If life was treating you unkindly what do you do (fight or flight?)

@deodavid (4150)
Philippines
August 8, 2012 4:58pm CST
Hey there lotters, Well i do have a question that really relates to most of us and this is how it goes, life is hard we all already know that but what if there are to many pressures at work deadlines, nozy bosses and supervisors and co-workers that just dislikes you, how about at home family members that has caused you pain or had been bringing you down with them what will you do? And how about life itself, it constantly sucks and things never really go the way you hoped it to be. SO what do you do run away or fight it off? Me ive ran away from some but i kinda had been getting on the habit of just riding out the tide till it swells down.
16 responses
• United States
9 Aug 12
When life gets hard the easiest thing to do is run away, but that doesn't always solve the problem. It's better to be a man and stick it out.
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@deodavid (4150)
• Philippines
11 Aug 12
Hey there wilson burrell, Well i think that you are right, I mean in fact I know that you are right because maybe life is just testing you like it always is and that it needs to be given attention to, so I say like you do is stick it out and be a man.
@512771751 (1096)
• China
9 Aug 12
There is no doubt that life is full of ups and downs. Sometime we feel we are treated unkindly when we face diffuculties. When I am treated unkindly, I like shopping and eating a lot of food.
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@deodavid (4150)
• Philippines
11 Aug 12
Hi there, Well very good for you well that has two repercussions to me it is either i get too fat or to broke, so i think everytime that i just do get hardships in life i will just try to workout maybe or talk to someone maybe pray to God. YEah be strong and stuff.
• Philippines
9 Aug 12
It is but normal to have challenges in life. Some may only have a few but there are those who are unfortunately showered with many. But no matter what, for me, prayers should be my ultimate weapon against them...
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@deodavid (4150)
• Philippines
11 Aug 12
Hey there belle, Yessss, prayers are our supplement for our soul especially when we are struggling and has exhausted all our efforts in finding the right answer and the right motivations in life we find prayer and talking with God as a way to get as going in whatever obstacle that come our way.
@bLadeee (403)
• Philippines
9 Aug 12
This is life after all, if it will treat you the way you want it to be, it is not life anymore. You're the one making you're own life and not waiting for something good to happen. Life is made up of challenges and trials in life, we face them all, we only have one choice, that is to face it. Running away in a bad situation shows only how coward we are, no matter how many times we reject a bad situation or problem we can never run away from it, it'll only get worse. For me, whatever happen I will never run away, even I fail, I will stand up and continue.
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@deodavid (4150)
• Philippines
11 Aug 12
Hey there bladee, Well good for you that you are in high spirits and that you have accepted that life is filled hardships and that we just need to stand up everytime that we fall, that is very good and i do think that you are now fairing well in life if not better because of your attitude.
@taheraa (1547)
• Giza, Egypt
9 Aug 12
Hi, deodavid: In order to deserve life whether at work or family, you must have the spirit of adventure. Man in charge whether at home or business is facing the problems and trying to find its solutions. Do not run away from problems, but try to face, or leave it some time, some problems resolved by giving it a chance time, but do not forget or escape from them. Positive man in charge, has generated a sense of self and being, and be an active member of the community in which they live Fight or Wait for another confrontation. Escape (flight) only if you find a severe risk to you or who are under your responsibility.
@deodavid (4150)
• Philippines
11 Aug 12
Hey there theraa, I believe in what you say and i think all men should live in this kind of a code because this is how people should be, willing to give it there all even if it is hard and prove your worth as a person not only in your family but also to others. Escape maybe a futile last course move but never something in the middle, weigh everything weigh you...
@taheraa (1547)
• Giza, Egypt
16 Aug 12
Hi, deodavid: Struggle in life and resistance problems and work to solve them, it makes life taste of another. We find happiness to get money on the effort and fatigue are more, and we find our happiness to health after we have overcome the disease.
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@deodavid (4150)
• Philippines
24 Aug 12
Great i wish that all of us will be healthy so that we can use our body and mind to be wealthy and that we can be more happy and love fierce-fully.
