Can you spot an online Liar?

@prashu228 (25520)
India
August 17, 2012 8:20am CST
hello friends, We cant believe everything , we read on internet. There are many people who faced many problems due to their, lack of knowledge or anything in finding the truth. I heard and even saw many cases who are the victims .A girl (from my college) met a guy online, started loving him, even went or i can say eloped with him, the result, as in most cases, after spending time with her, the guy vanished, the girl now in mental trauma, many lost money , etc the cases are endless. Friends , can you spot an online liar? if so how? please share your valuable opinions.
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20 responses
• India
18 Aug 12
Now a days technology is very much developed and lot of persons started to scamming using the internet. It is really hard to spot out the online liars, since they are available in various sort. Mostly this kind of scams seems to be a real persons and acting very smartly to cheat the innocent persons. We must be very careful with them. Mostly this kind of scams are using the social sites and make good friendship with others and try to start their innocent online friends in various ways. Young Guys using the social sites to target the girls and arrange meeting and dating with them to spoil their life. Girls who are using social sites must be very careful to spot out this kind of scams. Don't believe online love, it is really hard to find a real person using online sites. Some persons may use fake profiles to cheat the girls and already have relationship with lot of girls using the social sites. To avoid this kind of issues we must avoid online dating. Different kind of scams are available in online earnings and they are promising in various ways, don't believe the fake promise, it is really hard to make a good income from online without our hard work and experience. At the beginning it is really hard to spot out this kind of scams, with our experience we can spot out the online liars easily.
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@prashu228 (25520)
• India
18 Aug 12
hi, i agree, many many scams, lots of people are just spoiling their lives, in spite of many warnings in the media, but still people do become victims, yes technology has helped us in many ways, it depends on how we use it.thank you for the response
@drow1212 (169)
• United States
22 Aug 12
hello, true there are a many of con artists and scammers in the world. That is horrible the girl had to go through that and i hope she's able to recover as best she can.
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@yugasini (12839)
• Anantapur, India
17 Aug 12
hi prashu, i know liar but what is online liar,we cannot spot such online liar,first off ,when you are meeting physically online friend take care of your self and why should she gone with him, the true lover does not asks for lust, the liar only wants lust,but this also happens according to our fate only, most of the people are traveling why some people are dying,that is their fate,have a nice day.
@prashu228 (25520)
• India
17 Aug 12
hi, yes , some people are so unlucky, they just go on the wrong side, without a thought. thanks for the response.
@yugasini (12839)
• Anantapur, India
18 Aug 12
hi prashu, thanks for the response, have a nice day.
@garson (886)
• United States
24 Sep 12
With anything else, I would be curious about this particular case. When this girl find that guy online, was she having difficulty in relationship with a guy? How long were they together before he dump her? Was the girl really from a wealthy family?
@prashu228 (25520)
• India
18 Oct 12
the guy was very good, when they met online. she just used to talk with him on phone, then slowly i think the boy visited her place. It was not a long relationship . They spent one month after eloping. suddenly the boy disapeared one day.
@GemmaR (8526)
18 Aug 12
It is very hard to be able to see whether people are telling the truth on the internet unless you're an expert, because people can just type anything they like, and you don't get the actually see the way that they react with their bodies when they're saying the things. Because of this, then you should never trust anybody that you've never met before, as people have been tricked many times by people saying things over the internet that just aren't true at all. This is why people might not believe things that you say because there is no way that they can tell that you're telling the truth either.
@prashu228 (25520)
• India
18 Aug 12
yes its difficult to find, its better to be away from all these stuff.thanks for the response
• Philippines
18 Aug 12
There are many abusers online. We can never fully trust people online. Guess what's important is we take serious precautions every time we engage ourselves in the internet esp with social network sites. It's a rule we must bear in our minds when we hit the keyboard.
@prashu228 (25520)
• India
18 Aug 12
hi, yes, we should keep it in mind, but many people ignore this, thanks for the response
• India
18 Aug 12
The best way to spot an online liar is very simple. Mostly you people meet on online chat or dating . If you doubt him, simply create another username and chat with him as if you don't know about him, then keep the conversation going .At one point ask him, whether do you have a gf or can i be your gf? just some questions like that. if he says that he is committed to this girl then chances are there that he may be genuine but not always necessary. if he says no, then you can easily find out whether he is true to you or not.
