What will be your first reaction if you find out you got cancer?

@bulastika (5967)
Philippines
August 19, 2012 6:13am CST
Its really hard to think that you are dying right? One of our former helper is diagnosed to have a colon cancer and the doctor says he has 10 months to live only. Its a pity that he has 10 months to live. But since the doctor only told his children but not him. I'm just wondering if he has right to know that he has 10 months to live and worried more or just let it be.
10 responses
@chum24 (569)
• Philippines
20 Aug 12
hi!! the patient has a right to know so that she has able to manage her self. it's really difficult to have a cancer. 10 months to live she should enjoy her life with her family. if the cancer is malignant all we can do is palliative care.
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@bulastika (5967)
• Philippines
20 Aug 12
She? He is a he. lols. Anyway I think its only going to make him more depress than manage something. He is a family man. And even though he is old and his children has family he is still the breed winner. That's why if he knows I'm sure he will going to feel depress as he can't only provide his family food in their table he become a liabilities also.
@owlwings (38690)
• Cambridge, England
19 Aug 12
I think that the patient has the right to be the FIRST to be told if he or she has an incurable disease. In the UK, at least, it would be considered very bad practice for a doctor to tell the patient's family before telling the patient. Our Health Service will always try to set up proper support and counselling services for both a patient and their family when bad news like this becomes apparent. These days, cancer is becoming less and less of an incurable disease, especially if it can be detected early enough. I, myself, am a cancer 'survivor' and I remember that when I first heard that I had cancer, I wasn't particularly worried because I was assured that my condition was treatable (as it has been for 17 years). I had a major operation about 18 months ago and, so far, I have had no recurrence, so I can say with some confidence that I am 'cured' (though that is really only a relative thing - we all have to die some time!).
• Bangladesh
19 Aug 12
Yes cancer is treatable if it is diagnosed in its beginning phase, I just heard. But in Bangladesh we are all so vulnerable to cancers as we are eating all insecticides contaminated food, arsenic contaminated water and living or moving in an severely polluted environment. Here is none to promote our situations. Govts is too idiot to understand what serious vulnerability we are being in. And yeah if I can know that I am attacked with any incurable disease I would not get affected a bit even as already I know this is my destiny. If I die I'll blame the whole world that they could not been able to save our lives. And its my consolation I'll pass so easy.
@bulastika (5967)
• Philippines
20 Aug 12
@owlwings I guess its depends on the culture. In our country its always the family who will be told by the doctor the condition of the patient especially if its terminal. So that its give time for the family to talk about family matters but same time shield the patient of depression and just enjoy the remaining of that patient life.
@owlwings (38690)
• Cambridge, England
20 Aug 12
I agree, Bulastika, that it depends on the culture. I guess that where families are very close knit (as they are not here in the UK and even less - to a certain extent - in the United States) it is considered ethical to tell the patient first and then the family. In societies where families are much more closely tied, it is probably assumed that bad news like this should come from the immediate family and so the family are told first. The trouble is that fanily will often withhold information like this and so the system falls down. I believe that it is everyone's right to know first whatever information about their health a doctor knows. Culture and custom simply do not come into the argument at all. If culture and custom say that it should be the person's closest relatives who should tell the patient, that is fine ... as long as they DO SO! Very often, they do not. If my doctor told my close family something and did not tell me, I would be very annoyed (and, in fact, in this country, the doctor would be guilty of gross misconduct). Please do not think of 'shielding the patient from depression' or anything like that! Everyone has a right to know whatever information others have about themselves. If someone is adult and, presumably, capable of dealing with things pertaining to their health and welfare, then they have an absolute right to know all the information and to be given the chance (and necessary support, of course) to make their own decisions and conduct their own life accordingly. Bulastica, you should actively FIGHT this custom in your country. It is basically WRONG and against all principles of human rights.
@ashu770 (36)
• India
20 Aug 12
it will be the most difficult situation for everyone who will know that he is going to die soon.for me,in depression i will die soon :P.that time period will be much difficult for a person to live.even the person will not be able to live those 10 months to fullest.
• India
20 Aug 12
God has given each of us people a specific life and no one can live beyound that. The only thing we can do is just to lend prayers to him. May god bless you.
@bulastika (5967)
• Philippines
20 Aug 12
Its good if you have financial stability at least if you know that you going to die in ten months you know that your family is stable. But if you are a breed winner and you have financial problems if you know that you going to die within ten months its going to make your life more miserable knowing that you die and your family is not secure financially.
@hestylim (1211)
• Indonesia
19 Aug 12
I think he better not knowing that he is going to live in 10-month time only. Not all people are strong enough to accept the fact that he is going to die soon. Being sick has been making people sad. Some people stuck in their sadness and they don't get out easily. That makes their condition worse. People who suffer from cancer should stay positive. But, really it is not easy to do.. So yeah, just keep that ten-month-living-time from him.. probably he can keep fighting his disease and recover..
