No sugarcoating please...

Well, they just seem don't have anyone to talk to comfortably.Or being judged. Even before they dould shared the story, we already judged them. How they would feel comfortable to talk? :) Just try to think wisely. You could recommend them to go to a psycologist if they need some experts .

Sometimes, we choose the people who to share what are the actual situations in our life, Toni. Though everybody has some shares of problem, we just don't want others who we think are so judgmental to know about them. Instead, we would just say, i'm okay in a curt manner, because we don't want them to further dig about it. Me, i also choose the people who i share some problems i may have in life, Toni!

This isn't always the case, but some people think that if "friends" know they have problems they will stay away because they don't want to hear the bad stuff. These people have been disappointed thinking that someone really cared about them, but when they found out the truth the so called friend would not be there for them. As far as family goes, sometimes you just can't bear to disappoint your family. They have such high hopes for you so you just don't want to let them down.

Hi, We used to meet so many people on a daily basis and they include people from home, office, neigbours, etc. There are different types of friends also - close friends, just friends, intimate friends etc. So, whenever we are dealing with a person, it is better to understand how much he/she is related to you and what level they are in phase with you. If the person is an intimate friend and a frind for a long period, you can always trust and can share your matters accordingly. Anyway, if those people are in a pretentive nature, we need not disclose everything. It is upto everyone's choice that how those people are related and it our decision whether we need to shre such personal matters to them. Even you are a friend for me, but we don't know each other. So, there are limitations to share with others and once we found that the other person is good and trst worthy, we will keep more intimacy with them, but won't prefer to close or much personal matters with anyone.

Well, to answer a question like that is not a simple thing. I say this because, the "confession" that can make a person who is ill, with respect, even those who could help her, sometimes it might not be entirely true, for several reasons. Sometimes they say "okay" simply will not load for others also of our problems. Other times we may not trust too much even for those who would rather give us good advice, etc.. I personally, although I only have three real friends, to them as my parents want to "photograph" clear view of my psychological state, telling them the pure truth, without any pretense.

i always like to sugercoat at times.since i enjoy doing it because it helps to creativitiy and join new thoughts and even certainly sure about my friends who also do the same way.dont you sometimes pretend ,but i sometimes tell the lame truth also ,its equal if you see overall

If it is a close friend that asks me, then I am very honest about my feelings and what is happening in my life. But there are many friends that I only see once in a while and I don't want to do this with. It also depends on how I am asked. Sometimes someone will ask me how I'm doing while we pass each other and just say hello. You know, they will say "Hi, how are you?" Under these circumstances it is just a saying and they may not have time to hear my problems.

Dear Toni, I don't sugarcoat things. I am open and honest. When I need help, I admit it. Some people are just too proud to admit they need help, so they would rather pretend that everything is fine.

I think the camouflage effect on the inner contradictions.