How hard is to make acceptance of your mistakes?

@rhodzptc (1319)
Philippines
August 24, 2012 6:19pm CST
For some of us it is easy to judge others for their mistakes, but is hard for some to forgive and forget those mistakes. I have this boss of mine who is really such an as*hole who thinks he is a better person and understand what his employees really feels but that truth is that he never do. Well our line of business is life insurance so that means most of my co-employee are sales agent and we need to hit our target daily. Our boss who always hot headed and mocking around every sales agent and threat them that he will fired them if our branch doesn't hit our target, he puts pressure in every body that causes them to loose focused in selling. Whenever we have our project meeting our boss admit that he too made mistakes that is why we have a poor sale. But he only admit but never accepted it. There is a big difference between admitting and acceptance. Now my question is how hard is for someone to accept the he made mistakes?
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@laydee (12813)
• Philippines
24 Aug 12
I think it is indeed difficult for most to accept or admit that they're wrong. I could relate to this topic today because a few days ago I had a bickering with my father on something that he requested me to do for him. I panicked about something and asked him for help and he washed his hands off the issue when he was the one who asked me to do that in the first place. I was infuriated because it wasn't my problem in the first place, I was merely "assisting" him. I must admit, I was partly wrong because I caught him on a bad time but still, he has the nerve to be the one who's not speaking to me. I think beggars are never choosers and his attitude just showed me that he doesn't deserve to be helped. Anyhow, this is the last favor that he'll ever get from me concerning financials and though I am taking it civilly, he's the one who refuses to admit his mistakes and ignores my presence. As for my part, he'll always be my parent so I no longer take these actions as something important. But I've learned my lesson not to trust people with money-matters again - even family members. Have a great MyLot experience ahead!
@rhodzptc (1319)
• Philippines
25 Aug 12
I felt sorry for that, I just thought that older people are more mature to think in that kind of matter because they more experienced in life than us.
• United States
24 Aug 12
It's much easier for him to blame you and the other employees about the mistakes instead of himself because it takes the heat off him. In other words, it's my employees that aren't doing good, not me. He's the boss and he's not going to admit this. It's hard to hit those targets daily but if he doesn't get on you guys, he's going to lose his job himself.
@rhodzptc (1319)
• Philippines
25 Aug 12
Yes, you're right indeed but as a boss and a professional one I guess he should act like one and act like a matured person and not like a silly child.
@celticeagle (121072)
• Boise, Idaho
24 Aug 12
We are only human. I know when I was younger it was difficult for me to admit I had made a mistake and take responsibility for it. After I realized that i could handle my mistakes and it was better when I did admit to them and take responsibility. I think as people grow and experience situations where there are mistakes made and learn how to react to them it becomes a positive situation.
@rhodzptc (1319)
• Philippines
25 Aug 12
This means that my boss is less matured than we do right? I always tell to my co-employee that respect are earned to gain if the boss will take our place then he would realized how hard to be us and then he could find a better and mature way to motivate his people rather than giving them pressure.
• India
17 Sep 12
It is in infact not too hard.People say that it indeed requires a big heart to do that. But I feel if you can overcome your ego, it can be done. Most of the time we know when we have dona mistake. But we dont accept it because our ego will be hurt. Once we learn to think beyond our ego, we would be ore happier.
@Shavkat (67327)
• Philippines
26 Aug 12
The only thing is to admitted, not to deny it. The next thing to do, apologize if you had committed mistakes. It is normal to feel that way, but we need to be open for possibilties.
@mikej143 (310)
• Philippines
25 Aug 12
Its was hard if pride will always on top with It cause we think sometimes as long as we have higher position we would think that we are already better than all 100 who were already just ordinary people or in low. but in fact those line man people who do the work were are expose in all situation and all the ups and down etc. in life and do develop and develop to its good character in life I do mean that all people those this but mostly are do act like these specially we could relate that in those who were educated people and those uneducated once many educated have opportunity in work but those uneducated are not but the way treated them by the society rejected and not have voice to say what they want to do or work etc. but instead they do have skills and attitude. do always pride of those people makes hard for them to accept those mistake in life.
@stealthy (8188)
• United States
25 Aug 12
I can honestly say that I have always been able to admit my mistakes; perhaps because I was quite shy for a long time which may contribute to having that kind of personality. On the other hand I always was confident in my abilities in the part of my profession that did not involve interacting with large groups of people like giving talks. I had a boss once who would never admit to making mistakes. In his mind he was always right. I said I was shy but I was not shy about challenging him on a couple occasions, not in an overt way but just by presenting data that showed that an idea of his had already been done somewhere else and better. We were in a science field and the proof was right there in a publication. Because of that and a couple of other things we did not get along too well. I really doubt if I would be any good at all in your business as a sales agent for an insurance company. My Dad worked for a financial company for many years and then went to work for a life insurance company that a friend of his from his college days owned. He was to be a vice president but spent several months selling insurance to gain more knowledge about the company and what it offered. He set many sales records during those few months. Obviously I did not inherit his abilities in that area, but he did not have my aptitude for science. My Dad was also willing to admit mistakes to a certain point but I had almost no experience how he was at work except for having met a few people he interacted with and things seemed to be friendly between.
• Philippines
25 Aug 12
Its really hard to accept mistakes. But by accepting it, we could learn something really useful to our lives. So we should remember that we should always learn from our mistakes. And we must always accept mistakes. Everyone do mistake so we must forgive them as they have forgiven us.
@deodavid (4150)
• Philippines
25 Aug 12
Sometimes boss's are like that sometimes we are or were too, i think what he is trying to do is channel out his mistakes to others even though he himself doesn't have a better strategy on making more profit for the business you know. SO throw the blame at other people so that he will not bare the pressure of the team not hitting your quotas.