criticize a lot

Philippines
August 14, 2012 6:23am CST
Some people can't just zip their mouths. They always criticize other people. I don't like criticizing other people. It's just a waste of time. How do you feel about these people?
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@silverfox09 (4708)
• United States
14 Aug 12
People are like that and I think we all have done that at some point . The bad things is a person who is not criticizing because they care and giving you constructive criticism but just trying to bring you down . I hate when people try to tear another down so they can look good .
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@tash01 (2030)
• Jamaica
14 Aug 12
none of us is perfect,and some point in our life.people try to make others feel bad,and i hate it.Why try to tear down your brother an sister,instead of helping them up you tearing them down. It's not good and i hate when people do that to other person.
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• Philippines
7 Sep 12
Yes, I agree to both of you. Instead of tearing hem down, we should build them up. Instead of criticisms, we should give them useful pieces of advice. That way, they will learn from us. Happy mylotting.
@NailTech (6874)
• United States
14 Aug 12
I know what you mean, I live with this almost daily too. Someone always has to point out something that is wrong and can't keep their mouth shut. It zaps your energy and shuts down your soul. They need to learn some tact. We should be put on the earth to help people and not harm them, that means verbally as well.
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• Philippines
7 Sep 12
Hello NailTech and bdfreelancer, I guess you both agree with me. Yes, I also don't like these people. They are so talkative. I hope they'll just keep their mouths shut if they can't say anything good. It's so tiring to listen to them. Happy mylotting to you both.
14 Aug 12
Ha-ha, I know what you mean. Some people will not just stop talking and criticizing about you, about everything you do. I have had this kind of people in my life. They are just too difficult to get along with. They just do not know to accept nice and recognise the good things. They need help to realise that they should not always criticize but praise good things in people.
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@Jshean20 (14349)
• Canada
14 Aug 12
A lot of people are like this, I try to stay away from them. I observe people everyday who are nice to someone in person and they talk about them when they walk away, shows what kind of friend they are and I want nothing to do with them.
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• Philippines
7 Sep 12
Yes, it's better to stay away with them than spending time with them. For me, they are hypocrites. We don't want any of these people in our lives. Happy mylotting.
@Fulltank (2882)
• Philippines
14 Aug 12
Well there are two ways to choose from when criticizing people. The constructive (positive) criticism and the destructive (negative) criticism. I'm sure that one you hated is the negative one. but sometimes we need to receive these criticism for us to judge ourselves and maybe change if ever there are negative traits that other people thinks of us. But be sure that you only give them if people are really asking for it. Negative criticism may hurt other people if simply intended to insult someone. but if given in the appropriate manner, it will give the other people a chance to correct himself.
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• Philippines
7 Sep 12
Yes, I am open to both criticisms, whether it is constructive or destructive. I am referring to people wo love keeping an eye on you. How you dress, weigh, fix your hairstyle, etc. Anything that they can see on you. Every move you make, they always have something to say. It's sickening, right. Happy mylotting.
@murkie (1103)
• Philippines
14 Aug 12
i agree. sometimes, we need to hear about these negative things about us. but at least, people should be considerate enough and that they should have the right to do so. imagine if an ugly person tells yo that you are ugly. em]confused[/em] well, that's just an example. but hope you got my point.
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@succeednow (1633)
• Singapore
14 Aug 12
Hi angel, It depends on whether you're criticising because you did not like that person or his behavior or you are doing it to help him improve. So the intent of your criticism is important. Having said that I'm not too keen on criticising people as I believe there is a better way by being tactful. Some people are so sensitive that they'll be offended at the slightest hint of criticism. Of course the diplomatic approach is harder to do as you'll require practice and experience otherwise it'll backfire. Have a nice day.
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14 Aug 12
Hello, what a nice way of looking at it! I totally agree with you. If criticizing anybody is meant for helping them improve their behviour it is certainly a good thing. Sadly, the truth is we will not often be able to criticize people to their faces lest they react inappropriately and insensitive way.
