People standing there getting Enjoyment out of Someones Tragedy...

@Jshean20 (14367)
Canada
August 6, 2012 9:52pm CST
I've noticed so often when people are going through a tragedy of some sort like a house fire for example, people will stand there and socialize with their friends as they watch someone lose everything they own. I can't imagine being the victim of a fire and watching people standing there for entertainment as you lose everything. Have you ever witnessed anything similar to this? What happened? Thanks for commenting.
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• United States
7 Aug 12
I've seen effects of things like those situations and people gossip and get pleasure out of a situation like that. I think as humans some of us are just drawn to experiences like this and find it thrilling. For instance I remember on an Anderson episode there were people who were obsessed with collecting and selling items from murder scenes and things like that. They not only enjoyed the cases but they even sold items from the killings.
@Jshean20 (14367)
• Canada
7 Aug 12
Is Anderson a crime show of some sort, I haven't heard of it? Thanks for commenting.
• United States
7 Aug 12
No, its a talk show. Anderson Coopers new show called Anderson. It had a full season and its coming back soon. I actually went to one of the filmings in New York. The one where the cast of the movie 50/50 was on. I got to hear Seth Rogans laugh in person haha. Anderson was really nice and stayed after and answered questions when he didn't have to. He's also more pale in person but very handsome.
@Jshean20 (14367)
• Canada
7 Aug 12
Oh OK. Seth Rogan is a funny actor, I bet hearing his laugh in person was really something.
@Suggar (3612)
• Bulgaria
7 Aug 12
Jshean20, hello. I have seen this many times, I don't think that people who are watching are there for entertainment. I think there is a deeper idea of staying and watching and it probably is if someone from the crowd might be helpful in such situation. Others are feeling sorry and just show their empathy or support that way. I haven't seen anyone joking while such things happen. Once there were a fire in the building across ours. We called the police, they called the fire men to come and stop the fire. They called us few times before they come. We were watching from the balcony all of what was happening. It looked like the people were poor (or at least we thought so), because they had nylon on their window, so it looked like something is burning. First we thought it's some wooden stove for heating. The police came with their lanterns, at first they couldn't find the view of something burning, til they look all of the sides of the building, the fire stopped. So we had to go down and explain them exactly which floor and which window was showing fire. Then they called the fire men who came and entered the flat, it was the middle of the night few hours after midnight and we stayed downstairs to understand if there are any people hurt. They told us the flat was empty and some cables started the fire. It was a pleasing thing to know that there is no one hurt by this flames. What can I say is that there are people who are more sensitive and feel like helping in such situations, but they don't really know how exactly they can be useful.
@Jshean20 (14367)
• Canada
7 Aug 12
There is a difference between standing there with concern wishing there was something you could do to help, but when you see groups of people standing there smiling and joking and watching the disaster like some sort of comedy movie, it's offensive.
@Suggar (3612)
• Bulgaria
7 Aug 12
Different people, different understanding and judging about things. I have never seen such people, who laugh and joke seeing how someone suffer. Once I saw a car accident, two drivers were fighting with each other, I was waiting my boyfriend to go out of the bank so we can leave. One of the drivers was drunk. People from the coffee place get out of their tables, went on the street to watch the fight. But I really don't believe someone can do something about it, it's a work of the police to help. As soon as possible when the drunk driver left, the police came there and started asking people who were there, what they saw. I think some of the viewers on what happened on the street gave them the number of the car which the drunk one was driving. Even for such a small thing like giving the number of the right person, it's still good there was someone to see and sign it and then to tell it to the police men, after the drunk driver left the place.
@Jshean20 (14367)
• Canada
7 Aug 12
Witnesses are crucial in a situation like that when it comes to getting justice that's for sure. I wonder if that person was ever caught?
• Lenox, Georgia
8 Aug 12
My sister in law's house got caught on fire, it was an electric fire. It was absolutely horrible. They lost so many things and we were there when it happened, with our newborn baby. Thank God we all got out of the house and we were fine. The neighbors all around were standing outside watching everything. They all just stood there, talking and asking each other what's going on? How did that happen? We could hear them all. It is terrible but we didn't care at that point about them. We all had things in that house that got destroyed, and of course my sister in law and her family lost SO many sentimental things like pictures and such that could not be replaced. It was heart breaking for everyone.
@Jshean20 (14367)
• Canada
8 Aug 12
That would be heartbreaking I'm sorry to hear that it happened to you. Some things money just can't buy such as pictures or baby keepsakes like footprints. Thanks for sharing your story with us.
@LittleMel (14055)
• Canada
8 Aug 12
never witnessed something like this but I've read about ambulance not picking up patient because patient has past dues when the patient's family talked to newspaper, maybe also filed lawsuit I forgot I saw the newspaper comments are unbelievable saying things like "well pay your dues first" or "family is lying, ambulance did get there" where as the story is clear. she never said the ambulance didn't get there. the ambulance did. but they never picked the patient off of the ground and took him to ER I wish I bookmarked this story, I could have put the link here so everyone can read the whole story not sure what happened to the patient or the ambulance service
@Jshean20 (14367)
• Canada
8 Aug 12
It's scary to think that we could be denied health care when we are moments away from possibly dying, thanks for commenting.
