That Is Just How He Is...

Jacksonville, Florida
August 13, 2012 3:55pm CST
Some of you may remember the discussion I started a little ways back about my husband trying to help the elderly neighbor by mowing her lawn and she slammed the door in his face and got an attitude with him. Well, right now he is at the store getting her Freon so her AC will work in her car again and put it in for her since she cannot do it herself and has nobody to do it. She told him that they don't have food so he is also going to get some groceries for her. This is just how my husband is. I absolutely LOVE how good he is to people, even people that are rude to him. He is a better person than I am, matter of fact better than most people are. I am proud to have him by my side. I just think he is an amazing person. He has his flaws of course like everyone else but boy he has an amazing heart of gold! Do you help people that have done wrong to you? Do you know someone like my husband that just turns their cheek and helps again?
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@marguicha (82941)
• Chile
13 Aug 12
My husband was a very generous man and you sohould be very happy to be blessed by having such a husband. But don´t be so harsh on the old couple. They might have been afraid of the future and not knowing what to do when your husband tried to lend them a hand the other time. Sometimes people feel that they have nothing left, feel very insecure and the only thing they have left is their pride. Let us hope that you never have to tell a neighbor that you don´t have food. For people who are not beggars, it´s very difficult to ask for help.
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• Jacksonville, Florida
14 Aug 12
Thats great that your husband was this way too. I do feel very Blessed to have such a great husband. I do not think I was being harsh on the lady. There is no need to slam a door in someone's face after they offered to help. I don't think that behavior is acceptable under any circumstances. It is not like she didn't know my husband. He has mowed her grass plenty of other times. She was pissy that day and took it out on him. I don't feel I am being harsh, that is the truth.
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@Hatley (162157)
• Garden Grove, California
14 Aug 12
hi no nobody no matter what age should slam a door in anyone's face when they had asked for help. thats just plain rude. I agree ]that behavior is just not acceptable at all.
@GardenGerty (92432)
• Marion, Kansas
14 Aug 12
Each of my husbands have been that way. They are truly jewels in the rough places of life. I am sure he knows how you appreciate him, too.
• Jacksonville, Florida
14 Aug 12
That is awesome GG. He is definitely a jewel. He does know because he always hears how proud I am of him and how I love how good he is to others. I truly love this quality about him. =)
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@Hatley (162157)
• Garden Grove, California
14 Aug 12
hi g ardengerty and lovingmybabies Some people like that are usualy guys altho we women can also help out of their hearts. My hubby had his faults but kindness and helping were not faults I tried to emulate him too but was not quite as giving whensomeone was really malicious to me.
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• Jacksonville, Florida
14 Aug 12
My husband definitely beats me with the helping part. I love to help but not someone who was rude to me for no reason at all without even so much as saying sorry for being rude last time. I could probably not do it. I give my husband a LOT of credit. He is a good hearted man. =)
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• United States
13 Aug 12
Wow, he truly does have a heart of gold. NOt many people would be like him and help someone who was so rude before when they tried helping. Even I don't think I could do that. I'm really bad about holding grudges and I'll stay upset about something for a while. I know it's not really a good way to be, but I can't help but let things get to me. I think your husband is an example we all should follow. Sounds like you found a good one!!!
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• Jacksonville, Florida
14 Aug 12
He does, sometimes it ends up hurting him but his heart is so good. I know, most people would ignore the other persons needs because they were rude before. Not my husband though. I don't hold grudges for a long time but the person has to at least apologize to me before I can completely forgive and move on. The lady never said she was sorry or anything! I did find an awesome guy. =)
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• United States
14 Aug 12
If she didn't even apologize for being so rude before, it would've made it a lot more difficult for me to help her out again, if I even decided to do it. She should've at least apologized to your husband, especially since he was kind enough to help her out again after she was so rude to him
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• Jacksonville, Florida
1 Sep 12
I agree that would have been the right thing for her to do but she didn't. My husband is just too good at times!
@AmbiePam (46429)
• United States
13 Aug 12
I hope she says thank you this time. I don't care how old anyone is, there is no reason for rudeness.
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• Jacksonville, Florida
13 Aug 12
I hope she does too. He has been helping her for a couple hours get her car fixed, there were little problems with it other than the AC. No there was absolutely no reason for her to be rude when he was trying to help last time. Hopefully this time will be different.
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@Hatley (162157)
• Garden Grove, California
14 Aug 12
hi Ambie Pam and Loving . I do agree that age should not make people rude and unkind. bu t here in Gold Crest I have met up with that wie some older people. You ask if they needed help and you g et snarled at. that just turns me off. when I have problems getting my w alker out the front door and some resident offers help I do not growl at him but allow him to help and thank him withall my heart. Age is no excuse at all.I know some older people want to do it for themselves bu t heck if you cannot do it thats not the person who as,ks you if you need help's fault sure its no fun to suddenly realize you really do need help but do not bite off the head of the person offering y ou that help. lol
• Jacksonville, Florida
14 Aug 12
Hatley, first of all I am so glad to see you! I was so worried about you and we missed you here. Nobody likes rudeness. I agree with you age is not an excuse, not a good one anyway. People do use it all the time though. Oh they are just old. Okay, that does not make it right though regardless. Hopefully she will be nicer to him from now on...
