How unreasonable could it be?
By LaLa Leo
@mrscallands22 (2852)
United States
August 14, 2012 11:41pm CST
So... I just made it over my 25 yr mark about 4 days ago... & I am beginning to clash with certain people now more than others... I try to be fairly nice to everyone that I come across or associate myself with... but now that I am a little older.. I feel myself becoming less tolerable of certain things and certain people. Over the years, I have accumulated a certain amount of friends and people whom I care about and associate myself with, everyone else to me is considered an outsider. I do not trust anyone really and the more people I meet and learn their frail ways that uncover when true colors show and I trust even less... So... tonight I am particularly uncomfortable being around people I don't "rock" with for lack of better words or ever seeing myself personally cool with, just mutually cool. I understand that I am older and they may come here to chill or feel comfortable coming here and bringing their friends here, but if you do not view them as being constantly welcomed, then a welcome can be indefinitely be worn out. Trying to be reasonable with accommodations with being cordial with living arrangements with my significant other, I try to be more than reasonable, but it is close now upon almost 1am on a Tuesday night. Not only do I have to be up to work in the morning, but people are singing loud as hell downstairs and we live in an apartment that not only do we live next door to senior citizens in a community where the police walk and there is a curfew, but the disrespect is pure disregard or someone else's home. I am really trying not to get angry, but it is getting harder with each passing minute.
4 responses
@echoforever (5180)
• United States
15 Aug 12
I think that as you age you are just becoming more attuned to who you are. You are maturing in yourself and those around you are not maturing at the same rate or you're realizing things that aren't staying common between you. I hope you can be respectful even though you're growing apart.
@mrscallands22 (2852)
• United States
16 Aug 12
I'm glad that at least one person shares my viewpoint. I was trying my best last night to be as cordial as possible. I work from home, so as I am upstairs working, I am trying to respect the fact that my significant other is entertaining his friends and their associates. They ended up leaving maybe an hour and half later, but still it was way past expected. My significant other is 23 and about 2 years younger than me so I can understand his need to be crowded by other people at times and also not to just be around me 24/7 so I try to respect that to make living arrangements easier for the both of us. However, I find a few of his friends annoying and try to be as tolerable as I can, at any rate.
Thank you for sharing your thoughts.. you made me feel lots better!
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@echoforever (5180)
• United States
17 Aug 12
I understand completely. I suppose with those times you might need to get out for yourself or find a way to entertain yourself. Where as it would be expected to "entertain" if they are also your friends but if not then it shouldn't be rude to excuse yourself perhaps?
Hopefully it will work out for ya.
@mrscallands22 (2852)
• United States
17 Aug 12
Yea, after I logged out of work (I work from home), I just sat upstairs the remainder of the night and got some side work done until my significant other's guests and friends left.. it wasn't too late.. a little after midnight. I texted his phone from upstairs and told him it was time to clear everyone out. We already received a notice of a complaint once from our landlord and I am not trying to be terminated from my lease for any foolishness that could be prevented. I'm on my grown woman status =)
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
17 Aug 12
I tend to believe that as we get older, we also have the opportunity to get to know ourselves a lot better. When this begins to happen, we will start to realize that many of the people that we had chosen to surround ourselves with really don't have all that much in common with us.
It is only then that you are really able to weed through the people that have been in your life and eliminate those people from your life that you have very little or nothing in common with.
@mrscallands22 (2852)
• United States
17 Aug 12
That's a hard process to undergo at any age though, not just 25 lol. I do not want to make anymore enemies than I already have.. and I already have quite a few here where I live and it's not because of no funny business, it's because I have a curse of being completely straightforward and honest, take it or leave it. And though, some people may ask for the truth and for you to "keep it real" with them, SOME people [they] can't handle it! I am so raw to the point where if I do not like you, I will not pretend to like you.. maybe it's a #LeoLife thing.. however.. I will attempt my best not to be mean to you or create controversy by completely ignoring the person in question's existence. From the date of wronged through the day after forever, that person's existence is futile and will never be acknowledged. I have had to eliminate a lot of frail individuals from my life, my inner circle and my team within the earlier parts of this year and I am satisfied with whom I have in my life right now to the fullest. This may sound selfish, but I do not wish to make any new friends, only associates so that I won't complicate something that's already so good and running so smoothly =) lol I guess this was a vent, but I needed it!
Thanks for sharing your insight, it was greatly appreciated!
@thersdae_me (327)
• Philippines
15 Aug 12
You are much younger that I am, but you too, are good at controlling your temper for guests. Yes, they are guests still, even if they are already causing you to lose your patience, as well as your neighbors' respect.
Good that you chose MyLot to breathe out your anger instead of telling them all to beat it and go home. Lol
Try your best to hold on to that last string of patience inside you. Who knows? Maybe they'll be packing up an hour after this post. Just try to spend your time opening more comments here in MyLot while waiting for them to finish since you won't be able to sleep anyway. Keep in mind that this happens every once in a blue moon and sacrifice if you still can so you don't end up hurting their feelings or losing some friends as a consequence. Try to divert your attention to other things that will make you feel better.
@mrscallands22 (2852)
• United States
16 Aug 12
I don't come to Mylot very often anymore, but when I do I try to either post something meaningful, how I feel or great insight on something! I appreciate your kind words towards my anger I was experiencing last night. I am definitely one of those types that will be pissed the F off on the inside, but try my best not to show it or show it subtlely as possible. And even then again sometimes, I may wear my emotions on my sleeve. However, I was avidly trying to be respectful of my significant other and his guests because he did invite them, but all is good.
Thanks for sharing your views!!
@jellsiguenza (147)
• Philippines
15 Aug 12
You should tell them that the party is over and that they should live because you have to go to work tomorrow and still have to clean the mess. I think they are very inconsiderate of you as the celebrator. They know for a fact that it's already past midnight and that you have work the next day. Besides that they are also aware that you are living in an apartment and not a single detached home. So they should act accordingly but they are not. So go down the stairs and tell them that they have to go. Belated happy birthday!
@mrscallands22 (2852)
• United States
16 Aug 12
Even though I seem mean in nature, I try to be as respectful as possible to anyone that hasn't proven themselves guilty in my book. So, therefore, I left the responsibilities of clearing everyone out last night to my significant other since they were his guests. We are tending to bump heads now more often, but I am working on communication and being more reasonable. I appreciate your insight though.
Thanks for your response and for the belated birthday wishes!
