Share A Time When You Followed Your Heart

Anderson, Indiana
August 13, 2012 8:07am CST
When did you make a decision by following your heart instead of listening to the advice of others telling you that you should do this or that? Please tell about the decision you needed to make, the advice you were given, what you ended up doing, and what the outcome was. You can write about it right in this box and/or you can share a link to something you've already written.
11 responses
@jaiho2009 (39021)
• Philippines
13 Aug 12
Most of the time I always follow my heart, what my heart desires and what my heart dictates me to do. I do consider other people's advice too. Not every decision that I made by following my heart have positive result- some failed. but what matters to me is- I follow what I know is right and never regretted anything, whether it is a success of a failure. Better to follow your own so you will no one to blame but yourself.
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• Anderson, Indiana
13 Aug 12
This sounds a lot like me. I've actually gotten in some serious trouble for following my heart, but I still felt comfortable with the decisions I made. I'll be sharing more about this in my book...
@jaiho2009 (39021)
• Philippines
13 Aug 12
It is more comforting to think that we followed our own choice than to blame others. I am the kind of person who never regret for thing that I've done- but rather consider it as experience/s to learn. I listen to other people's advice,for comparison and pick ideas to apply. And at the end of the day- follow what my heart whatever it takes.
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• Anderson, Indiana
13 Aug 12
You're very wise and very nice!
@maximax8 (27333)
• United Kingdom
13 Aug 12
I bought my little cottage at age 19 years old and felt so happy living there and working in London. I was ever so sad to be made redundant and it was terrible not to be able to find another job. There was a recession in my home country and I didn't know what to do. My mom and my sister wanted me to find a job but it seemed impossible to do that. The more time I had unemployed the more depressing it became. I followed my heart instead of listen to the words try to find another job even though I was told the world is a dangerous place. My aunt said I was either very brave or stupid. I let out my cottage to get a monthly income, got a working holiday visa for Australia and bought my airline ticket around the world. I was 20 years old and my mom took much interest in my planned route. It was London to LA to Hawaii to Fiji to Sydney to Adelaide overland to Cairns to Darwin to Singapore to London. I found work in Australia as a children's nanny, a charity collector and a factory packer. I had a fantastic time on my happy travels and came home just over one year later. I decided to do further studies to become a primary school teacher. So my trip helped me do a career change.
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• Anderson, Indiana
13 Aug 12
WOW!!! It looks as if you had a very successful time of following your heart!!! You got a relaxing trip, several changes of scenery, some education and working experience, and a satisfying change of career goals!!! Very wise moves!!!
@maximax8 (27333)
• United Kingdom
13 Aug 12
Yes, I had a very successful time following my heart to travel around the world. My life unemployed was miserable but on my return I changed my career for the better.
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• Anderson, Indiana
13 Aug 12
So, you might call it a very successful escape!!!
@Hillxuan (77)
• China
14 Aug 12
when i need make a dicision,i like considering influence all aspects.then i will make the best dicision to achieve success.and if you cann't dicide how to do ,you'd better ask somebody's advice,for example your,parent,friend ,teacher,classmate.
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• Anderson, Indiana
15 Aug 12
This is a very wise and well-rounded decision. While we need to be open to listening to others within reason, the final decision needs to be one that will make us personally comfortable instead of feeling as if we've been railroaded into something.
@namiya (1599)
• Philippines
14 Aug 12
When i decided to raise my children alone and ignored advises (and at times unsavory remarks)of people around me to demand support from my ex-husband. This strenthen my self respect, help me become strong emotionally and developed my sense of creativeness in finding "ways and means" to survive life honorably.
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• Anderson, Indiana
15 Aug 12
I would have to know more about this situation to know whether or not this was the best decision you could have made--but no unsavory remarks from me! This seems to have worked for you and your kids just fine. Since you and the father of your kids were married (and this would also be true of a long-term relationship where the father and children have already bonded), it wouldn't be a good move to keep them apart or to keep him from contributing anything to their care. However, if he were abusive, it would be ideal not to have him in your lives whether or not he paid any form of support. It might have been understood by you that your ex-husband was barely getting by and that having to pay court-ordered child-support would have kicked him to the curb. He could, instead, contribute just by spending time with the kids and loving them. In other words, not everything is about money. You might have had a well-paying job while your ex was barely making ends meet. There is no black and white with no shades of gray going on here, and I have the feeling that your heart was telling you to be sensitive to the shades of gray. What was going on in your family didn't deserve unsavory remarks from others. I'd like to know more about your situation, if you want to talk about it...
@Paper_Doll (2376)
• Philippines
14 Aug 12
I followed my heart when I decided to leave my long term boyfriend for a guy who was introduced to me by a close friend. I do not want to justify my actions because I do admit that I have made a mistake during those times. I was told to think about it many times but I was too into this guy that time and was already bored with my boyfriend. Also got tired of waiting for years and yet he still hasn't told me any of his plans. To make the story short, I broke up with him and decided to go on a relationship with this new guy. But our relationship did not last even a year. I had too many regrets after that but I really do not want to admit to myself that I made a mistake. But now, I can honestly say that if be given a chance, I should have listened to those advice.
