DIVORCE! What's the Positive nd Negative Aspect of it

By Ley
@dsw313 (320)
Philippines
August 13, 2012 6:55pm CST
In my country, Divorce is not allowed. Only Annulment that has no guarantee if it will be granted or not. Filing an annulment will cost you PHP 150,000.00-200,000.00(regular) or much, much more higher just to get the freedom they wanted. It is a big discussion in my country about having a divorce here. On your own opinion, what will be the negative or positive feedback having a divorce law?
7 responses
• Philippines
14 Aug 12
divorce will give positive result only to the couple if they don't have kids. because it's the kids who will gain the negative impact of divorce. that's why it is very important to think million times before saying "i do". it's just right that divorce is not allowed and would cost so much so that people will not just say "i do" easily to anybody.
@dsw313 (320)
• Philippines
14 Aug 12
yeah that's right. Do you think, it's better for couples to try living in together before saying I do? Some attitudes come out within the years of marriage :(
• Philippines
14 Aug 12
actually, i really don't like the idea of "live in couples" before but when my guy came here in my recent place to stay with me, that changed then. and that really helped me knowing better my guy that you would be surprised knowing that back then when you were not yet together you barely know him.
@dsw313 (320)
• Philippines
15 Aug 12
Me, too. I was very conservative about that topic before, but my point of view now has change, especially knowing that you'll never know the person until you'll living together for quite some time.
@asdomencil (4265)
• Philippines
14 Aug 12
I think we are the only country in Asia that is not yet legalized the divorce process. One of the negative of this one is that everyone will be tempted to marry without thinking much since they can get divorce easily unlike annulment that there are many requirements and it will really cost that much.
• Philippines
15 Aug 12
This rally makes the marraige a bit hard decision for everyone. Sometimes, there are individuals that will show you good sides when they are courting you and when you got married, they will show off their real attitude. You got a point there that diviorce is needed in some cases of domestic violence. Annulment in such case really cost much since psychological grounds is one of the reason most annulment cases became expensive. You need to hire experts to proove that your claim is true.
@dsw313 (320)
• Philippines
15 Aug 12
Yes that's the negative part of it, especially for people who got a lot of money to waste, to marry and easily can file a divorce anytime. Good for the one who have that intention and not thinking so many times before they marry someone, and Bad for those, who really cared for that marriage and trying their best to work it out. Also, good for people who suffers from domestic violence. or if their partner is having an affair or have a bad attitude.
@lovcie (116)
• Philippines
15 Aug 12
When a couple will enter marriage they are always reminded many times of the things and pain they will undergo when they decide to have separation or annulment. It is indeed true that kids are the ones much affected for said unfortunate decision to part ways for good. But as my ninang told us or as a well wish, everytime that we will have a misunderstanding, we should always look at our wedding picture to remind us how we have loved each other and that was the reason why we decided to get married. This will also remind us of our vows to each other which we have vowed to each other and the LORD.
@dsw313 (320)
• Philippines
15 Aug 12
As long as the love, respect and communication is still there, and also if the couple are not giving up to fix the marriage, there's hope. and you are true, just think of the good memories and the reason you knot the tie.
@Axai2012 (371)
14 Aug 12
There is no pain-free way to end a marriage. Divorce is a painful process for the whole family so I think that's one disadvantage that will cause trauma emotionally to the members and it is expensive as well. Advantages are it will save you from the misery of living with someone you don't love anymore especially when the marriage is abusive.
@dsw313 (320)
• Philippines
14 Aug 12
you are very right there, parents separating is very traumatic for the kids. But at the bright side of it, especially on what you've mentioned it is good for people who was suffering from abuse physically and emotionally.
• Philippines
15 Aug 12
divorce, what is the positive and negative aspect of it, for me i am favor of divorce here in the phillippines bec. why are some couples are need to stay in married if they are not happy in there partner. so if the answer is only divorce why they did not give it to us. and i hope our congressman will pass the bill in divorce and the rh bill. thank you
@moulee87 (320)
• India
15 Aug 12
Divorce! It acts as a tool between married couples to make them set free! In India, divorce case is not as bulk as other kind of cases because older people and the parents make the couples to understand that there will be misunderstand in relationship. Here we have people to help us understand what is relationship! That makes India to have less number of divorce cases compared to the other countries.
• United States
15 Aug 12
I do not believe in divorce unless there is abuse involved or infidelity. Divorce has been used too many times to resolve conflict in a lazy relationship. What is amazing to me is that if you can't resolve your conflict with the ones you love, then what does that have to say about you? I would never think about throwing someone out of my life just because differences. As with any marriage there are differences, conflicts, and hurtful words said. The key to not letting these things take hold of your marriage and ruining it is communication, understanding and just plain love. I wish divorces in my country were not as easy to get as picking up a newspaper from the store. I also wish people believed in the vows they said to one another on their wedding day. I do not want a disposable relationship. I work hard for everything I have, including my marriage. I must also add that sometimes it takes just one partner to keep the marriage together. That is where the love comes into play. For all those thinking of divorce, remember the grass always looks greener on the other side of the fence, but once you get there it is just like what you have back home. My meaning is if you can't compromise in one relationship, what makes you think you can in another.I know you asked about divorce, but there would not be a need for many if we treated our marriage like our jobs and strive to become successful.