Making a house a home

@jugsjugs (13045)
August 25, 2012 1:46pm CST
or more to the point your home.When moving into a new house, there are sometimes things that you do not like, so it is then when you try to change it to your tastes. My friend popped into see me the other day and she said that she wishes that she could feel like the house that she is living is felt like home. She has lived in this house for over six years and it has never felt like a home to her, as it is much how it was when she moved in. All the time since the other day, all she has been doing is minamizing things in each room, as well as changing her rooms around, so that it looks bigger, rather than trying to spend money that she has not got to make the house feel more like home to her.Sending me photos of all the rooms to see what I thought.
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@GardenGerty (95734)
• Marion, Kansas
26 Aug 12
right now my house does not feel like my home. I have too much stuff and too many other people's stuff in it. You must have a really good eye and a good talent to help your friend and I am sure she appreciates your help.
@jugsjugs (13045)
27 Aug 12
All weekend me and a few mates have been trying to get a few things for this friend and we have managed to kit her out a bit for things that she wants. It is great that there are people out there that pass the word round about things that we are looking for. For the sake of a few pounds it has kitted her bedroom out with lamps, ornaments, curtains, bed cushions all in black that she was after, a few bits for her lounge that was to match her sofas and a few things including a dinner set and ornaments etc that are for her kitchen.
@roberten (3131)
• United States
25 Aug 12
I have moved a lot in my life so I try to hang on to a few items and put them up in similiar spots in every home I move into. This helped my family feel at home no matter where we lived.
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@jugsjugs (13045)
27 Aug 12
I have a few keep sakes that we have moved with us as well, strange, but they are things that I have had years and even though they have no value, they do in my eyes. My friend has had loads of us getting her things all weekend and today she is going to have them taken to her and this is thanks to a few of my other friends helping finding things as well as giving things for her. It cost us all a few pounds each and it was a great feeling knowing that we are all helping a friend, a friend who has just fell on hard times.
• United States
25 Aug 12
I know it is hard to feel at home. Randy and I are moving next weekend and I am kind of scared as well as excited. I hope that everything we have will fit into our new place. I have so much to do and very little time to do it in. I am still in school and my class finishes tomorrow. Tonight I am going to see Tanya Tucker (we bought these tickets back in May well before we knew if we were getting this place) and I am hoping that I will get help with the packing. Randy is not great at packing and his way of packing is throwing things in a box and not labeling it.
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@ElicBxn (60692)
• United States
25 Aug 12
When I moved into an apartment, one of the things I did was hang shelves and put up some of my model horses. People would come in and say "how home like this is" and that's because I personalized it.
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@jugsjugs (13045)
27 Aug 12
She wants to put her mark on her house as well, but she wants things that all match the other things that she has got already. She has got things like photos in frames, but she wants all the frames to match in her house and she wants her bedroom like mine, as in black and white things all to match.
@maximax8 (27045)
25 Aug 12
When I moved into my bungalow in 2010 I went out to purchase a new kitchen. Though I had to wait months to get it fitted. I had double glazing fitted in 2011 and now have windows that open more easily. I had the lounge painted cream, the hall painted pink and the kitchen painted light green. My ornaments and books make my bungalow feel like my home. Previously I lived in a modern house. When I moved into it during 2005 it had a horrible hallway and staircase: red walls, Chinese writing and a green carpet. I changed it to cream walls as soon as I possibly could. I kind of liked the tropical colors of the lounge: blue for the sea and yellow for the sand. However in 2010 I repainted it cream in my preparing to sell my house.
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@jugsjugs (13045)
27 Aug 12
I think cream is a great colour, as it will go with anything that you put in a room, also makes a room look clean. It is like moving to any house, things all take time, also takes money as well.I feel sorry for my friend as she do not have money to spare and so badly wants to have her house the way she wants.
@celticeagle (116758)
• Boise, Idaho
25 Aug 12
It is so easy to make a house a home. Doesn't take a lot of money either. Sheets on sale can be made into curtains, afew nic nacs, pictures on the walls, etc. These are none of them that expensive and if she watches she could probably find them on sale. And having some of her pictures framed and set around can help too. Doesn't have to be soon.
@jugsjugs (13045)
27 Aug 12
I think what she wanted was things that match or colour coordinate.She has no spare money at the moment, so what she has now started to do is work out what coloured things she wants in each room and we are all asking people if they have anything. My friend went to a car boot today and a woman was throwing her things away, so she grabbed a few bits off the woman before she binned them for our friend.(did not cost a penny}. She also wanted to have all matching picture frames as well, so we are looking on a free site for her at the moment.
• Philippines
26 Aug 12
House is just a house, but what makes it a home is when family would always or everyday meet all of the members their. A home is where when there is someone who would always be waiting for you. It's good that you modify your house more of your preferences as you will be feeling more comfortable staying in there.
• United States
26 Aug 12
"Your heart is where your home is", that expression has stayed with me. Any house is just a house, but where there is love there is a home. Sure, you can go out and buy expensive things to make your house look like a home, but when you make things or people give you special things to decorate with then you'll feel the love. Make it personal,use simple things like decorating. Make it homey, like buying appple pie scented candles. I usually go to dollar stores or thrift stores.
