Does your husband complain about time for "me"

@Pocs39 (39)
August 12, 2012 4:40pm CST
I've been married for 4 years but with husband for 12. I love him with all my heart. But honestly he tends to be in my opinion a bit needy. My children are grown and have all started lives of their, which left me with a empty part of my life. Work was a outlet, but losing that because of medical issues left me with even more idle time. I submersed myself into crafting, painting and writing. It turned out to be great for me until that is the hubby has a day off. Being a planner I have the next day planned before I fall asleep the night before, regardless of wether he is home. He tends to get very jealous that I don't spend every minute paying attention to him on his days off. Don't get me wrong, he is not controlling, he thinks because I don't work outside the home and the kids are grown, I should devote my time on his days off to him. I do stop whatever I am doing at night to spend with him, it's the days off he has that is the problem. I hear "what about me" or "I deserve a little time too". Anyone else have the same issue?
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@silverfox09 (4727)
• United States
9 Sep 12
I think you should give your husband the attention he want , men are sometimes like that and want to be treated like a baby lol . No body is perfect so give him the little he ask for , I will do anything necessary for my bf and he will do anything necessary for me . Its just the both of you now so make time .
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@jenny1015 (13389)
• Philippines
8 Sep 12
Oh yes! My husband would complain about it too sometimes. I think they would just want some time to cuddle during those days that they need to be home.
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• Portugal
23 Aug 12
i understand you^^ but i guess that during the week you spend a lot of time alone while your hubby is working right? so maybe on his days off you could go out with him and have a special time together^^ its important so your marriage will continue to be happy^^ i think that he just wants your attention in his day off cause other days he is working and dont spend much time with you. be happy bcs its better to have a hubby that calls for attention than one that is always hanging out with his friends and forget about you ^^ just try to spend his day off with him ^^ during week you can be busy with your own things while he works^^
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@Shellyann36 (10754)
• United States
23 Aug 12
I do sometimes but we have 3 small children so it is not very often. If I were you and I knew he had a day off I would prepare ahead of time. Ask him if he wanted to sit aside a specific amount of time to spend together just being together or doing something. I would also try to include him in what you are doing. Sounds as if he is lost on his own and does not have any hobbies.
• United States
13 Aug 12
Maybe try finding out ahead of time when his days off are and maybe you could do something together. It's good you make time for him at night but maybe he'd like to have a day with you every once in a while. It may seem a little needy on his part that he always asks about "me time" but take it as a compliment that on his days off, he wants to spend his time with you :) I'm not saying devote all your time on his day off, but do plan on doing something with him, even if it's something simple. Maybe that way he'd stop complaining so much about having time together on his days off.
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@Hatley (164647)
• Garden Grove, California
14 Oct 12
hiPocs you have all week for your hobbies so how can you begrudge him a few hours of time with him. enlist him in some of your hobbies share them be a g ood sport as he loves you so be glad of that. be flattered he w ants your time for him.sujrely you also need some me time away from hobbies.. you will not regret it later as he will love you for this.