He Was A Big Fraud .. :(

@Dassodils (2013)
India
August 4, 2012 1:57pm CST
Hai friends.. First of all I hope that no one will experience like my friend had..My friend had a lover..they both were classmates..Then the years passed.Then they joined in different colleges..I was really wondering by s seeing their relationship..After joining at different college,He was not contacting her..She always had that complaint on that time..Then now,after one year she recognized his character really from his friend..She got some proofs that he have other love in his present college..She was just like a mental patient on that time..She cried a lot..and also knew that he was a big fraud that cheating girls.. Thank god..My friend have no any bad experience from him..Girls was his weakness.. By hearing her experience I become very upset..Before 2 days I heard the same experience from other girl.. means another friend..Now I think that It's really tough to believe any one in this world.. If this condition is repeating,How we can believe any one??This situation can be happen to any one.. I am really sad..I am in a sad mood..I think that you will also have such experiences to share with me..If not,what do you think about this topic?? How to recognize such frauds?? How to avoid them??? You suggestions please..
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@indahfth (11173)
• Indonesia
5 Aug 12
Luckily, they were not married. If married, the more grief felt. I experienced the same thing, but I experienced when I was married. It made ??me very sick, and depressed. I also do not believe it to be, with all men. Because, I often, find a man like that. Very difficult, to deal with problems like this. Because hurts is very difficult to cure. I can not give any advice on this issue. Because, I also need advice, to deal with problems like this.
@Dassodils (2013)
• India
5 Aug 12
Oh.. May god bless you my dear friend.. Try to speak the problem with him..Make a open talk and solve the problem..All the best..
@indahfth (11173)
• Indonesia
5 Aug 12
We are in the process, improve our relationships. Pain, disappointment, and anger, still can not lose. But, I tried, to improve our relationship. For sake of my son, I forget all my pain. And tried to start a new life.
@prashu228 (22865)
• India
5 Aug 12
hello, very disgusting, many people try to use others and play with their feelings, thank God , your friend is lucky enough to know his deeds. we all should be alert, as days are not safe at all, especially for a girls.
@Dassodils (2013)
• India
5 Aug 12
You are correct dear friend.. I am not alright by hearing her matter..and I said this to all my friends who have boyfriend.. All should be very careful of ourselves..Otherwise they will cheat us in any way..The trap will not be clear to us.. :(
• India
5 Aug 12
That is not a true love. It is one side love. Some men and women are doing like this. That's why parents hate the concept of love. If parents made advice that is never heard by childs but when they cross the situation then only parents advice comes to their mind. Before you love a man or women first throughly enquire about him or her details with family and friends. If your love is true tell it to parents they will enquire about the boy or girl and give their opinion. Afterthat you will decide. If parents did not accept your love wait till their acceptance because if you have any problem after getting married they will come and solve your problems. So, in my opinion first believe parents love with you after that you take decsions. Parents are not oppose to love if they feel the girl or boy character is good they will never hesitate and act as per your wish.
@Dassodils (2013)
• India
5 Aug 12
That's true.Both families know this matter..she had gone to his house.On that time there had his mom..she know all theses matters..But now..I don't know that what happened to them..Really sad..She is in a bad mood.. :(
• United States
5 Aug 12
I heard love is the greatest and worst feeling in the world. I believe that is true. There really is no way of knowing if a person is the right one at first. The only way to find out is to actually date and take a chance. The more chances taken, the more experience someone can have to determine who is the right person. The hardest part for me is to accept the results and to move on. Good and bad things happen in all relationships.
@Dassodils (2013)
• India
5 Aug 12
I just cant believe that thing..I don't know that How can I console her..Its really cruel..How he could to do this to her..She loves him than every one..
@Jennib1 (62)
• South Africa
4 Aug 12
Yes it is true that there are men and women that are not what they seem be in this life and easily mislead people. But there are also people that have values and are trustworthy. I think if you had to meet someone that you liked it is a good idea to do a bit of research on that person. You could possibly find out a bit more about his past or what type of person he is from people that know him. If you are socializing in a group you could also look and see how he treats his friends or other girls. If a person is pretending to be someone he isn't eventually he will be exposed by his actions.
@Dassodils (2013)
• India
5 Aug 12
Daily..A lot of people are falling in the trap of such boys.. :( all should be very alert by keeping ourselves from such bad people.. :(
• United States
4 Aug 12
THis is very hard to deal with. She had to see some kind so fsigns that he was cheating on her. I think she ignored them and this is why she was hurt by this guy. I hope by now she is over him because it is not agood sign of loving someone.
@Dassodils (2013)
• India
4 Aug 12
Ya..At first time when I heard this,I was shocked..Because We didn't expected this from him..My friend now cries a lot always..She is not interested on studying some thing..She will be sitting idle at a corner of the classroom..Then we will go to her..and will say some other things for diverting her thoughts..But after some time,I find her on the same thing..Really sad to see her on this condition..
@dorannmwin (36697)
• United States
7 Aug 12
I really believe that there are far more people that will cheat on their love than we will ever know about. The reason that I think that this is the case, especially in cases where the relationship becomes a distance relationship is because of the fact that it is easy to forget about your other love when you are not there with your lover. With that said, I think that it is difficult to recognize people that are frauds like this if you are the one that is in the relationship with the fraudster.
• Jacksonville, Florida
6 Aug 12
Let me tell you, my husband and I met a fraud first hand. He was VERY good at what he did. He acted like he was a devout Christian and just needed a little help. We sent him money trying to help, we thought he was a legit guy struggling. Right after we sent him money, he called a few days later and asked for more. We told him we did not have anything else to send him and we have not heard from him since then! It hurt us because we thought he was a good guy. We thought we would become friends. Some people are VERY good at what they do. It is so hard to trust anyone these days. A scary world we live in...
@pahak627 (4203)
• Philippines
6 Aug 12
There are really men like that. We can not recognize a man who truly loves a woman. There are instances that a woman though she sees that the man seems to be defrauding her she can not feel it because of her big love for that man.
@freqspaz (220)
• United States
4 Aug 12
The best thing I can say to avoid people like that is to get to know them BEFORE you get into a relationship. Sometimes that could take months or even a year for their true colors to show. Going out on dates, movies dinners and stuff is how you get to know that person. I made the mistake of marry a 'fraud' like that, because I didn't take the time to get to know him, now we are divorced and I am not even 30 yet. I can also say that by taking a long time to get to know someone stops heart ache, because it allows your heart time to decide if you really do love that person. Instead of saying "YES I LOVE HIM" only to find out later that you don't then you are the fraud because you are trying to keep it up and you try to make yourself love him, when you really don't which makes you miserable. Good luck and be careful with your heart, it's the only one you have.