Filipino married to a Japanese problem

Philippines
August 17, 2012 4:36am CST
A few years ago my 18 years old younger sister work in Japan to support her daughter. She met a guy there, had a child with him and after the child was born, they decided to get married here in the Philippines. while in the process of getting married, my sister found out that her fiance was just recently divorce to a Chinese woman and had a son same age with their son. note that the guy's divorce is January 2006 and married my sister in May 2006. 1 week after the wedding he went back to Japan to resume his work. Her husband came back in the Philippines on December that year, they have a big argument about his mistress. After that incedent, the Husband went back to Japan, their relationship is gone awry and her husband give her a financial support for only a year and it stop. he did not give any financial support even for his son. My sister is trying to reach him but he cant be reach because he change his cellphone and he move out. My sister also finds a way to make contact with him through the filipino-japanese foundations but to no avail because he cannot be found. just recently my sister receive a divorce paper, her husbnand wants to marry again so he filed a divorce but later he found out that his marriage with my sister was registered in Japan, without him knowing it. my sister will agree with the divorce with her own terms, her terms is that her son, will be registered in Japan, that she can go to Japan to work again and her husband will support their son. but the husband will file a complaint against her regarding the registration of their marriage in his home country allegedly without his knowledge if my sister will still insist her terms. Later, my sister heard from an acquaintance of someone she knew, who lives in Japan that she won't win the case. How true is this? but should my sister concede to what her husbands wants and just agree to the divorce without demanding anything from him, my nephew will lose it all, which is out of the questions. Besides, it has been quite a long time since the husband gave some support to his son. please anybody, if you know anything to help me so i could help my sister, it would be great.
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4 responses
• Philippines
18 Aug 12
its not important where you came from or what race you belong to as long as you love each other, in times of problem you both carry and resolve it. For me, it is not difficult to marry a race other than me because its how you express your love to the one you agree to, love to, and support through understanding each other.
• Philippines
20 Aug 12
thank you for the response
• Portugal
17 Aug 12
i dont know much about it. but if your sister got married to this guy and it is registered in japan and in pinas it is legal^^ your sister should fight for her rights. the biggest problem is to find a good lawyer. but im sure she will. usually courts give rights to the woman and not to the man. bcs there is a kid involved. so they usually give the rights to the mother. your sister should fight for her rights. if she just signs the papers she will never know what could had happen. all she needs is a good lawyer. i wish everything be fine for her.
• Philippines
19 Aug 12
as it should be, however, this is not the case in Japan, as what her aquaintance is telling her. also she does not have enough money for lawyer because she is feeding two children now. thank you for the concern and response sweetloveforeve
@koopharper (6291)
• Canada
17 Aug 12
Sounds like the guy is just rotating different women through his life. I don't know whether your sister will win her case but she should fight for the support he owes his son. She didn't trick him into anything and as the father he should take responsibility for the children he helps create.
• Philippines
19 Aug 12
my thought exactly koopharper. that was what i told my sister but she is afraid that she will not win the case because we really dont know if she break the law in Japan by asking some friends in Japan to register her marriage there. as a responsible person, he should be. however that is not the case with this guy. thank you for the reply koopharper
@toniganzon (47891)
• Philippines
17 Aug 12
Under the Philippine law, it is quite legal that the marriage of Japanese citizen in another country should be registered in his own home country. International law doesn't prohibit that registration because the marriage was legal in the first place. The husband is just threatening your sister about that complaint. There is no such thing as complaining against marriage registration when the marriage actually took place and is valid. The best thing that your sister should do is consult the immigration about this so the immigration would demand support from the husband. And she shouldn't sign the divorce papers without consulting a lawyer. I'm sure the immigration would provide her one.
• Philippines
19 Aug 12
thank you for this info toniganzon, i will tell my sister about your suggestion.