7 Aug 12
The only thing i have seen that was really bad was a 12 car 2 lorry pile up on the motorway. We couldnt pass as the road was blocked. Most people stayed in thier cars, or got out to help. But some stood around chatting and watching as if it was entertainment. I was working as a nurse at the time and got out to help, looked after 5 different people with varying injuries until paramedics could take over. I am just not the sort of person who could stand about like that, I HAVE to try and help if there is anyway i possibly can!
@Jshean20 (14367)
• Canada
7 Aug 12
That's nice Janie. The fact that you're a nurse means you help many people on a daily basis, I have a lot of respect for your job.
@sjvg1976 (18387)
• Delhi, India
7 Aug 12
Hello Jshean, Yes that's very common these days people don't want to help others but they stand there like if passing time to see them in pain.Recently I saw an accident and there were at least 10 people standing there and no one took a lead to pick that fellow up from the road.It was me and my friend who took the lead then few of them came up to help.
@Jshean20 (14367)
• Canada
7 Aug 12
It's nice to hear that you and your friend stepped up, I wonder why other people would be held back from helping a person in serious need of assistance.
@mariaperalta (19094)
• Mexico
7 Aug 12
People dont think, I seen a home burn down and people stand there infront of the owner and say Im glad it was theirs and not mine.
• Indonesia
7 Aug 12
I have never seen a fire like you when there are two events there is a group of people who just talk and stand alone adajuga who helped to extinguish the fire burning. It's very tragic victims when everyone noticed what we have burned.
@Jshean20 (14367)
• Canada
7 Aug 12
Watching your memories and everything you own burn into nothing has to be one of the saddest things to witness.
@Raine38 (9193)
• United States
7 Aug 12
I have seen stuff like this happen whenever we pass by an accident or some minor street fights among neighbors. While some of them are there to know the story and gossips and would like to be in the know of what's going on, the rest might be just plain curious.Not that they are really fond of watching people get hurt but it could be that it's the first time they have seen something like that up close and they are just in awe. Human beings are curious in nature, that's how our ancestors managed to invent and discover a lot of stuff; our curiosity. Of course I cannot speak for the rest of the people there; but personally, if it has nothing to do with me I wouldn't take the trouble of squeezing myself into the crowd. I might ask someone what's going on but if it's something that the authorities got under control already and nobody needs any more help, then I'll just be on my way.
@Jshean20 (14367)
• Canada
7 Aug 12
Yes sometimes it becomes an issue when people are standing there gawking because the emergency team has to spend precious time and effort asking these people to get out of the way when every second counts in a critical situation. Thanks for commenting.
• United States
7 Aug 12
I've noticed that a percentage of people are fascinated with a disaster situation but I don't necessarily think they mean any harm. Some people are interested in helping, if possible, because they know how devastating those situations can be. Also, when someone loses their personal property in a fire, for example, there are always kind and generous people who are willing to contribute. From my point of view, people who are watching are often times, very concerned about potential victims.
@Jshean20 (14367)
• Canada
7 Aug 12
I know that there are people like that out there, which is awesome but there are also nosey people out there that just want to sit back and observe so they have something to talk about the next morning at the coffee shop.
• United States
7 Aug 12
When I am nervous I laugh and then shortly after that I will start to cry. My brother was being sentenced and he laughed and the judge thought it was him thinking it was funny which he was not. I don't know many poeple who would understand I mean no harm but Ican't help it. I have been in fights where I beat someone really bad. I felt terrible even though I could not stop fighting ebcause I black out real bad. I would laugh and then cry. I fell out once after a long fight and I was told I was laughing while falling to the ground.
@Jshean20 (14367)
• Canada
7 Aug 12
I'm a nervous laugher also, like if people are joking around me and I feel uncomfortable with what they are saying, I will laugh because I don't want them to know how uncomfrtable they are making me feel. Thanks for commenting.
• United States
7 Aug 12
While I haven't personally witnessed anything like this, I have heard of this kind of thing happening on multiple occasions. I have heard that there is some sort of condition that some people have (I forget the name) where they have an uncontrollable urge to laugh when that is really the last thing you should be doing. Another somewhat related thing that this brings up is one of my gripes with news reporters. Whenever they're reporting live from a wildfire or something like that, I am always somewhat annoyed that while they're reporting what's happening (which is important in its own right, I know), someone or something is being affected by it. And the reporter isn't doing anything to help even though they're right there! I don't know if this is just a weird thing I have, but I always feel that way in those situations.
@Jshean20 (14367)
• Canada
7 Aug 12
Yes, sometimes the reporters get right in the way and they have to be asked to move by cops or paramedics. A lot of times when there is a housefire around here, people will make a special trip just to be there and watch it, they are just in the way.