@prashu228 (25520)
• India
18 Aug 12
hi, nice idea, thanks for the response
@KrauseHome (35507)
• United States
17 Aug 12
Well, even if the man lives close to you, it is hard to know if you can Trust them or not. Many times later on you find they are married, etc. and often are left heart broken for sure. In reality a person might sound nice online, on the phone etc. but you need to let your heart be your guide. Women especially need to take time to get to know the man they are going to live with, especially if they have just met. You need to get time to decipher them and allow their instincts to win you over until you really know them. There are TOO MANY FAKES out there in this world, and many are just out to use you. So be careful in who you let in and use your better judgement, and hopefully things will be better from there.
@prashu228 (25520)
• India
17 Aug 12
thanks for the valuable reply. sometimes we fail to judge even those whom we know from years, so , its better to keep away from strangers.
@Porcospino (19623)
• Denmark
17 Aug 12
A girl from my husband's family experienced the same thing as you described. She met a man online, they became a couple and they also moved in together. Her boyfriend spent quite a lot of money and one day he simply vanished with a trace and the girl was stuck with all the bills. She has lots of debt now and it will take her a long time to pay the money back She trusted him, but he took advantage of her and ran way when there was no more money left. I have been able to spot some of the online liars that I have met, but I was fooled one time. Nothing serious happened, we had one meeting and during our meeting I quickly noticed that he had lied about a lot of things and I knew straight away that I wasn't going to meet him again. Before our meeting we had exchanged emails from a while and I had a pretty good impression of him from the emails, but when we met I discovered that hís online personality and his real personality were very different. When I discovered his lies I totally lost my interest in him.
@prashu228 (25520)
• India
17 Aug 12
hi, yes, we see many cases, and the victims are girls, there are lot of warnings from media and others but still, people are just blind,thanks for the response
@mikyung (2234)
• Philippines
17 Aug 12
Online scam - Online scam, we can avoid if we try to investigate, go onto forums,etc.
If something is too good to be true, there is a possiblity that that is scam. To better determine the status, we may verify it to third parties, go into forums, research and investigate. It's our choice if we have believe on a statement without reservation or qualification but we need those supplements that could save our day. Thanks
@prashu228 (25520)
• India
17 Aug 12
thanks for the response
@marguicha (106044)
• Chile
17 Aug 12
What you are telling us is not so much as whether we can spot an online liar, but whether we should think we "love" someone we have never met. Language says a lot, but also our eyes catch our body movements, our senses are all evaluating someone, whether it is a friend, a colleage or a lover. So I´d say the girl must have had problems before she "fell" in love. Love is not something you fall into, as at an abyss, it´s a complex feeling where chemistry, respect and knowledge are combined.
@prashu228 (25520)
• India
17 Aug 12
hi, some people don't realize the difference between the love and the lust, they don't realize all the other things, if they do so, then all these problems wouldn't have arised.
• Vietnam
17 Aug 12
Even in the life, we can be lied by anyone we didn't know. There are many bad people, you know. So, the internet is more dangerous, because we don't know really clearly the people we are talking. Many time, there are many massages send to my email say that they know me and want to make friend with me or date with me. Of course that's so easy to know they are lieing. Have a good day!
@prashu228 (25520)
• India
17 Aug 12
hi, yes , even my friends experienced similar one, cant understand why people are like that, anyways , we should be careful .thanks for the response.
@ravisivan (14053)
• India
17 Aug 12
yes. everybody should be cautious online and offline. more so women and teen age girls should be very cautious. many teen age girls post their photos without protection and people download and they can misuse it. online love --25% only can succeed. balance 75% will fail because expectations online are different from real life. prashu - be careful. for oldies like me no problem--even here we should be careful in getting into problems with cantakerous people.
@prashu228 (25520)
• India
17 Aug 12
hello sir, yes very cautious, i heard of this photo tagging and all, i am never interested in uploading any personal pictures, thank you for the concern.
@Micmac (9733)
9 Dec 12
Too bad that girl got jilted by that guy. Spotting an online liar is not easy. Some liars use many gimmicks and false personalities to fool a girl. One has to investigate the person they meet online if they want to be sure they are truthful, check their background. If a person makes a proposal of marriage without knowing you, then run as fast as you can. They are usually frauds and want to spy on someone for no good purpose.
