I told my parents they should pay me for the hours they made me call out for

I'm sorry CourtKnee, but your parents' code of ethics leaves a bad taste in my mouth. It's dishonest and could cause you to lose your job. I would think, being 20 you can still live as an adult in your parents' home. It seems you could tell them NO I won't call in work. What can they do? Hog tie you? I don't like their work ethic at all.

If the housing situation isn't working, there are other options: You could go off to college, which would mean living in a dorm; there, you would earn a degree that would hopefully allow you to get a decent job. You could work as a live-in caregiver for an elderly or disabled person. This would provide housing and some monetary compensation. You could work as a live-in nanny for a family. You could take a position as a caretaker for a property. There are various arrangements. You can find listing in the Caretaker Gazette. You could rent an apartment or house and split it with a roommate or two. Plenty of people do that. You could buy an inexpensive travel trailer or Class C and full-time until a different housing option became viable. Right now, you are living with your parents and paying nothing. From what you have said, you aren't even doing your own laundry or paying for the upkeep of your own car. You are living as a child, so don't expect that they are going to treat you as anything else.

If you are working it would be nice if you gave them some of your earnings to help out with the bills and things. I dont think it is right forvthem to expect you to call in sick to work though just because you live with them. You may live with them but are an adult and should be allowed to live your life how you want and make your own decisions.

That's messed up they made out call out of work just for a bbq dinner, really? Don't they know making you call out of work can cause you to lose your job and it would look bad on you if you did lose your job and try to apply for another? I'm glad my parent's don't do that. I still live at home and I'm never forced to call out of work. I pay for my car, car insurance, phone bill and internet bill. But still they should never make you call out of work. Is this how they were taught when they were grown up to call out of work for events like this? How are you supposed to make a living if your losing your hours? Next time stand up for yourself and tell them you can't keep calling off you need your job to help pay for the things your dad was complaining about. Good luck with it all.

That is your concern and for you to decide on it. But if I'm to ask my opinion about this, I find it unreasonable to call in sick just to have dinner. Most of us, here filipinos, unmarried children who are already working are still living with their parents. I don't know with the others but for me, we should ask time from our children only when they are not at work.

Yea, that was totally uncalled for. I have parents that get on my nerves and I'm almost 50. They will never outgrow this especially if you don't try to get out while you can. Why are they making you go to the BBQ n the first place? stopped going to those relative things when I was 14 cause I couldn't stand them anymore. They wouldn't do much at theirs except sit around and talk and then my cousins would all get together and be with one another and I felt left out. You are 20 and you don't deserve that kind of treatment. You weren't getting "smart" as you were being forced to go to this BBQ and they should have the respect to tell you ahead of time. My brother has a job that lets him take off time but they need 1-2 days ahead of time notice. It is only right when there are cases that can be helped like this. You were joking and she took it seriously and told your dad, sounds like something what my mom would do only dad never says anything most of the time thank God. I have enough to deal with with her anyways at times. I'm guessing you're the quite one who they always boss around and pick at cause they know you won't cause a ruckus right? These are the things parents do that make me wanna do the opposite of if I had a kid, and in your case you're basically an adult over 18. I hate that old cliche they use cause you still live at home, that is BS. They are just controlling. I know what you feel. I get things thrown at me that shouldn't as well even at 49! My brother is the lucky one, he gets away with everything. He can say just about anything to her and she will be kissing his azz after the next five minutes where as if I did the same exact thing she wouldn't be talking to me! If say this to her she knows how to push my buttons and get me really insulted! Just crazy stuff. Some parents should have to take parenting classes before they have any kids.