You have a choice!

Philippines
August 9, 2012 4:58am CST
I received a text message from friend awhile ago saying - Being hurt is something you can't stop from happening, but being miserable is always your CHOICE! And pak yes it's true and it somehow hits me because I used to be an emotional person before and when I'm hurt I tend to hurt my self too by not eating, too much sleeping; at least now I have a realization and quotes like this makes me realize that we only have one life to live with, so lets make it a happy life as possible!:-)
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11 responses
• Philippines
10 Aug 12
That is really true. I'm glad your friend has sent you that text message. There are pains that are beyond our control. When someone breaks our heart, we can't help it. We are human after all. We feel pain because we are not numb, and we should be thankful that we do feel pain because the moment we stop feeling hurt, is the moment we stop loving and caring. AND that is something we should not let happen. Yes, we always have the choice on how to deal with pain. Whether we choose to move on from it, or swim to the pool of sorrows and eventually destroy oneself. Of course, we should choose the previous one. But then again, some choose the latter because they believe it's the end of their lives. Again, I'm glad you've come to your senses and decided to stand up and be happy about life.
@Myha93 (4)
• Romania
9 Aug 12
I agree whit the megessage which you received.All of us will be hurt at a time in ours lifes but it's very important to get over this parts and don't feel miserable.be happy and yor life will be more easier
@yuekim123 (161)
• Philippines
9 Aug 12
Yes, that should be your mindset. Just because you are hurt emotionally doesn't mean that you have to hurt yourself physically. You have to give importance to yourself. And I'm glad that you realized it :)
@sol521 (61)
• Philippines
9 Aug 12
Exactly. Get rid of those things that makes you unhappy. Life is a matter of choice. There's a lot of things in the world that we can do so much. No matter what, we can always choose to be happy. And it's really true that we can't always control what happens to us but we do have a choice about how we respond to it.
@pjha1975 (214)
• India
9 Aug 12
You always do have a choice between being miserable & being happy... In my case, when I am depressed, hurt or just plain miserable, I end up just withdrawing into myself. I guess that's not a healthy reaction. But then, I can't help myself. It tends to happen unconsciously. I also tend to listen to music when I am depressed or hurt.. The type of music during these situations becomes Heavy Metal... Anyway, I myself am an emotional person (to some extent) so things like lying, betrayal tend to get me pretty emotional & I tend to over - react... But, I have slowly gotten over that. Now, at the current juncture in my life (with a wife & kid), I have learned to keep emotions under control unless they are really required for maximum impact!!! Pretty effective behavior especially if I am dealing with Indian vegetable sellers, taxi drivers, auto-rickshaw drivers & general maintenance personnel. :)
• India
9 Aug 12
Hi friend, i agree with that quote, we can't avoid hurts, but we can avoid miseries. Let's be sportive and take everything as normal, your life will be good and you will be happy for ever. Your last sentence is merely true... we must follow it in our life
@Raine38 (9029)
• United States
9 Aug 12
It's okay to let yourself feel pain, it is a normal human feeling (you're not human if you never feel pain). But you have to know when to stop hurting and start picking yourself up. You can't hurt forever, you also have to give yourself a chance to enjoy life, and a chance for other people to enjoy being in yours. So cry all you want, but know that you shouldn't cry for long.
@aejey322 (1006)
• Philippines
9 Aug 12
it's true! it really depends on us on how we react to a certain situation. there are just times that we let ourselves be carried away. but those are also our choices. because we can always choose to stay calm. being composed can make you think more better. positive vibes can also come to you when you are serene. One thing also is not to forget to pray, so He will immediately send us guidance. It's like Him lighting us some candles so we can see even in the dark. so let us smile even if we have problems. ;)
@else22 (4319)
• India
9 Aug 12
A person who is hurt gets hurt either accidentally or deliberately by others.He does not try to attract sympathy from others.Even more important thing is that he is not a person who is ignored or negligible.By contrast,miserable persons are those who try to attract others' attention towards themselves,because people ignore them.They feel they are ignored,so they deliberately try to attract others' sympathy towards them.We have a choice here.We may either be people who draw others' towards them or people who hurt themselves to make others have pity on them. You are right.I agree with you,gracie.
• Pakistan
9 Aug 12
You are very right. Today i received a text message saying "it's not hard to sacrifice something for someone but it's hard to find someone who deserves your sacrifice". So there you have it, our life is a lot more then wasting it for any one who hurts you, but we are human and we do get hurt and feel bad about our won self but the best is the one who wakes up in the morning with new hope and start it with new hopes and ambitions.
• Philippines
9 Aug 12
hi gracie, If I am happy I eat, If I am sad I eat, If I hate a person I eat We don't need to stress ourselves too much cause it can do harm to ourselves Let's be happy always as we can happy mylotting