What do you enjoy more in your married life as compared to when you were single?

Philippines
August 15, 2012 11:49am CST
Do you find your married life more enjoyable and happier than your single life in the past? In what ways do you find your married life more fulfilling now? You could also share if you find your single life better than now that you are married.
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@jureathome (5363)
• Philippines
21 Aug 12
Nothing compares to my life now as a happily married woman and proud mother of two. Being married makes me feel complete and gives me a reason for being. I feel so secure knowing that someone is there to love me fully and protect me from the world. And, I have a true friend, whom I trust my life with, in the person of my husband. I definitely won't exchange my free single life for what I have now, with my husband and kids.
• Philippines
24 Aug 12
In your case, you find your true partner who is simply right for you. If that is only possible in all romantic relationships, I don't see any reason why there would be divorce, annulment or separation between two married or unmarried couples for that matter. Anyway, you're very lucky to have found your true love...or he's the lucky one. I guess both of you are :D
• Philippines
27 Aug 12
I would confidently say that we're both lucky with each other. Both lucky and blessed, that is. We always tell each other that, every chance we have. Reassurance is also important for the relationship and romance to flourish.
@aejey322 (1006)
• Philippines
16 Aug 12
KIDS! I love being with my babies. My marriage experienced a lot of struggles... But just by seeing my babies makes me forget all about it. Especially if I hear their laughter, and see their smiles. I am always thankful I am blessed with them.
• Philippines
20 Aug 12
Wow, you really have very cute babies in the picture :) Yes, I guess besides one's relationship with one's partner the other factor in marriage that brings joy are the children...and I guess when one's relationship with one's partner is not working so well, the kids are the ones which saves the relationship or which still gives meaning and joy in the relationship and in the marriage. I can only see this with those close to me and their marriage life and what they tell me. I hope someday I could have cute babies as well :)
• Philippines
20 Aug 12
...that would be accomplished the easiest if I could find a cute wife..lol :)
• Philippines
21 Aug 12
I am not yer married so I do not know exactly the advantages of being married. But for me, as what I think of it, when you're married there will always be someone who you can share everything about you. Your partner will always be your companion. FOr example you need to go shopping or grocery, when you're single you'll always look for who is available to accompany you, but when you were already married, automatically it is your husband / wife that will accompany you. WHen you have problems, most of the time you can lean to your partner because you two live together. You'll not feel alone because there is your better half just beside you.
• Philippines
25 Aug 12
Yes, what you have just said reminded me of the Bible part where it says that the man leaves his parents and clings to his wife. I'm not sure if I remember the exact words but I guess I'm near :)
@Porcospino (17825)
• Denmark
20 Aug 12
When I was single I travelled a lot and I lived and worked abroad. During a short period I lived in 4 different countries and at that time I loved the freedom that I had, because I was able to take the jobs that I wanted and live where I wanted without discussing those things with a partner. Today I am married and I am very happy that I am married. I have a great life with my husband and I don't miss the freedom that I had in the past. When I was younger I didn't plan on getting married at all I thought that I wanted to be free and travel around for the rest of my life. I still like to travel today, but I don't miss living way that I did in the past, because my relationship is much more important to me.
• Philippines
24 Aug 12
That's what I call destiny. When you didn't plan something and it happened and you found out it made your life happier because of it, or him, I would say that's destiny. I do hope my destiny would be similar to yours because by now for some reason I am not in a hurry to look for someone while I'm already in my middle age. I guess everyone has different destinies.
