judging people at first meeting

Philippines
August 25, 2012 7:07am CST
"It takes only seven seconds for us to judge another person when we first meet them," the Daily Mail quoted her as saying. i friend of mine introduced me to a friend of him and it seemed that i don't readily like him. It's not a conscious process, so we don't even realise we're doing it.im doing it actually and felt guilt since i don't actually know him yet im already judging him.how about you?
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@nupur123 (392)
• Hyderabad, India
25 Aug 12
We cannot judge any one in first meeting because i have meet a person few days before but i don't like her as she was very rude to us but after few days we meet again and that day she said sorry to me for her behaviour and told me that she was very worried about her mother health due to which she was so irritated on that day. This shows that some times person is not wrong only the time is wrong.
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• Philippines
25 Aug 12
well we can't really be sure of the circumstances and the people involved. that's why there's a saying that goes first impression last. whatever we portray during the first meeting should be carefully shown so that others won't be misjudging us.
@deserve40 (1642)
• India
25 Aug 12
That is right. And this thing is well digested by some cunning people. So when they meet you for the first time, they prentend to be excellent human and you feel impressed by them. And later on you find that the person is not really a good person but behind that goody-goody behaviour well planned and well thoughts are responsible. Sayings may tell anything but they are true in particular conditions only.
@freedang (320)
• China
25 Aug 12
yeah...we all judge person at first sight,after all,if you are dating eith some guy while he look like dirty or sloppy. you will naturely feel that guy is not good.it is proper thinking that he dosent attach importance to you. so if we are going to meet someone first time, it is very important to appear with a good look.
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• Philippines
25 Aug 12
you're right. i remembered dating someone when i was in college. i thought i'll be having a great date because he fetched me with his fancy car only to find out that it's not his and he claimed that it was his possession. that didn't really impress me. i want a humble and honest date. In one short phrase, first impressions count.
@natliegleb (5184)
• India
25 Aug 12
so many people say its possible but i surely think that is kind of tough and hard to judge them at times andwe must judge by their knowledge not by the superficial first meet alone
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• Philippines
25 Aug 12
there is really a big deal in first impressions. The first impression of a person, product, or place sets the bar for any relationship. When you raise the bar, and manage to keep it there, odds are you can build an enduring relationship with others.Their first impression—good or bad—can be broadcast in an instant to hundreds or even thousands of people especially when there's already facebook or myspace.
@deserve40 (1642)
• India
25 Aug 12
There are many reports saying that one can judge the person within few seconds. Even we do find many books claiming the same thing. Some people say that it is our sixth sense that works to tell us what type of person is the one whom we are meeting. All said and done, I personally do not feel like agreeing with such things. I feel that the person should not be judged in the very first meeting itself. My experience is that the person who was seemingly bad person for me when I met him for the first time turned out to be good friend of mine in later stages. And the things went other way round too. I think that the main reason for such things is that the person whom we are meeting may be in different moods, mental status. If a person is under some sort of tension, he or she may not behave well with you which may not be intentional thing. Sometimes, some shrud people behave very well in the begining but later on they cheat us and we feel shocked about it. So never judge a person in the first meeting....
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@blinjk (613)
• Philippines
25 Aug 12
Sometimes I feel that also but I am not actually judging them.I am just afraid that they might not like me.But then I try to be nice to them and try to get along just to know them better.First impressions are not usually right because you might be wrong.Some of my friends tells me that I look like a snob person and they are intimidated by the way I look but they admit that they are wrong because they already knew.Well, I think you must be nice to that person even if you do not like him or her.Then maybe you might be good friends in the future.
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@eagletrek2 (5281)
• Kingston, New York
26 Aug 12
Hi I found out a long time ago do not judge a book by it coverd but it all so depends on if the person looking for a person to marry or to have in there mlm network or just as friends but I alway tried to get the know the person if i like them we both get back to each other if it meant to be have a great day
@ARIES1973 (9539)
• Legaspi, Philippines
25 Aug 12
Most often than not we are doing this. Well, personally, although I have a negative impression of the person at first meeting, I don't take away the idea that I might be wrong somehow. In the same way that I don't easily get believe in others who showed kindness in the first meeting.
@joliefille (3696)
• Philippines
25 Aug 12
We can't help it sometimes. The instinctual side of us somehow does the judgment instantly. Sometimes it could just be gut feeling. But I do believe that sometimes first impressions do not always last and there may eventually be something that will prove us wrong about a person the more we interact with them or get to know them.
@ally12 (1204)
• Philippines
25 Aug 12
Im not a judgmental person, I always give this called benefit of the doubt to every people I met, but I have this instinct..? I dont know, I would have this sudden suspicious feeling about that person's character the moment I see her/his face and then at an unexpected time confirmation happens.
@maharlikah (1045)
• Philippines
25 Aug 12
judging someone is quite easy at first glance but sometimes we need to find time to discover the real attitude or whatever about that person. That is just a simple idea of mine.You need not to feel guilty for everybody has the right of his own opinion. :-)