just hurt. I'll be back in 9 days, my friend.
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• United States
5 Aug 12
I hope you have a safe time and come back feeling better than now. take care.
@blue65packer (11835)
• United States
6 Aug 12
I hope you don't leave Mylot! I have seen to many good people leave! Reasons like they get frustrated to easily,no time,to busy with life and some keep coming and going! I know I am going to one who is never going to leave! I am hear to stay!
@MandaLee (3738)
• United States
6 Aug 12
I won't. Thanks for your kind words.
• United States
5 Aug 12
Don't give up just because one person is being nasty. It shows they are immature. Sorry that they are causing you such grief. Big hugs to you. Wish there was a way we could block certain people from viewing and commenting on our posts.
@MandaLee (3738)
• United States
6 Aug 12
Elusive, You are so right. Thank you so very much!
@celticeagle (118560)
• Boise, Idaho
5 Aug 12
Why would any Mylot person be disrespectful in any of your discussions? You always have nice discussions and nothing off beast or weird. No reason for anyone to come in and make bad comments. I am really sorry about this. I would truly hate to see you leave Mylot. I hope that when you get back from your vacation things are different and you will decide to stay.
@MandaLee (3738)
• United States
6 Aug 12
Thanks for your kind comments, celtic.
@moneywinner (1866)
• Brazil
4 Aug 12
Ignore it. Like you would do in real life that we ignore people that we don't like or people that keep constantly bothering us, just ignore this person and don't answer her/his answers on your discussions.
@MandaLee (3738)
• United States
4 Aug 12
Thank you.
@GardenGerty (100344)
• United States
4 Aug 12
Manda Lee, this is a problem you report to Admin. Use that ! button. I do not usually come to your discussions because they are not always things I have something to say about, but I will go look for this person. It should not drive you away. They should leave.
@MandaLee (3738)
• United States
4 Aug 12
Gerty, I never do this, but I reported them to mylot. Thanks so much!
@Suggar (3612)
• Bulgaria
4 Aug 12
I am not position to take any side, because you both are my friends. But if by any chance I get into your shoes, I would ask myself why this happens. And then I would try to find the reason in myself.
@MandaLee (3738)
• United States
4 Aug 12
Suggar, There isn't a reason. That's the problem.
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@dorannmwin (36698)
• United States
7 Aug 12
I really don't know what it is that you have going on with this other member of the site. Because of that, I don't really know what you can do about it. The best thing that I might be able to suggest is that if the person is still being disruptive toward you when you get back from your vacation would be to start a new profile and to try to avoid this person whenever you can. It is a sad but true fact that there are always trolls when you are a member of a forum like mylot.
• Jacksonville, Florida
6 Aug 12
I have let someone do this to me in the past and I swore I would never let anyone else take me from here again. I completely ignore the rude responses now, this way it does not get to me so much. If someone is being rude to you it is their problem not yours. Ignore them! You are a sweet person who deserves nothing but kindness. Don't let one person ruin it for you. That is what they essentially want. Cheer up, I hope your vacation is amazing and I hope to see you back here again soon!
@marguicha (97244)
• Chile
6 Aug 12
A difference of opinion doess not mean lack of respect. And if you feel you are not doing anything wrong, there´s no reason to leave. In this site there are all kinds of people. Some of them think as we do, some don´t. To have a different point of view is normal, specially in this site where there are people from all countries and cultures. Have fun on your vacatuions! Life is beautiful!