@LittleMel (14055)
• Canada
17 Aug 12
I like single life because I can do anything I want at any given time the only thing I need to consider is money situation now that I am married I can't just do anything I want some things I can, some things I can't not only I have to consider money situation I also have to consider his opinions but I like married life too because we share our troubles with each other things I don't tell other people, I can always tell him it means a lot, as I am very private by nature and keeping things to myself all the time certainly are not very healthy he has his flaws and I have mine. going 12 yrs together, I can't see myself sharing my life with anyone else he is my best friend, my husband, my life partner I can't say I am happier as single or as married because both lives I have found happiness in
• Philippines
20 Aug 12
I can see now that both stages in life have their positive and negative aspects, so I guess it's up to us to focus on the positive aspects for each stage...single or married. For me, I'm happy being single now because I chose to focus on the good side of my being single so I don't dwell on thoughts like "what a sad and lonely life I have now without a partner" but I usually find things to enjoy while being single...especially something that is attached to my freedom. I'm sure the moment I get married, there would be a great change in my life but a change that I would be happy and prepared to face :)
@Fulltank (2896)
• Philippines
16 Aug 12
Although there are lots of things that I can't do now that I'm married compared to when I am single, I think I could honestly say that I am being married is the most important thing that happened in my life. Before getting married, i think I had spent all my single years doing what a typical single person would do. That "things" that I enjoyed most was now hidden in one part of my memory as an experience. And those experience will be treasured for the rest of my life. Now that I'm married, it brings me new outlook in life which in turn will turn to be treasure as time past by. I think I cannot compare the two, as they are two distinct event in my life. I cannot bring back my single years (or leave the present to be on the past). I can only treasured those years as part on my quest to happiness. And if I can compare them, I would say that my life now would not be so happy if not for the things I've done on the past.
• Philippines
20 Aug 12
I can understand what you're trying to pount out Fulltank. These two phases in life should be enjoyed you it's for one's own good to be happy while single and to be happy as well the moment you get married. Life is a blessing, whether single or married. I'm happy now being single, but I do dream of being married someday and hopefully in the near future. It's not "i will be happy only when I get married to someone I love" but you need to be happy now while being single and in my belief that would be the guarantee you will also be happy ( or even happier ) the moment you find that someone in your life. Anyway, I'm in my middle age right now...lol.
@Luchie50 (51)
• Philippines
16 Aug 12
hi mylotter ,its been a while and been away for quite sometime, but at last thanks coz i have time now for mylot. i missed reading the various topics which is so interesting, and this topic calls my attention .Hi betterDays4Me,I want to share something to your discussion . I am married for 40 years, blessed with 3 kids . they're all professionals and have their own family . as i see my life being married is so much enjoyed , happier and fulfilled. Having a loving husband ,caring, good provider , responsible and understanding is really a blessing and i don't ask for more. I too obtain my profession with the efforts of my husband, he send me to school when were already married and now I am a successful teacher. 10 years from now were celebrating our golden anniversary if God's willing. thank God for the blessing
• Philippines
20 Aug 12
Hi Luchie, thank you so much for sharing your marriage experience :) I think you're one of the lucky ones who is blessed with such a good relationship with your husband, and I can only guess how good your husband is...as a provider as well as a husband. I just hope I could be like that the moment it would be my turn to be married and be a husband someday. Well, for now I see some people close to me who have broken relationships and it is saddening to think that they are so close to you and yet they are unhappy with their married life. Others married life are working though, so they have a more secure and happy married life. I therefore find it most important in the courting stage to make sure that both of you are getting along so well with each other and being sincere and transparent and hiding nothing...real and intimate friends. Mine is all theory right now...lol. Anyway, I feel that i is my destiny to marry late in life and I believe that prayer is the most important factor in choosing the right partner in life, because God will be the one to draw that person in your life...I do believe that, but I will do my part in the searching as well..."seek an ye shall find..."
@jazel_juan (15767)
• Philippines
16 Aug 12
What i enjoy most right now is having someone to hold me when i am feeling down.. and that i have someone to pig out at night too!
• Philippines
20 Aug 12
So it boils down to loving the company of your partner, because I heard that in relationships that aren't working both couples can't stand the presence of each other...a sad but true reality to some relationships. Anyway, I'm so glad to hear a lot of relationships working so well like all mylotters sharing in this discussion right now.
@Paper_Doll (2376)
• Philippines
15 Aug 12
My life is a lot better when I was still single but I can't say if I am happier than I am today. I appreciate to have someone beside me always. When lights suddenly went off (blackout), it is really nice to have someone beside you. Although both of you cannot see in the dark, having someone to hold your hand is like having an eye that can see in the dark.
