Public display of affection: how can you say its too much ?

Philippines
August 14, 2012 1:02pm CST
As an adult i hate it when i am seeing teenagers especially wearing uniforms, kissing, hugging or sometimes fighting with each other ! It makes me mad because i am a parent also and i am like, why wont you go to school? or how about going home and do your assignments or chores instead ? On the other hand, public display of affection is also cute and especially if you are the one doing it ! For you, how do you display affection and how do you limit it? Do you even care others looking at you with your partner or you don`t? We kiss, a light kiss everywhere even in the market or mall. We are married now so it is alright. I do have limits like i don`t want heavy and over kissing my wife because it is not good and inappropriate though. We also hold hands and hug each other a lot. I have read an article about this and it makes me wonder. It says that: "Public displays of affection are not necessarily synonymous with vulgar or inappropriate. They may even help to further strengthen a relationship. PDAs can also be regarded as a mutual gesture for showing conformity of love for each other. The main thing here is to take into account that you are not making those gestures at the expense of others. If your actions make the people around you uncomfortable, it is best not to indulge in such actions on the basic principles of civility. And if you really just cannot help showing your love for your partner then you should indeed ‘get a room’. " How about you? State everything !
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5 responses
@lampar (7597)
• United States
16 Aug 12
For me, it is not too much for couple to display their affection like kissing , hugging, holding hand etc..toward each other in public, they just want to express their love and care for thier partner, they may not be able to control their emotional need and feeling inside anymore, so they just let those feeling out, there is really nothing wrong, nothing obscence or unethical at all, it is inside every living creatures' DNA regardless it is animal or human to show affection. It is perfectly fine for me regardless they are youngsters or oldies. I would rather see them showing affection toward each other than shouting , throwing fist or kick boxing each other out in the public places. I can never understand why some people will stare at couple that display their affection in public and consider them as rude or outright obscense, obviously these watchers or people harbor such thought need to get their head examine by a psychiatrist immediately or should move to some regressive and deeply religious country in othe rpart of the world so that they don't need to see couple displaying their affection in public.
• Philippines
17 Aug 12
It depends on the place though like if you are in a kindergarten school you have to limit yourself. I agree that some people just need to remind them that it is none of their business. Some just wants to catch a rumor or something. Thanks for your response and have a nice day ahead
@lampar (7597)
• United States
17 Aug 12
If i happen to see couple displaying their affection, i also can feel the loving and transient euphoria atmosphere existed, it is a good feeling for me. It just amazing me those snoopy dog(religious extremists) will cry out loud about those couple displaying their affection and started pointing finger at them as thought they had committed a very violent act and unforgiveable sin, it is those snoopy dog that need to get a life and a grip inside their pathetic head before they drawn themselve into a deeper abysmal of religion extremism instead of those couple.
• Philippines
21 Aug 12
I have encountered this once. Not actually me but i saw a couple who are kissing like they are still early teens and there`s this nun who pointed at them and give them lecture or something about what they are doing. I feel awkward and i pitied the couple. They are wrong but that does`nt fix anything at all. It is so embarrassing, i have nothing against anyone though im just saying
@JenInTN (27565)
• United States
19 Aug 12
I am not one to publicly display a lot of affection. I hold hands and the occasional kissy peck but that is pretty much it. I think that full fledge making out or arguing is better left to the privacy of the home.
• Philippines
21 Aug 12
I agree. public display of affection is not bad at all. you just have to know how to control it and of course be aware of the place and the people around you. A little is also good in public, it can help us tighten our relationship. Thanks for your response and have a nice day ahead
• Philippines
15 Aug 12
I am also a parent and like you, I really hate it when very young couple like on their high school making too much public display of affection. I mean, they should be in school and giving more attention on their life as students. I right away think about their parents, for sure, most of the parents of these students don’t know what their kids are doing. And as a parent, the thought would really make me sad. My husband and I don’t also hesitates giving smack, hugging, and holding hands in the public, but at least we are already married and we are responsible of our actions. Even in the house, my kids are already used seeing us cuddling and hugging and giving a smack with each other. I love to hug my husband when he’s cooking my favorite my meal. I kiss him a lot when I just receive a flower from him. And before going to the office I’d give him a big hug and a kiss, same when I arrive. But with those actions, I always make sure that nobody would feel uncomfortable seeing it. I don’t give too much when people are around. It is when you start getting the attention of other people that they’ll stare at you, that’s the time when you’ll say it’s too much.
• Philippines
17 Aug 12
I agree. As a parent of course we would like our kids to focus on school more instead of dating. I am kinda strict because i have a daughter and i want to protect her more when it comes to this situations. I believe that there is a right time for a person to just focus on dating. "But with those actions, I always make sure that nobody would feel uncomfortable seeing it. I don’t give too much when people are around. It is when you start getting the attention of other people that they’ll stare at you, that’s the time when you’ll say it’s too much." -well said, i agree with you. Thanks for your response
@inertia4 (26298)
• United States
14 Sep 12
I see nothing wrong with public affection. I think it is normal, especially when you're in love. I see it more with younger people then older people. I guess thats because they are newly in love. But I have witnessed the elderly doing it also. Only in a more subtle way.
@hsofyan (3452)
• Jakarta, Indonesia
14 Aug 12
Here, making out in public, is considered impolite, or unethical.