You can Change it..

India
August 18, 2012 6:01am CST
Just now i replied to a topic stated that the topic creator is surrounded by bad persons and his/her heart is impure due to the surrounding. In my opinion the topic creator have the ability to change the heart of the other people with his/her activity. Bad people have the ability to spoil the good person, then why don't the good person have the ability to change the bad persons in to good one? We have the ability to change others with our attitudes and activities. A person with optimistic view will see the positive thing in the negative result and change the negative one in to the positive with his optimistic thoughts. Most of the criminals and terrorists blames their surrounding for their mistakes, but i think it is their silly excuse the come out from the punishment. We don't give importance to this kind of lame excuses. We all have the ability to live our life as per our wish and no one have the rights to force us to do a thing without our interest or knowledge. We are responsible for all our activities and others never become a reason for our faults or mistakes. Do you agree?
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18 responses
@dharanil (319)
• India
18 Aug 12
Hi, I agree with you we can change a bad-minded person to a good-minded person. Changing bad to good may be easy to say and to write but it is not that much easy to do. Have a depth look into the guy's say 'surrounded by bad persons' and think practically. The side which has majority will dominate, he is surrounded by full of bad-minded persons i.e they are more in nos., then how can he give his good views to them or how can he change them all(not a single man). Its better to avoid those persons and search for people who are like-minded of him. Surroundings(society) and our family will play the vital role in determining our character, attitude and behavior( it is the True fact). It may be misused in some/few places...
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• India
19 Aug 12
Hi friend, you are right, we can keep distance from this kind of persons, it is far better than changing our self for this bad persons
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• Mathura, India
21 Aug 12
Not so hard my dear friend dharanil. But we should need to have ability to become like learned peoples as Kabira, Bihari, Tulsi and so many others.
@jadoixa (1171)
• Philippines
18 Aug 12
i believe that we all have the ability and will to convince any person around us to change for the better. but we cannot always force a person to change his ways whether it be good or bad no matter how we want to. it is always up to them how they want to be and live their lives because they are in control of their own self and actions. if we are in a bad or negative surroundings, it is up to us, if we really want or choose to be good or be optimistic or be influence by the people or environment we are in. so i agree that we can never blame anyone about how we present ourselves or live our life but we can only blame ourselves because we are in control of it and whatever we choose to be is all up to us.
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• India
19 Aug 12
Hi friend, i agree, in fact it is my point in this topic. We are the sole responsible for all our activities, if we wish to blame a person for our mistakes, then we must blame our self alone
@prashu228 (22140)
• India
18 Aug 12
hi, i agree, we are responsible , for what ever we are, we should not blame others for that, if a bad person have that much capability,then equally good person also have the same ability , cant deny.
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• India
19 Aug 12
Hi friend, you got my point, some people blaming others and environment for their mistakes, but they are wrong. We are the sole responsibility for all our activities. Thanks for your support
@viju0410 (2286)
• India
18 Aug 12
Hi VP, The first thing your post reminded me is the flower ‘LOTUS’. You know why? Because the flower lifts itself up from the muddy water to purity. So it is not necessary that if the persons whom I am associates are criminals, I should also be one. Again, I don’t think so my positivity or my attitude / activity will stop them for more crimes until unless they want to stop themselves. It is their attitude towards life and understanding of choosing their life. We can not teach them what is good for them we can only give examples of goodness that too if they are able to take it. If a person thinks himself that he need to change his bad life, then only he will do. Blaming others or surroundings is the easiest way to accept our defeat which shows the lack of confidence. But admitting the mistakes and realizing makes you a noble personality. I haven’t gone thru the other discussion so far. There are a few bad persons with a pure heart too. Take care..
• India
19 Aug 12
Hi viju, your points are worth. Yes, Lotus is a good example even though it is in the ugly place, it never loses its charm, in the same way a person never lose his purity for others, we can remain as good even though we are surrounded by bad persons, it is based on our attitude
@natliegleb (5188)
• India
18 Aug 12
The punishment is the only thing that makes people afraid and feel for their mistakes and repent for it.so for us to make a better world.we need instant punishments which was stern and severe.i agree with it fully
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• India
19 Aug 12
Hi friend, yes punishment can change a lot of things, and people will afraid about it and don't do bad things. Thanks for your reply
@lynboobsy11 (11347)
• Philippines
18 Aug 12
Yes Vid I saw the topic and I also respond, you have the point but not all people are willing to change. You can be nice and you can show some nice and good thing to them but you can never changed a person who don't want to change. As I always says you can can't control anyone but you can control your self. A person who believes that she/he has to change they will changed what ever they want for better or not. We can speak and do some suggestion but I hope they will take it.
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• India
19 Aug 12
Hi friend, i agree, but we can keep us in the safer side. Don't spoil yourself for the bad environment, this is my concept in this topic.
• United States
18 Aug 12
There is an old saying that goes: "You cannot change anyone else, you can only change yourself" and I do believe it. However, by being kind and respectful to someone hopefully you can have a positive impact on their life. After all, we never know what is really going on in their life, what burdens or trials and tribulations they are facing. Kindness always is a blessing in anyones life.
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• Australia
18 Aug 12
Hi Vidh, you're right and all i can say is no matter what don't trust anybody except your family because there are people like that and you think they're nice but they're not. just be cautious and keep your eyes open.
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• India
19 Aug 12
Hi friend, you are right, kindness and affection have the ability to do lot of things in this world. @ Angella, you are right, now a days it is really hard to see real people, we must be careful to avoid cheating and betraying activities
@manduri20 (108)
• Uganda
18 Aug 12
there is no such thing as being bad because you are surrounded by bad people trust me we are only bad because we choose to be bad and we can be good if we choose to be good. I'm sure that if the creator chooses to be good he or she will be good
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• India
19 Aug 12
Hi friend, you are right, i too mentioned in this way, no one have the ability to change our self without our interest.