• Anderson, Indiana
15 Aug 12
How did you feel about your first boyfriend after this relationship ended? Did you want to go back to him? or Were you glad that, even though it didn't last, the second relationship had made you see how futile the first relationship was? Remember that there will come a time when not everything will be made of the fireworks experienced upon initially falling in love and/or crushing, but that doesn't mean that a love can't be a forever kind of love. My advice would be to go slowly into a new relationship and build your friendship first. This isn't to say that I don't believe in love at first sight--but, instead, to say that all of the fireworks and crushing might be just that: fireworks and crushing when the relationship was simply meant to be one of a very special friendship. Fireworks and crushing are okay, too. I tell people that, to this day, I still have a big crush on Henry Winkler, but I can reassure his wife that she has nothing about which to worry. I never even had the chance to date him! LOL
@Quetzhal (82)
• Singapore
13 Aug 12
I was told to give up on my ex because it wasn't worth it. The thing is, the whole reason it was my ex was because of a... somewhat stupid thing I did- overreacting, being oversensitive, etc. I remained a friend instead of cutting all contact, and we eventually got together again- And that's in spite of another person trying to get with them. I don't regret that. Though it wouldn't really be healthy for most people to do... xD
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• Anderson, Indiana
14 Aug 12
It sounds to me as if you and your ex were both needing to work on communication and being each other's best friend. I'm getting the impression from reading between the lines that you were going through some serious trust issues (likely, left over from when you had been hurt in another relationship), and this was what made you overreact and become overly-sensitive. Bravo to both of you for realizing the value of your friendship and not giving up on being friends no matter what!!!
• Jacksonville, Florida
13 Aug 12
My parents told me to be with a different person than I wanted to be with. They picked this guy for me who was good at the time but later on in life totally changed and became a not so good person. My parents later told me they were glad I did not listen to them. I found my soul mate and I am so grateful to God that I chose who I did to marry. I am a firm believer in following our own hearts instead of always listening to other people. Sometimes advice is good but other times we just have to listen to our hearts and do what we think is right.
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• Anderson, Indiana
14 Aug 12
That sums it up really well! Never ignore advice for the sake of ignoring advice, but--if it doesn't feel right to you--by all means, choose another path!!!
• United States
13 Aug 12
I am the youngest of 7 children. When my older siblings graduated high school they all left to attend college or joined the military. All of them ended up living far away from home. I also left to attend college, but stayed closer, only a couple hours' travel time away from my parents. My siblings all wanted me to get a job where they lived, but I chose to stay closer to my parents. They were aging, and I just felt in my heart I should live close by but not at home. I found a job a month after graduating college, and had a 26 year career with a wonderful boss, great coworkers, and built a great life. I had an amazing relationship with my parents during this time, and was able to be not just their child but their friend. When their health began to be an issue, I was the one that took care of them and provided transportation/companionship, whatever they needed. I am blessed to have had that relationship with them that my older siblings did not have and, quite frankly, would never trade. Ihave wonderful, loving memories of my parents now, and I know they appreciated my decision to stay near by. I followed my heart to stay close to them, and I was rewarded with an amazing career, wonderful friends that are now my family, and a great, loving husband. Life is what happens when you are making plans, so while you have a plan for your life, be flexible with it because your heart will help you adjust it to make things better for yourself and those you love.
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• Anderson, Indiana
14 Aug 12
This is the choice I made, too. Of course, I'm an only child, so there was never any siblings trying to persuade me to move. My folks and I all had no desire to make any other place but Indiana our home. My dad passed away with a smile on his face while he was asleep on February 2, 2004. I'm still blessed to have my mom on this side. She turned 90 this past April 6. We have lived on the same farm since March of 1954 when I was a little over a year old. Some people have suggested that we might want to move to assisted living since she's old and I'm disabled, but we're two tough old birds who are still following our hearts!!!
@zoey7879 (3104)
• United States
13 Aug 12
I had this problem when I got with my fiance a few months ago. His living situation right now is very grim. He is in a lot of trouble with the law and as a result, he will have a very difficult time getting a job and just maintaining life in general for the next several years. It's rough. Many friends and family members told me just to ditch him, because of the hardship alone created by his criminal conviction... and I stopped to ask them... Really? Are they all so perfect themselves? I stayed with him and we are very, very close. We have a very unique bond that runs deep. We are quite close, and to be honest, I know many married couples that are not as close as he and I are. We will have a rough time together for a while, but I want him forever.
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• Anderson, Indiana
13 Aug 12
He's very blessed to have a friend like you!!! I remember when this one young woman got married, and her sister and brother-in-law didn't think that it would last. The brother-in-law gave the marriage a couple of months, while the sister didn't think that it would even last two weeks. Today, the sister and brother-in-law have been divorced for several years, while the other couple remain happily married. You and your soulmate are in my prayers, love, and positive thoughts. I know that there's a challenging road ahead while he's winning back the trust of not only your friends and family members but, also, your entire community.
• Indonesia
13 Aug 12
3 years ago. I was a fresh graduated and in high spirit looking for my 1st job. I have my own dream job, and my parents and other family expect me to work in government Everyone is crazy to be government officer, I am not. I leave home to find my own dream job, so here I am now happy with mylife eventhough there some people think I am stupid. I am on my way to reach my dream job now and still happy for what I have decided 3 years ago.
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• Anderson, Indiana
13 Aug 12
Good for you!!! Could you share more about what you're doing now and what you plan to eventually be doing?
• China
13 Aug 12
Well, as for me, I always set up goals and plans for my business, which follow my principles in my heart,because in my opinion, I should do what I want to do. However,when I try out my plans, there are always many people including my parents and wife, who would offer me all kinds of advice.Sometimes, I try my best to stick on my own rules,but sometimes it is so difficult for me to keep on them.For example,if I decide to do something wonderful in my heart,but too ideal in others' mind,they will give me some "advice".On such occasions, I might refuse their ideas,and hold my own plans.
• Anderson, Indiana
13 Aug 12
Bravo!!! Keep on sticking to what seems to be right for you--though it's also good to listen to advice with an open mind. After that, you can 1. discard the advice altogether and go ahead with your own plans 2. take part of the advice and incorporate it into your own plans 3. decide that the advice you were given might be the best way to go after all or 4. end up doing something else altogether The important thing is that you end up doing what feels right to you.