• United Arab Emirates
14 Aug 12
Very kind and a man with a golden heart. I hope others will do the same as your husband did. It is very rare to find people with golden hearts. Actually we share the same attitude. I help people without conditions even though they hurt me in return. My grandma tole me to treat everyone with LOVE, even those who are rude to you, not because they are not nice but because YOU are nice.
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• United States
14 Aug 12
You are a good person deep inside to help unconditionally. Your grandma is wise! We must do what we know to be right. It makes our heart feel good!
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@Hatley (162157)
• Garden Grove, California
14 Aug 12
hi fellow mylotters this made me think that someplace in the bible Christ said " those the least that you do good to you also do good for me. now thats in my own words b ut it is essentially what he said. so even if we do not much care for the person but still will help them fully are also helping the Lord too/
• United States
14 Aug 12
Hey Loving: I am happy that you are proud of your husband. He is doing what he knows to be right, regardless of how the other person responds. Sometimes people (elderly especially) have issues that cause them to have really bad mood swings (meds can do that). But we should always do what we know to be right. Since she is elderly and not just some lazy bum who won't work for a living, I think he is doing a good thing and he will be blessed for those actions. When we give out of a loving, pure heart, not expecting a payback or reward, I believe God sees that as a righteous thing. I'm not preaching to you, I just have a strong belief that we all should be caring for others. I do the same sort of thing - sometimes my husband asks me why when the recipient sometimes is not always grateful! But, I know that I have extra to share and I want to make someone else life a bit easier, so I give. HOWEVER, I am not so willing to help someone who is capable of doing more for themselves. If they are just lazy that is a different story. Continue to be proud of your husband, you have a real gem!
• Jacksonville, Florida
15 Aug 12
I am proud of him too, thank you. Yes elderly people have mood swings and such but to be honest I do not think there is ANY excuse to be rude to someone that is trying to help. I think that is wrong. My husband is so good though. He turns his other cheek and keeps helping. I love him for it. =) My husband helps everyone and anyone that needs it. He never says no to people, he just loves to help. I am very proud of him and I know God shows favor on him for having such a good heart.
• United States
14 Aug 12
your husband has a veryy big heart, i kno someone like that as well, other day my father was walking home from the store and seen a old old women mowing her lawn n offered to do it for her no charge just the peace that his heart will feel knowing she didnt break her back doing such a job, she was so thankful and just yesterday he picked his fruits and gave them to the neighbors, my son seen him do that and wanted to do the same, it brang tears of joy to my eyes hearing "i wana give em to the neighbors to mommy", i guess what they say is true "a smile or helping hand goes along way" that can really just pass on to other i guess "be the change you wish to see in the world" i lovee that quote and i cant wait for my children to become fine young men with big hearts just like your husband and my father!
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• Jacksonville, Florida
14 Aug 12
He does have a very big heart. He is the best person I know. I look up to him for inspiration all the time. Aw, your father sounds like my husband. That was so nice of him to mow the lawn for her. =) That is so nice that your son is following in his footsteps. It will be passed on which is great! I hope my husband will pass it on to our children.
@cher913 (25895)
• Canada
14 Aug 12
good for your hubby! it is nice to know that there are still good people in the world because all we hear about is the bad. as for me, yes, i believe that we should always do whatever we can for others no matter what.
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• Jacksonville, Florida
14 Aug 12
Yes there are good people in the world. I know because I have my husband to prove it every day. =)
@kylanie (1205)
• United States
14 Aug 12
My husband has three kids from a previous relationship and he has been paying for their insurance so that they can go to work recently he was paying for his son a car payment he gets mad at them and says he is not going to help them again but he does it anyways recently he had to go take them to the store since we let both vehicles go back tp the lothe has gone over there and took their trash to the dumpsters and even though at the time he did not like my daughters boyfriend he let them stay with us and him to work when he needed to go he had to bite his tounge at times to keep from saying things I am proud of him.
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• Jacksonville, Florida
14 Aug 12
My husband has days where he gets discouraged and says I am not helping anyone anymore. Then someone comes over and needs help. I always say I thought your not helping anymore. He said yeah I know but you know I love to help and I can't see them suffer. Lol. I know he will never stop helping and that is okay with me! It sounds like your husband is a great person just like mine!
• Portugal
14 Aug 12
your husband seems to be really sweet^^ most part of people wouldnt help that woman again. i mean she was really rude. but sadly i am like your hubby too. if people are bad to me and ask me for help i help. its not that im ashamed to be like this. but sometimes i wish i wasnt so good to others even more those that are bad. but its just the way we are^^ we have to help anyway. you must be proud that he is a good guy. take good care of him. he deserves it^^
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• Jacksonville, Florida
14 Aug 12
He is so sweet. =) I know, most people would look at her and say too bad you should not have been rude and I would have helped you. Not my husband though. He helps everyone, doesn't matter what they have done or who they are. He is a great person. =)
@winterose (39931)
• Canada
14 Aug 12
Your husband truly is amazing, I know lots of good people, but I don't think I know anyone would would continue to help someone who slammed the door in their face, but then again you never know.
