Will I find love before I die?

United States
August 9, 2012 2:44pm CST
Will I find love before I die? I dont know Im 50 now and everyday the chances get slimmer and slimmer. Also Im a single father with three children so the chances of a woman accepting a ready made family are small. Youve heard of situation where a man does not want a women who already has children but turn that around and its three times worse . Women do not want a man who already has children unless he is a superduper star. Im great but average and I do the best I can but its hard but Ill keep on keeping on.
9 responses
@owlwings (43915)
• Cambridge, England
9 Aug 12
I guess that you have the love of your children. That is certainly something you shouldn't ignore (and I'm sure you don't). The question is, what do you actually mean by 'love' in this context?
@owlwings (43915)
• Cambridge, England
14 Aug 12
I have known people who found a soul-mate at 60, 70 or even 80. I think it tends to come when you are least expecting it and often when you have stopped looking for it.
• United States
20 Oct 12
I believe that may be true and that is not very comnforting. Because it could be just the love you need at the time you need it. But thats not the way life works and I understand that. All I can do is continue to live and do my best to take care of myself and my children the best I can. I try to dress with a little extra flare now and wear some good smelling scents. Im concentrating on getting a home and building stability maybe when I do those things that help me have internal stability it can transfer outward and a (beautiful) lady can see me and appreciate me. I put beautiful in quotes because it such a relative term because beauty truly is in the eye of the beholder.
• United States
13 Aug 12
BY love Im taking talking about that heartfelt feeling that you really cant wait to see someone but also its real. Or just a down to earth compaion that fun to be with with and gives you a little stimulation the soul that inspires.
• United States
10 Aug 12
Of course you will find love! I know, you have the love of your children, and raising them to be loving, responsible, hard-working young men and women is the ultimate gift of love you give them. I also know it is great to have "adult" companionship and conversation at the end of the day. Although it may be a little (or a lot!) tricky to find a woman willing to be part of your family, the blessings you have right now are wonderful! I have always felt that loving myself, being confident in who I am, is what attracted me to my husband. We got married when I was in my 40's, and I am thankful every day for him. To me, being happy with what I have and striving to be a better wife/mother is what keeps me going in life. I'm sure if you start thinking more about what you are blessed with already (kids!) and feel more confident in who you are, you will find more women will be attracted to your inner light shining through. Don't give up! Sure, have a pity party every now and then, but pick yourself up, and work on what makes you happy with your kids. A confident, happy man with well adjusted kids is always a great contribuiton to life. Hang in there!
• India
10 Aug 12
finding a suitable and prefered love is the only sake of fortune.It happens only once in a lifetime.We have to be blessed with God to achieve a divine love.I may pray for you.....
• Philippines
10 Aug 12
You already found love in having three children. You should feel blessed you are able to have three children. A lot of people would want that.
• United States
13 Aug 12
Sound great JVincent I try to remember that great post thanks mam
• Philippines
10 Aug 12
You will find love for sure. All you have to do is to have self confidence and go out, find your love. Think of this, many women or I may say too many women accepts even the guy is married and on this, your chances are more because you are single. There's always hope and don't worry, it will be given to you in a right time, right place and right moment. HAve a great day and wish for your success finding love.
• United States
13 Aug 12
Have you ever thought that they accept a married man because that man more is in line with their fantasy of what a man should be. The man also has great confidence because he has one at home and is not concerned about being rejected and does not care intially. Women have money these days to try and pursue their fantasies and dont wish to settle for a boring existence. Have you ever heard the song "Girls just want to have Fun" . This is a true statement. Most women just want to have fun and not have to worry about the responsibilities of life and want someone they can get away with. However there are some that wish a man who is loyal and loving. But it is important to remember a woman will express one emotion and feeling and end up falling for another according to the strength of the woman's conviction. Which less and less have in strong resolve these days.
• Indonesia
10 Aug 12
you can
• United States
13 Aug 12
I know its mathematically possible and with good karma it may happen however my circumstances say the odds are against me and the longer it takes the less confidence I have that it may ha[ppen. The less confidence I have in the possibility the less I am attractive to a lady. Some would say Im too choicey but I dont believe it wise to just accept whomever in my life to have someone. It has to be someone I have a connection with and share something with. It has to have some feeling.
@jaiho2009 (39142)
• Philippines
9 Aug 12
I believe that the right person will come at the right time. I have a friend who has 3 kids from his first relationship and was able to meet a woman who also has 2 kids. Now they are living happily for many years. Of course, there are odd times in their relationship but they always try to mend every loose ends. just wait for the right person and never lose any hope.
• United States
11 Aug 12
Of course that is the key to not lose hope but it is hard because of course you need someone to share responsibilities and companionship with but also most women today have their own money and are seeking to fulfill fantasies hopefully can find one who wants to be real.
@deazil (4723)
• United States
9 Aug 12
C'mon! :-) 50 isn't that old. You still have plenty of time. I'm 64 and there's no place for me to meet a guy. I've tried meetup.com but can't find anything really interesting. And all the groups for people over 50 or 55 are usually all people under 60. There should be a group for 60-70yrs only. And like tetris15 said, women are smarter now. You're already settled into a regular life, you have stability and probably roots in the community, partly because of your kids. And who REALLY wants a superduper star? Most times they care too much about themselves and there are too many drawbacks with those types. I think regular, stable, good guys are in demand these days. Maybe you haven't been looking in the right places. You're not hanging around in sleazy bars, are you? :D (Just kidding, tryin' to make ya laugh!) What about hiking or walking groups? Do you have a dog? They have groups for that. Try www.meetup.com. They might have a group for single dads. And other groups where you might meet um, eligible females. :-) Hope I helped a little. Good luck!
• United States
13 Aug 12
Go to the library everyday with my kids looking there no luck yet
@tetris15 (539)
• Philippines
9 Aug 12
Of course you can! It's not really a big deal anymore if a guy has kids on his own as long as he is loving, respectful and responsible. Women are smarter now. Why get a man who is a superduper star when they don't even know how to provide for themselves? What I'm saying is that women today are now smarter than before.
• United States
11 Aug 12
Not sure I agree with that women today have their own money and feel they are more able to fulfill their fantasies and they quote unquoute dont wish to settle for what they dont want. The key is to maintain your best self despite their unwillingness and try to find the right one for you.