@bcools (28)
9 Aug 12
The questions you have posted is the one type of situation that everybody might have faced at least once..i don't say that fight back is only one option..but have to fight not with others those you don't like but with,yourself with your thought which are creating irritations and depress,generally we people will get fit in to a frame when we are bounded by any problem or irritation,so if we try to thing above that frame..we can over come easily..even i have crossed these type of situations so that only i am just suggesting.. just think in this way also.. :-)
@deodavid (4150)
• Philippines
11 Aug 12
Hey there bcools, Good call there, things sometimes re way above our expectations or does not fit into the box that we have set for life and we tend to be overwhelmed by it so it is hard so i guess you are trying to say is get above it and adopt to the situation and think what better options to do on this matters, right, wow you are so smart very specific answer and yet is generally applicable.
@bcools (28)
11 Aug 12
yep..thank you.. deodavid..you are welcome..and as a psychological Counsellor (part time)..i gave my simple best..as in my view every thing lies in tuning in our mind and mindset.. :-)
@deodavid (4150)
• Philippines
11 Aug 12
Wow, for real? Anyway i do hope we do get to share lots of things in regards to views and outlooks in life, thanks again and enjoy lotting counselor.
• Philippines
9 Aug 12
I myself can really relate to this topic, I've got depressed ,because of academics mostly, the action made should depend on the situation as well. An example of this is my problems I easily fail subjects, but luckily my peers are there to help me out and with words of encouragement I decided to "fight" instead of just giving up and failing when I have the chance to get pass the course. It's like a war, either you back out and just die or you fight and get higher chances of surviving.
• Philippines
9 Aug 12
Correct we have to overcome our failures, fight and don't give up otherwise we will be losers forever.
@deodavid (4150)
• Philippines
11 Aug 12
Hey there agrregated, Wow powerful words and i think this how life should be faced nowadays since life today is really for those who are fit to face it, some maybe not super intelligent yet are skilled survives this worlds, those intelligent one's survive this world and for some are talented so you just gotta find it within what will get you to survive this world.
@Fulltank (2896)
• Philippines
9 Aug 12
From my point of view, I would say "fight" until there's no one else to fight for. But my other side would say though it seems coward to retreat sometimes, I think we had to do this when we think that we are on the losing side. Better yet, look for help or seek advice to people whom you know would give you the right path to go with the problem.
@deodavid (4150)
• Philippines
11 Aug 12
I think so too, just like you not all wars are meant to be won in a real battle you keep fighting and fighting you may always win but you will always have casualties and after numerous wars and wins you'll have the last fight where in you are too outnumbered that even the best strategies will not work with so few soldiers and so many already tired and wounded, then that is when you let go and surrender, or retreat and hide to rebuild yourself to face some other wars or to leave in peace.
@sol521 (61)
• Philippines
9 Aug 12
Well, life is life. It's full of challenges. It can be sucking sometimes, yes, but it's full of amazing surprises. Challenges and difficulties are intended for us to be a better person. We all have different walks of life. Different pains and challenges. Running away from problems doesn't make you a better person. It's a race that you'll never win.
@deodavid (4150)
• Philippines
11 Aug 12
Well sol, In my opinion not all problems can be hit head on there are people great people that had run from there problems but became success in life later on, it is just how you define running away from things are, if you use it as motivation to be better at were you fall after running away then good but if you treat it as a total failure in life then i guess there will lie the problem.
• Philippines
9 Aug 12
I guess there are some instances that we should run away than to fight. We can weigh things. If we think that it's better for us to escape from the stressful situations and better ones await for us, then it's alright to run. On the other hand, if we can still tolerate the situations we are in, it's okay to fight. Other people think that when we run away from problems, we are coward. However, we might just avoiding things to get more complicated. Happy myLotting!