@namiya (1599)
• Philippines
18 Aug 12
I believe we cannot change people easily unless they are willing to change themselves. a person's attitude is normally formed and influenced by his surroundings. There's a quote in our native language which when translated to English is "what the older ones are doing will be right or proper in the eyes of a child." Hence, if someone who had been exposed to belief which he thought was normal but unacceptable to some it would not be too easy to change his outlook unless he himself will acknowledge the error and cooperate.
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• India
19 Aug 12
Hi friend, i agree, we can't change others without there willingness, in the same way others also don't have the ability to change us without our willingness. It is not a good thing to blame others, environment or society for our mistakes and we are the responsibility for our mistakes
@hsofyan (3452)
• Jakarta, Indonesia
18 Aug 12
Yes, I agree with you. We must be responsible for all our words and our actions. Blaming someone else is a coward and a loser.
• India
19 Aug 12
Hi friend, yes, you got the point. Always i hate the persons whoever telling this kind of lame excuses for their mistakes
• Indonesia
18 Aug 12
yes i definitely agreed with you.all of our doing it is our responsibility do not blame the others for it,people can only give you suggestion,seduce or anything else but in the end it is ourself that will have to make final decision about what we are going to do and make a full responsibility for it
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• India
19 Aug 12
Hi friend, you are right, no one can change us without our willingness and we are responsible for all our activities, blaming others for our mistake is not good
@winterose (39931)
• Canada
19 Aug 12
no \I don't agree, we change and are changed by the environment. In poor areas the crime rates are up because of the environment. People have no money no jobs, no real chance at a life so they steal in order to live. Middle class people will never understand this kind of life because they have never gone hungry. They never had to send their kids to bad schools etc. A potentionally good kid can get into the wrong crowd and start doing bad things with them.
• India
19 Aug 12
Hi friend, in my opinion, no one can force us to do bad things with out our interest and involvement, if we are not interested in doing bad things, we can remain as good. Our life is in our hands and we can live it as per our wish
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@winterose (39931)
• Canada
21 Aug 12
yes that is your opinion but not everyone is a strong minded as you. I am a psychologist and what I say is packed by research. Some people are just gullible and they will do anything for many reasons, like poverty, wanting to be liked and so on.
• Mathura, India
21 Aug 12
vidhyaprakash_2 I do agree with you. And my answer to this question is"Yes, I can do it."
• India
21 Aug 12
good, your reply shows that you are an optimistic person and you have the ability to remain good even though you are in a bad situation. That's great
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@roshigo58 (4871)
• Pune, India
21 Aug 12
I don't agree with you. It is not always like that that the bad people can spoil the habit of good people and vice versa. After all it depends on an individual what to take and what to not. Some people do not change ,affected by the surrounded bad things e.g.a Lotus always remains beautiful in the surrounding mud.If the good people would have an ability to change the bad people , then this entire world would have been a peaceful place. But i do agree with your last sentence.
• India
21 Aug 12
I too mentioned the same in my topic, changes are depending upon the individual wish and no one can force other person to change himself without his permission, if you read out the topic fully, you will find it out. Thanks for your reply
• India
19 Aug 12
Hello Vidhyaprakash, Well, I don't think we are capable of changing anybody unless someone is ready to change oneself. A positive and optimist person will surely have the vibe of optimism in his aura, but whether a negative person is ready to perceive that optimism depends on the negative person only and vice versa. As you said, "We live our life as per our wish and no one has the right to force us to do things without our interest or knowledge." In context to the last question of the discussion yes, I agree that we are solely responsible for our actions and should never blame others for our mistakes. Even if we listen to others and change our decision on any matter, it is WE who changed our decision so we cannot blame the other person.
• India
19 Aug 12
Hi friend, yes, i agree with you. I think we both have same thought in this sort, blaming others for our mistake is not a good thing.
@sjvg1976 (13960)
• Delhi, India
19 Aug 12
Hello VP, I don't agree.One can't be changed so easily.Of course environment is the major reason which changes someone in to bad or good person.It is more likely that a son of a thief will be a thief when he grows old.Though we should not blame only the environment for what we are as its own wish too how do we resist thing and accepts things.
• India
19 Aug 12
Hi sj, we have knowledge and know what is good and what is bad, our life is in our hands and we can live it as per our wish, blaming the environment for our mistakes is not a good thing
• India
19 Aug 12
People will never change their attitudes until they realise the fact. We can't change any person activities if they feel and change then only real change will happen. If we forced them the mistakes will be made twice than earlier and the situation will become worse. We can't change all people but by living and achieving tasks in a straight forward way in our life some people will change their attitudes by watching our behaviour to one and all.
• India
19 Aug 12
Hi friend, ok, we can't change other persons, but we can remain as good. We have the ability to remain good even though we are in a bad environment, do you agree with it?
@Hatley (157853)
• Garden Grove, California
18 Aug 12
hi vidhuaprakash I do agree as we are endowed with good brains and thus we have moral values instilled in us hopefully by our parents. W E do not have to succumb to ohers bad ways to doing things. We must engage those brains and turn away from those bad persons. No use trying to make them into good people instead he must show a good example to all people and if some bad people realize they too can become good like your topic creator he will have helped by setting an example. shun those who are bad and strive to be a good person despsite those who are around and who are l
• India
19 Aug 12
Hatley, you are right, a good person surely have the ability to change his environment with his activities, after all he can keep himself in a good way without spoiling