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• Philippines
7 Sep 12
Oh, yes. I agree with you both butthe way they criticize is not wanting other people to change. Like when they see you with a new hairstyle, they tell something about it. When they see you wearing a skirt, they will say something about it again. They will see you wearing short pants, they will say something again. Every move you make, they say something about it. It's sickening. Can't they mind their own businesses? I know, they have their free to express what they want but if they want that then they tell something about themselves. Somehow, I can deal with these people but I don't know if all people can deal with them. Happy mylotting.
• Honduras
14 Aug 12
[em]happy[/em better dont crticizing people live your life and dont judge their lives ok this a great oportunity to follow our life without peoplo
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• Philippines
7 Sep 12
I guess I agree with you. It's better to live our own lives than just criticizing each other. We should work as one and not to tear down each other. We should respect each other in order to have a harmonious relationship. Happy mylotting.
• India
15 Aug 12
Hello my friend angelkarah050182 Ji, Well, I think criticising some one is hilighting weak points and till then people will think that they are correct. But it should be done with positive sense. There is one gentleman by name LBJ (Lord Beydon Jhonson} a graet critic in English literature. Just log on to Boswell and you will find. E.g. on sliping by a Lady on public main road, everyone laughed but he commented that there wa snothing wrong other than that her vertical posture was changed to horizontal. So make criticism as healthy one. May God bless You and have a great time
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• Philippines
17 Sep 12
Yes, I get your point. Thanks for commenting. We always have to welcome constructive and destructive criticisms. It's for own good for sure. Let's just be sure we can handle them properly. Happy mylotting.
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• Philippines
7 Sep 12
Yes, I agree with you. If all people can make criticisms as healthy as that, that would be great. No one could get hurt. They will be happy to be criticized. Happy mylotting.
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• India
9 Sep 12
[b] Hello my friend angelkarah050182 Ji, It is only when someone accepts his/her criticism in positive manner and cirrects them in her/his own time, critism plays an important roll in one's life and as well as in society as a whole. We should first listen, thnk and then only form an opinions. May God bless You and have a great time
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@aerous (13434)
• Philippines
17 Aug 12
Well, we can't avoid being criticize. Even do we can good or bad they still criticize us. This is the reason there is a saying that "no body" is perfect. Better to this people to educate and let they know that criticizing good is a kind of bad attitude. Better to praise the good thing that other people to achieved not criticize them,right?
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• Philippines
7 Sep 12
I hope, when they say something negative, they would also say something positive. It should be neutral. Not always negative. We should criticize bad things and we should also praise good things about other people. That way, people won't be that upset. Happy mylotting.
@aerous (13434)
• Philippines
17 Sep 12
We can't avoid to be criticizer negatively, my friend. Criticism is good sometimes so that we may know what part in our life to be correct. Positive criticism is rarely happen because when they criticizer us positively no more argument to deal with. It might be good to be praise but sometimes we need negative responds... If they criticize you negatively, my friend. I think the better way to deal with those people will be answer them positively.
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• Philippines
17 Sep 12
It's good to be criticized with your work or with the way you behave, right? But not with the way you cut your hair, your outfit today which you considered good and conservative, etc. They make you the apple of their eyes. LOL. That's what I hate. Thanks for sharing.
@jaiho2009 (39142)
• Philippines
14 Aug 12
That is human nature- we criticize. Sometimes we criticize others unintentionally. But, criticizing other as a habit is not good anymore. We should always keep in mind that other people no matter how bad or ugly they are- there is always good in them. Sometimes people who criticize a lot are bitter in life.
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• Philippines
7 Sep 12
Yes, they are bitter. I hope they'll realize that what they do is just making us stay away from them. Instead of having friendship, they'll have none. They have to criticize themselves and change their bad habits, too. LOL. Happy mylotting.