@deodavid (4150)
• Philippines
11 Aug 12
Hey there angel, I do believe in what you say , no point in pushing the issue if it has been tried for a long time and all resource had been used and yet all is at fail, maybe it is not for you and maybe there are better avenue's in life that we should take not all that run away are cowards they just got better opportunities ahead sometimes
• China
9 Aug 12
Deal with it. If something happens like that, you will laugh it off in your adulthood. You have to let your emotions let out, by telling your family or going to a psychologist or such. Do NOT let your emotions stay bundled up. Also, its been proven that working out makes you feel better and delighted with yourself.
@deodavid (4150)
• Philippines
11 Aug 12
hey there stitch, Well that is one approach that is really helpful, workingout, the stress will be released and at the same time you are trimming those love handles, good point. And yeah just laugh things off real winners dont take failures too seriously they move on ahead to make tomorrow better and learn from what was left behind.
• Philippines
9 Aug 12
Run away or fight it off? In a work place if I am not happy and working is not healthy anymore I run away but if one don't have other financial source then ride out the tide. At home we have to settle all issues no need to fight or flight. As a family we have to stay together thru thick of thin.
@deodavid (4150)
• Philippines
11 Aug 12
Hey there Marika, Same here when it comes to my family even though we might have disagreements, there is still order of how to go about things in life, well sometimes the right people does not persevere but then again there is still tomorrow to talk about it again, and at work well yeah if it is tough , to tough get out but if you can and if you have the will just ride it out and dont back down.
• Philippines
9 Aug 12
Hi deodavid! Well, you are right. Life has many challenges. I face a lot almost everyday. Sometimes, I just cannot understand but feel bad. However, I have to decide to keep kicking and fight the battles with God infront of me and at all sides. I always convince myself that I never live alone..There is Someone up there who knows every bitterness, fear and pain within me. I just cry in the secret place to tell everything to God then after awhile, I feel the burdens have been lighten. Another secret in fighting the darkness of life is my hope that everything shall come to pass. All problems will soon be passed. So, just keep trusting and decide to live your life joyfully. Decide it yourself that you will live life to the fullest no matter what..with God's grace and love. Happy mylotting everyday..happy living daily.
@deodavid (4150)
• Philippines
11 Aug 12
God is my strength and I will bring his name glory. I just thought of that phrase just now, anyway thanks for your words it is really inspiring and really something that helps me get by, maybe for the rest of my life, thanks and i do believe fighting is the thing we need in life and never really loosing to our weaknesses.
@paulli3 (312)
• China
9 Aug 12
hello deodavid, it is normal for us , life is always not the life i want, but i never give up and i never think i cannot get the life i want, all i did is just to get way to realize my dream and live a better life, i think i'm a soldier and i never ran away i want to fight with life and then get what i want. i hope everyone can achieve their dreams , good luck!
@deodavid (4150)
• Philippines
11 Aug 12
Hey there paulli3, I wish i can be more like you a fighter a soldier, me im no soldier i am not tough but i get by and now in life i will try to be more like you be challenged and defeat my weaknesses one at a time everyday.
• Philippines
9 Aug 12
Yeah. My life has been just okay. I haven't got a job yet and constantly looking for one. I lost my job earlier this year and I felt like I shouldn't have lost it because of some distractions. Well, I have to move on and fight for it. I won't take anything for granted now. Now, I am in my house chilling and doing nothing. hehehehe I feel worthless. hehehehe
@krupar5 (287)
• United States
8 Aug 12
Hello deodavid, I have always faced all problems head on or wait it out. I cannot see how things can be so horrible that there is no light at the end of the tunnel. You are right that we all face challenges and there are many times where things seem so dark and depressing but we always have an option. When things seem really hard for me and I am down, I look at all the things I do have and know that their are others who may not be as blessed as I am.
@deodavid (4150)
• Philippines
11 Aug 12
Good thinking Krupar, i mean if we are down for the count then lets just remind ourselves that we are lucky and that there are others out there who already lost the fight or don't even have the capability or opportunity to fight in life so better give it all we've got and push forward there will be no stronger punch that will be given by a person compared to the punch or hit of life itself so better brace ourselves and be strong.