@Badkid (235)
• Philippines
3 Dec 12
I dont know how to spot an online liar..I cant see them so I dont know if he/she lying..
@pgiblett (6576)
• Canada
22 Aug 12
I am not sure about liars generally, but as a moderator for an on-line publication site we are able to spot plagiarists easily enough.
• United States
22 Aug 12
Some people are just users and this kind of thing happens all the time offline and still probably would have happened if she met him on the street face to face and started dating him. Online if it gets to the point where you want to go away together then maybe a background check would be in order because after online dating, next should probably be offline dating before going away together. Or at very least make sure he has a legit online presense on several social networks and see how he interacts with people, how often his location changes, real pictures on all of them and especially facebook so you see how he interacts with his "real friends" and "real family". If the person is elusive, no pics and has hardly any real friends and family online, they might be hiding from something.
• Philippines
20 Aug 12
I can share some tips so that you may not be betrayed online. 1. Never give a personal details unless it is necessary in what you're talking about. giving personal details like your full name, or exact address can bring harm on you and your family. I think, if he's very much interested in you personal details without the attachment of any relationship,think of it. why he has to know everything about me. If the answer does not have any relevance then stopped talking to that guy or person. People who has a bad intentions on you has to know you very well that's why be careful in giving your personal details. 2. Never ever give your BANK ACCOUNT Number / NAME. 3. When he asked you to meet up, always bring one of your friends. Don't worry, if he really wants to see you, he'll accept the idea of bringing your friend. 4. Camera or video conversation is necessary. It is for you to tell on his look what kind of person he is. And be sure he is not recorded! 5. The way he talks. You must observe it properly. Most people who has bad intentions on you would definitely compliment everything about you because ha has to get your trust or build rapport. Hope this things help! As much as possible, don't look relationship online when personally, you can boyfriend in your life that has existed and you prove their characteristic.
@Paper_Doll (2375)
• Philippines
20 Aug 12
I think that those incidents can be avoided. Those kind of incidents have already happened in the past so many times and we are always reminded not to trust easily those we met online. Nowadays, some people just met someone on the internet and after days of chatting or exchanging messages, they will already go out for a date. Well, I don't see anything wrong in going out with someone unless you know how to take care of yourself like you only go with him in public places like malls and restaurants. I don't think it is right to say yes when the guy invited you to his house. Remember that you don't know anything about this person and what he said to you may not true. Another good thing to do is bring someone with you. I know that it is kind of conservative thing to do, but if the guy is really interested in you and serious about you, I am sure that he will agree with that. It is really hard to say if someone is lying to you, whether online or in real life. Some are good in lying and pretending. So before going out with someone, make sure that you are not putting yourself at risk. I don't see anything wrong if you would take a little investigation about his background like where he lives, where he works, his phone number at work and especially at home. Some guys will give their personal number but won't give their number at home. Beware of it because they might be hiding something. Search over the internet. Was he really an employee of the company he said to you that he is working for. Call his employer and pretend to be someone from credit companies who are doing a background check. A friend once asked me to check on a guy he met abroad. She is in a relationship with the guy but of all of the sudden, the guy filed for a two weeks vacation to return home. She was having doubts about it so she gave me a number when the guy returned abroad. I called the number and the father of the guy answered. I said I was his son's friend and I heard that he returned home from working abroad. The father said that his son has already returned abroad. I said that is too sad that I was not even had the chance to talk to him then ask if he was already married. The father said that his son actually went home to marry her long time girlfriend. When I told about it to my friend abroad, she was very disappointed and heartbroken because the guy is with her and as if nothing has happened. She said that the guy did not seem to have conscience because after marrying someone in their country, he is still have the courage to stay on a relationship with her. So whether it is online or real life, it is really hard to know if someone is a liar. If you are having doubts, do not hesitate to make confirmations because it may save you from more troubles and heartaches.
@hsofyan (3448)
• Jakarta, Indonesia
19 Aug 12
I think that fraud can occur because of two reasons. 1. Other smart people cheat. (outside of your control) 2. You are too trusting. (inside of your control)