@bulastika (5967)
• Philippines
20 Aug 12
Lets hope so. Not only for the sake of financial reason but for the sake of living also. Its because if you have cancer of course you want to live and you want to do anything to live and that means going to hospital and take some treatment. Problem is that they don't have money so its going to make him depress more.
@owlwings (38690)
• Cambridge, England
20 Aug 12
The ONLY person who is capable of deciding and qualified to decide whether they can accept the fact of their imminent demise is the patient him- or herself. Much support may be necessary, of course, but the FIRST person to tell must be the patient unless they are quite definitely mentally incapable of dealing with the information themselves. In most cases, even where very young, mentally incapable or senile patients are involved, they should be given at least as much, if not more, information than they are capable of absorbing.
@chiyosan (29383)
• Philippines
19 Aug 12
I believe the person deserves to know. He could have done soemthing about what is left of the time given to him... and he can choose too enjoy his life, right? I think this is really what i find really wrong with people who tries to protect their loved ones by not being honest with them. I'd say people who are like that does not even 'value' the person they choose to protect as much as they say because you should not keep something like this from them.. it is their life and they have the right to know about it. whatever he chooses to do, is his choice. if i was in the person's shoes i would like to know and i will not sulk and just wait for the day of my passing. i will make the most out of it. at least i know when i expect to go and will try my best to make it up to the people i have wronged and i am making sure that i tell those that i love that i value them and that they should live their life to the fullest while they still can. life is wonderful and even if it is short.. it should and it can be lived fully.
@owlwings (38690)
• Cambridge, England
20 Aug 12
You are correct that it is NOT right for you to tell this person what you know. The ONLY person who has a right to give this information to a patient is the doctor himself. Culture and custom may say that, out of kindness, the people who should actually tell the patient ought to be his close family but, in that case, the doctor must be able to trust those people to do so. Very often, he cannot be sure that they will and very often he assumes that, by telling them, he has absolved himself. The ONLY proper person to tell a patient that he is dying is the doctor himself. His training and knowledge is the BEST source of information and his training should also have taught him how to best pass on the information to the patient and his family. It is always the doctor's responsibility and it cannot be absolved merely by expecting someone else to pass it on.
@ybong007 (6659)
• Philippines
25 Aug 12
I think the person who has it has every right to know what the real score is. it's he's life and sooner the knows about the cancer the sooner he can something about it and time enough for the truth to sink in that his days are numbered.
@bulastika (5967)
• Philippines
3 Sep 12
In this condition right now. He is old and same times does not have enough money even for his eating. So I don't think he can do anything about it in term of medical because of financial constrain. But in term of acceptance. I guess so. He really need to know just to prepare himself. But I guess he already knows.
@enelym001 (8333)
• Philippines
20 Aug 12
I know it might not help him at all but I guess it is better for him to know about his situation. He might be in shock and feel scared but at least he knows how much time he only got to live. If this happens to me, I know that I'd be depressed too and scared but still want to know it.
@bulastika (5967)
• Philippines
3 Sep 12
I guess its really important that we know if we are dying or not. Even though we know we can't do anything at least we know that some how we can live a life knowing that we are leaving. I have hard time thinking that someday we can see our love one goes. But that's part of life.
• India
20 Aug 12
Really i will be very shocked to hear that i am an cancer patient. I am not the one who just end my life to stay away from the pain. I will live till the day my heart beats. I believe that every diseases can be cured and self confidence is the one of the best medicine for every disease and the rest is all upon god.
@bulastika (5967)
• Philippines
20 Aug 12
I guess if you have cancer you also know that theirs something wrong with you really. I know its hard to earn money if you are sick but if you are not financially stable chance are you going to be in state of denial and still will try to make sure that you are earning money just to have food in your table even though you know you have only few months to live.
• Philippines
20 Aug 12
i think it the right of the patient to know what really is the score. so that he can do the things he has to do, finish the things he has started. if i'll find out that i have cancer, and theres only 10 months left, i would spend every minute left with my family. showing them how much i love them. at the same time prepare them emotionally and physically when the time comes that i have to go.
@bulastika (5967)
• Philippines
20 Aug 12
I guess he really has the right to know but the big question is will its going to help him or not? Its because he has financial problem right now and if he knows that he has a cancer he even going to have even more problem and maybe going to be stress out and instead of living for 10 months he can last in less than 3 months only.
• United States
19 Aug 12
Of course he has the right to know! He should be able to base decisions upon his shortened timeline. Who knows what direction his life would take if he knew. He would definitely prepare differently for his family's future.
@bulastika (5967)
• Philippines
20 Aug 12
Having 10 months to live I don't think he can prepare anything. At most he can do right now is prefer his mind and soul for his time. But same time since he is not financially stable I guess if he going to know that he has 10 months to live he going to get more worried about his family and going to make him more depress and may end up dying much earlier than 10 months.