Would you still love a person who has been hard with you?

Mauritius
August 20, 2012 12:21am CST
I am passing this kind of phase and would like to know if you were in the same situation. My boyfriend is sometimes very hard with me. He quarrels with me for no reason and often abuse me verbally in front of people. Later he asks me to pardon him. I cannot tolerate such a behaviour and this is tormenting me. What should I do in such a situation. He creates scenes in front of my house and at my work. He threatens to suicide in front of my house if I will leave him. He has become too possessive. What should I do? Please help me.
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8 responses
@jenny1015 (13391)
• Philippines
20 Aug 12
I have several questions for you. 1. do you want to be put to shame in front of others? 2. how long should you tolerate his uncanny behavior? 3. do you honestly think you can be happy with a person who does not respect you? Honey, wake up! You do not deserve such treatment. Nobody deserves to be humiliated in front of others. Please love yourself more than your boyfriend. If he has been violent to you, do not let him do things which might put you in a very bad condition. Get out of the relationship fast!
• United States
20 Aug 12
Those are some real good question you asking . She really need to leave now because no good can come of a relationship like that .
@Badkid (235)
• Philippines
27 Nov 12
do not tolerate such a boy like that.I hate boys like that..they think they're very Important.but they didnt give you any importance..they are selfish.you should stop that madness.
@manduri20 (108)
• Uganda
21 Aug 12
A guy like that is not worth it or maybe he should go see psychiatrist he must have a lot of issues but until then don't pardon him until you are sure he is fine
@xixiAtom (69)
• Dalian, China
21 Aug 12
hi dear velentia you remember the mother with two kids in the famouse film "seven pounds"? i think both you have the same dilemma in a sense. all you need is courage to leave him.and be brave,just like the mother did finally.
@deazil (4556)
• United States
20 Aug 12
Your bf sounds like he is disturbed and unstable. This type of behavior could escalate to physical violence very easily. He needs counseling and therapy. Without it people that act like this generally don't change. He may need medication to stabilize his out of control emotions. Until he does this he will continue to be abusive to you. You are in a very bad situation. I think you should take other mylotters advice and leave, seek protection from the police and get help from your family if possible. I believe that his behavior towards you is against the law. You should seek help very soon.
@Bhebelen14 (4561)
• Philippines
20 Aug 12
Hi velentina, I can feel that your having a hard time with your boyfriend but do yo still love him? and do you think he's gonna change his bad attitude if you dont leave him. If the answers are NO, better to leave him and save yourself from your verbally and emotionally abusive boyfriend. Also you can inform your family and local police about your boyfriend actions toward you so that are aware and they can protect you from him. Be strong my friend and hoping that everything will be fine. Always be safe
@toniganzon (44831)
• Philippines
20 Aug 12
Leave him. What he is showing you is not healthy for you or for him. He is psychologically destroying you. Abuse does not only include physical one but also verbal. You would be only suffering more. To get you back he is threatening you and that is really sick. It's a pay war, that you shouldn't ever let yourself be involved. Seek the help of your parents or family if possible so they could help you in avoiding him. And please be firm in deciding that you don't want him in your life anymore.
@laydee (12815)
• Philippines
20 Aug 12
This is not a good thing and I am sad for you, but you shouldn't tolerate this madness. It's not love anymore, it's insanity. First, if a person loves you, he/she will respect you and not humiliate you. If he does, he would not do it again and make amends for what he has done. I think you need to ask him to seek help for this, I would be afraid instead of be in love with someone like that. Second, has he always been like this? What about her past relationships, how did those end? Did he ever try to take his own life? or are these just bluffs because he knows he can get your attention that way? Lastly, never tolerate any abuse. He's not yet your husband, it'll be worst when you're married. Good luck and keep safe. have a great mylot experience ahead!