• Philippines
20 Aug 12
Wow, what a touching image you have just given us. I surely hope I would find someone whom I could be so close when night time comes :)
@blue65packer (11835)
• United States
15 Aug 12
Married life for me would never work! I am single and like it that way! If I would get married I would not be having any privacy,have to work my schedule around that person,I really don't know how to work on a relationship,I have seen way to many awful marriages,I become my mom(which is realy bad) and become dependent on the other person! So single is the way for me and always will be! I don't even date anymore! I am truly single and like it that way! No headaches,no fighting,no dealing with another person,I have my privacy,I can do what I want to do and when I want to! I am dependent on myself! That is the way I like it!
• Philippines
16 Aug 12
Yes, I believe everyone has different callings in life and who knows...I may also have the same calling like you, being single in my middle age now...but I don't worry and I stay focused on being happy and content. As you said, there is a lot of freedom being single. I hope I find someone who would help me keep a part of that freedom so that I won't feel choked in the relationship. I think it's about giving some breathing space for your partner once in a while...to find time for him/herself once in a while...maybe let them meet with their old friends or travel alone at times. I think we needed to be somehow detached with our married life somehow in a way that we give our partner a chance to have some of his/her freedom for themselves.
@SomeCowgirl (32270)
• United States
15 Aug 12
I am now divorced so this is first talking about my mrried life and then before I got married and now that I am divorced. Married Life : It was okay at first, started off semi great but then got rocky, we eventually drifted apart and finally separated. I wish we could have worked things out, or atleast I did for a long time but now not so much. Before Marriage : I had always dreamt of getting married and in retrospect that probably helped "rush" it a little bit, but I also was in love. I wanted to get out of the situation I was in as well. After Marriage : I am back in that situation I was talking about before marriage BUT I am also stronger for it and I realize that I can't go doing what I had done before. Right now I'm not sure if I will ever get married again but I know I still have a lot of things to accomplish before I can even think of a relationship as well. So that's just my take on everything. It hurt for awhile after getting separated, but once we were divorced it was like a relief.
• Philippines
16 Aug 12
I'm sorry for what happened but I think in whatever situation we are placed, we still find a lot to be happy about. As you said, you even feel more relieved when you were divorced...meaning there are a lot of difficult loads that has been removed from your life. Yes, life goes on and who knows...you might find a person who will be right for you. Anyway, it's funny to think sometimes that many single person really desires to get married but many of them also didn't know that getting married has a lot of challenges and crosses along the way.
• Indonesia
15 Aug 12
approximately 50% to 50% i think,because there is always positive and negative in all matters in the world.when we were single we are free for going anywhere,not at home,etc but the real downside we must be lonely and like the other people want to have a husband/wife and having a children.when we were married the downside we cannot free doing everything we want like we were single but from married we can learned to be adult,have responsibility and many more.so at the very least there is nothing better than other in my opinion :)
• Philippines
16 Aug 12
I think you have a real good point, so it all boils down now on our own attitude...on how we view our own lives, whether we are single or married. If we decide to be happy while married, then I think we would be happy and the opposite is true. It goes the same if we decide to be happy while still single. I think attitude rules :)
• Jacksonville, Florida
15 Aug 12
I definitely enjoy being married rather than being single. I love that I have a best friend that is always here for me. I like that I have someone so close to me to share my faith with. I love having our children together. I like the fact that I no longer have to go through tons of heart breaks to find my soul mate, I already have him. =) Being married is such a Blessing to me. I am so happy with my husband by my side.
• Philippines
16 Aug 12
Congratulations LovingMyBabies for having been blessed so much to find the right soul mate who gives you joy and who also gave you a family to love. Like you, I also wanted to find the right soul mate for me so I hope if I keep praying she may come to my path sooner or later :)
@liguoping (181)
17 Aug 12
lonely!marriage disperses lonely,which is fatal to single man,but at the same time,marriage takes freedom,which is also priceless.so i think marriage is a double-sword.