@Paper_Doll (2373)
• Philippines
14 Aug 12
I remember that during those interviews that I have attended before, applicants are usually being asked if they can deal/accept criticisms. And they all answered YES. If I will be in the same situation, I might give the same answer. For me, it is one of the traits or qualities that can make people succeed in life. I have seen some people who always criticize other people, it has become a normal thing for them. They do not care if they would hurt the other person. I think that they are insecure. To show the world and to prove to themselves that they are better than us, they would usually find faults on us and would criticize us for that. But to some, this become a habit or a normal behavior. Some say that it runs in the family and would take that as justification for their behavior. It is really hard to be with those kind of people but if you are in a workplace, that kind of person will never be out of the scene so we really have to learn how to deal with this kind of people.
• Philippines
7 Sep 12
Yes, I agree with you. All people criticize whether it is constructive or destructive. We can't avoid being criticize so we'll have to welcome them and change for the better. Let's just hope that before they criticize, they should consider themselves first. Happy mylotting.
@pgiblett (6524)
• Canada
14 Aug 12
There is nothing wrong with critique when it is needed, but I do agree that some people have to have their say at all times.
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• Philippines
7 Sep 12
Yes, I agree with you. They just don't know when to keep silent. I hope that they will realize that talking unnecessary things is useless. Happy mylotting.
14 Aug 12
Ha-ha, I know criticizing people is not a good thing. But I cannot just help doing it when I see people doing something wrong or saying something bad around me. I know if criticizing does not help change their way of life, it is pointless to criticize. However, it is just such a shame seeing people doing all kinds of nasty things, saying bad stuff about others and so on and so forth. I just feel less stressed out by criticizing peoples behaviour and attitude which seem to me inappropriate.
• Philippines
7 Sep 12
Yes, I also criticize only bad behaviors and attitudes. I don't care of what you wear, how you weigh, how you deal withyour job, etc. We have our own lives to live. They should mind their own. It's okay to criticize our abilities, our character but not our clothings, our hairstyle, etc. Happy mylotting.
• United States
14 Aug 12
I cannot stand people like that. I have come to see that people who criticize others or judge them have many skelteons in their closet and it makes them feel better to rip someone apart. I ended a long friendship because of being judged. I just had enough and i do not have time for people in my life who judge everything i do. Never judge someone for their actions till you walked in their shoes and make sure your sins are spotless. Thats what i live by,.
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• Philippines
7 Sep 12
Yes, I agree with you. We don't need to criticize other people. If we are doing something wrong, of course we know it. We are the ones being affected. Constructive criticisms are beneficial but useless criticisms are just making us tired. It's better to mind our own business and they mind theirs. Happy mylotting.
• Latvia
14 Aug 12
Yes, I agree. There are some people that just can't stop complaining about what other does. They are so busy criticying other people that they don't do much themselfes. And they are more like disturbing and falling on nerves than heping solve situation.
• Philippines
7 Sep 12
Yes, I agree with you hundred percent. Those are the people I'm referring to here. They should mind themselves first before minding other people. That way, they can change themselves to become better people. Happy mylotting.
@ladygator (3465)
• United States
14 Aug 12
I agree whole heartedly with you about them zipping their lip and not talking ill of others. It makes me mad really because they really dont know what that persons life is and what they have been through. It also makes me think that if this is what these people say around me, what might they be saying about me when I am not around. I agree it is a waste of time that they could be using for something productive, like writing here on mylot!!
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@ladygator (3465)
• United States
7 Sep 12
And this gain can be seen as the mylot earnings, or they can also gain new perspectives on whats being shared. That is, if they choose to listen.
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• Philippines
7 Sep 12
Yes, it would be better if they will spend their time reading newspapers, writing here in mylot, etc. At least, they will make their time more productive. They will gain something. Happy mylotting.
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• Philippines
17 Sep 12
Yes, you are right. Joining mylot will make them earn a lot. Instead of talking a lot, it's better for them to write a lot. LOL.