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• Jacksonville, Florida
14 Aug 12
Yeah he is amazing when it comes to helping people. He has the strongest faith I have ever seen too. He is an inspiration to me. I am proud to be by his side.
@thesids (22453)
• Bhubaneswar, India
14 Aug 12
Hi LovingMyBabies Goodness and Love prevail and will win any one - so what if the winning is slow with some people who are staunch believers of hate and malice... Thanks for this wonderful discussion - I would keep returning back when the goodness in me is shaken and I need something to re-charge me. I try to be like you hubby most of the times, but yes, I would admit, I falter sometimes for a while... but then I forget whatever bad was done to me and I am back to the same me.
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• Jacksonville, Florida
14 Aug 12
Goodness and love do prevail. =) That is awesome that you will come back to this discussion to get a recharge. We all need that sometimes and your welcome. I am glad to help! Yeah I have fallen short too. That is why I have him to remind me and you have this discussion to remind you of where you want to be.
@jillhill (37354)
• United States
14 Aug 12
You are married to a wonderful man....tell him that there are so many who think so highly of him....I try to help when I can but if someone slammed a door in my face I probably would just write them off. He has a bigger heart then I do!
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• Jacksonville, Florida
14 Aug 12
I am. =) And I will tell him that. Thank you, that was so sweet of you. That is exactly what I am saying. I would not have helped again after I was treated that way! I could not believe when he said where he was going and who he was helping. I am so proud to have such a good man.
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@toniganzon (42814)
• Philippines
14 Aug 12
Yep I know someone like your husband. ME! My husband would sometimes ask me not to help those people who were very rude to me. But I just can't help it. I cannot refuse someone who needs help. You are very lucky to have a husband who's very kind. He really has a good heart.
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• Jacksonville, Florida
14 Aug 12
That is awesome that your as giving as him. I give a lot too but I would have a hard time doing it to someone that was SO rude to me for absolutely no reason at all. Not my husband though. He does have a great heart! =)
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@lynboobsy11 (11347)
• Philippines
13 Aug 12
My ex has a heart to everybody he is generous specially in helping people even sometimes the person has an attitude. I get mad at him sometimes that's what I thought people around us is abusing him for being so kind even sometimes at the end of his helping hand he will blame them for no reason. My ex will just told me it's fine as long I can help I will help.
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• Jacksonville, Florida
14 Aug 12
He sounds exactly like my husband! My husband does not care if the person has done wrong to him or talk bad about him he will STILL help them. He says the same thing, if he can help he will. I love that about him. =)
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@ladygator (3469)
• United States
13 Aug 12
I think that he sounds just great. I have a husband like that as well. He would do as much as he can for anyone and doesnt expect anything in return. He lets people borrow money all the time at work and that is something that I wish he would not do since we need the money that we have. And he will go extra miles to take people places and not ask for gas money in return. But he does it anyways and is just fine with helping people and loaning to people.
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• Jacksonville, Florida
14 Aug 12
He is so good to other people. I love that about him. He helps everyone when they need it. That is great that your husband is like this also. =) We need more people like this in the world that is for sure! He sounds just like my husband. Even if we are low on money if he sees someone in need he will help them. And he was always the taxi on any job he worked at and never asked for gas money!
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@NailTech (6892)
• United States
13 Aug 12
Yes, I do that with my own family who are often rude to me here. She is lucky to have him there for her when she needs groceries and such. he does have a heart of gold. God bless him.
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• Jacksonville, Florida
14 Aug 12
I do that with my family too but I would not put up with it from a total stranger and then go help them even though she could not even say sorry! He is better than I am. He does have a heart of gold. He is such a good guy. =)
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@hsofyan (3452)
• Jakarta, Indonesia
13 Aug 12
Your husband's great! I could not help people who are mad at me or insult me??. One more salute to your husband. I have much to learn from him.
• Jacksonville, Florida
14 Aug 12
He is a really good guy. =) It would be a tough thing for me to help someone who was so rude in the past and never even said sorry for it. I have a lot to learn too trust me, Lol. I have been with him for 8 years and I am still not exactly where I should be yet, I'm getting there though.
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• India
15 Aug 12
Hello my friend LovingMyBabies Ji, Well, You are lucky to husband like him. he is a kind hearted person, which will fetch both of you as he is helping knowing very well her attitude. Her attitude will change. But God will help you both certainely. May God bless You and have a great time
• Jacksonville, Florida
15 Aug 12
I am very lucky to have him by my side. He is an inspiration for me. =) He is more kind than most people I have ever met in my life. Yes God does show us favor all the time. God is so good to us and we help others with the Blessings He gives us.
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• India
16 Aug 12
Hello my friend LovingMyBabies Ji, Well, I am happy that my observation was not incorrect. Both of you are sailing in the same boat maintaining same freequency. Keep going. You understand each other. May God bless You and have a great time
• China
15 Aug 12
The Bible says to requite evil with good.your husband has a heart of gold.God bless you!
• Jacksonville, Florida
15 Aug 12
Yes my husband does this and I am so proud of him for it. God Bless You Too! =)