@dloveli (4366)
• United States
19 Aug 12
I hate people who constantly criticize. If they have a good point or are criticizing me for safety or something then OK. This may sound crazy but I firmly believe that there are people who are mean spirited or bored and criticize just because. That's not fair. I try to avoid hose type of people like that. However, sometimes avoidance is impossible. For those situations i let them know, I AM NOT THE ONE! If you think you're gonna come at me in any type of disrespectful manner, you picked the wrong chic. Unfortunately sometimes you have to take a stand. No matter how rude you think you sound. People really care for you will understand. I have no time for the misery of others. After all they say"Misery loves company"... Happy MyLotting dml:-)
• Philippines
7 Sep 12
Well said, my dear fellow mylotter. What more can I say? I agree with you hundred percent. Happy mylotting.
@bellis716 (4799)
• United States
16 Aug 12
I wonder what they are saying about me.
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• Philippines
7 Sep 12
LOL. You want to find out? I hope, all of them are positive. Or at least, mostly positive and less negative. Happy mylotting.
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
7 Sep 12
Well, I do think that there are some times that criticizing another person is something that is acceptable. However, I don't think that it is always acceptable to criticize other people. It really drives me nuts when you meet someone that is constantly criticizing the behavior of other people. The main person that I've known in my life that was like this was my grandmother, bless her heart, she loved to criticize people for things like having a lot of kids and things like this.
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• Philippines
7 Sep 12
Oh, yes. Elderly are fond of criticizing people. Maybe, they don't have something to do so they just talk about other people. LOL. Yes, they drive me nuts too. I just close my sense of hearing so that I can't hear them talking nonsense. LOL. Happy mylotting.
• Vietnam
14 Aug 12
Hahaha. I'm the person who you are talking about. I sometimes criticizing other people, especially peoples around me. That's a shame! But I think that is normal. When you don't like what you have to let's the other people know it. I know nobody perfect, but why we must silent when the other people do the things we hate. Of course just when we sure we completely right we can critize. You know, there are some jobs that the worker just use their criticize ability. And maybe you know some worker do that work on TV show! Have a good day!
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• India
15 Aug 12
If it all not worthy, I don't prefer to talk with someone unnecessarily. We should understand that others also have shortcomings and if we understand the fact, we won't interfere in someone's case too much and it is better to let free.
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• Philippines
7 Sep 12
Yes, I know that criticizing people has advantages and disadvantages. However, useless criticisms aren't a big no-no to me. Like, when they can't say something right, how about keeping silent? Not all people want to be criticized. That's why in a group there are some walls built between them. If they have a problem with you, then they shouldn't criticize you. They should advice you. Happy mylotting to you both.
@else22 (4317)
• India
15 Aug 12
People tend to find out faults in and criticize others.Actually criticizing others is the easiest job for everyone.Critics don't see their own faults.They pick faults in others.I have also read a famous shlokaa in Sanskrit.It dubs such tendency as a fly tendency.Your whole body is neat and clean.Only one open wound is there somewhere on your body.A fly would never sit on the neat and clean parts of your body,it would sit on the open wound.Critics have the same tendency.They try to find our faults in others.But we should welcome being criticized.That way we can remove our negative qualities.
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• Philippines
7 Sep 12
Yes, I do agree with you. I am open to criticisms. Let them talk and let's listen if it's necessary. We know ourselves. We know when to change something bad in ourselves. Happy mylotting.
• Philippines
17 Sep 12
Yes, I agree that sometimes in our lives we need some people to remind us that what we are doing is something wrong or bad for us. However, people who always criticize especially unnecessary things already are not tolerable. We sometimes can't stand those anymore. You are welcome.
@else22 (4317)
• India
7 Sep 12
Right.If we are honest,if we are true to ourselves,we would always welcome critics,because it is they who show to us our faults that we miss to point out.We need their services.Thanks for commenting.
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