@jugsjugs (13045)
27 Aug 12
I found it took me ages to get the house that I am living in to the way that I wanted it.I feel that it took us both a lot of time, as well as a lot of money. I have managed to rope a few of my friends into helping me find and get a few bits for my friend for her house.The things that we have managed to get her are in the colours that she wanted as well as things that she really needed. It is nice that there are people out there that will do all that they can to help other people and I was shocked to see all the nice things that people managed to get her.She will be getting all these things later when another friend of mine takes them all to her. She loves her scented candles, just like I do, also those plug in freshners you can buy.
@Hatley (164772)
• Garden Grove, California
26 Aug 12
hijugs the firse house we had had a lovely den and living room with real panelled walls they had painted a yucky pink. I took off all the paint then reconditioned the good wood paneling until it gleamed, put down some home made rag rugs then pictures of my family and a beloved tapestry someone had given me hung over the mantel on the fire place. all that cost very little but it' made it our home.then added some living house plants and we were home again. so those are things she could do too that do not cost a lot as they are all do it yourself
@GardenGerty (95734)
• Marion, Kansas
27 Aug 12
That is so much fun. I helped a friend out some last year. The encouragement is a big part as well. I am glad you and your other friends can do this. It sounds swell.
@bounce58 (17524)
• Canada
6 Sep 12
For me, wherever I live (because I've moved around a few times), the house I'm in will never completely feel like home. The standard would always be the house and home where I grew up. Maybe for my kids they would always think of our current house as their home. And hopefully they'd always think that visiting me when they've grown would be coming back home.
@jugsjugs (13045)
9 Sep 12
I know a few people that have to keep moving and that is due to jobs as well as family and I do feel sorry for them, as no sooner have they settled they have to move again. I would hate to have to move and start all over again, but who knows what is going to happen in the future.
• United States
29 Aug 12
I think that, if you own, it is a lot easier to get that feeling of home than if you rent. I'd like to own; then, I could do as I wished with the place. It would be nice to be able to paint, put in new flooring, knock out some walls, install new cabinets, change out appliances, hang up art without worrying, etc. I've never been able to do that, because I have spent most of my life living with my parents, living in student housing and living in rentals--none of which have allowed much freedom in terms of customizing my space. The "freest" space I've had was when I RVed full-time for a while. I owned the RV; however, the budget was tight, and there was only so much customization I could really do within that space.
@jugsjugs (13045)
9 Sep 12
I do agree that if it is your own, then it feel more like yours than anyone elses. I use to rent after I divorced my first husband, then I bought a house with this husband.I feel more relaxed knowing that we do not have to ask to do things in the house. My friend has low income and with having to move as well, she has no money spare, so we have all got her a few bits, to try to make it her home and so far so good, as she loved them all.
@lelin1123 (15645)
• Puerto Rico
29 Aug 12
I have definitely made my house a home. When we had it built it was painted all one color. So when we moved in I decided on all the colors for the rooms and painted them all myself. I have added furniture and pictures to the walls to make this house a nice and cozy home that I truly love. I can't imagine living in a house for six years and not making it feel like a home. She needs to put her personality into the house to make it a home.
@jugsjugs (13045)
9 Sep 12
She is now getting a few bits from a few of us in the colours that she wanted for the rooms.She seems a lot happier that she is getting her house sorted, but as she has no money, she has to keep the colours the way that they are at the moment, which she do not mind. Next year she has plans for the garden, this will take time to sort rather than money.
@stanley777 (7176)
• Philippines
28 Aug 12
I guess it would take time to really make your house be called a home especially if your not the first owner of the house. You may only called it a home if all the things you want to put or add according to your choice is already added or put in. So, your friend is asking favor from you to help her house will suite her taste faster with your assistance. A house to be called a home, the owner must see to it that all the things material or not should be in it.
@jugsjugs (13045)
9 Sep 12
I agree that it will take time as well as money to make her house feel more and more home, with more home comforts that she wants to add, but so far so good, as we have managed to get her a few bits that she likes. I think she will be happy when she gets to get things for her garden next, so I am keeping my eyes open on a site where things are free for her.
@dorannmwin (36698)
• United States
27 Aug 12
My husband and I have really only had one house in our lives that is our home. It really didn't take me all that long after we moved into our house to make it our home. I started by choosing colors to paint the walls in and also choosing curtains and such that would fit our personalities. Then I started to decorate with some of the nick-nacks that I already had and I've definitely made sure to hang up plenty of our family pictures. This is what it takes to make a house a home in my opinion.
@jugsjugs (13045)
9 Sep 12
My friend did not have any money to buy any paint or anything else to change her home, so a few of us rallied round to help her get a few things that she wanted, as well as things that she really needed. Thankfully she liked all the things that we got her so she is happier now that she has put things in the house to make it feel more like home.
@kiran8 (15364)
• Mangalore, India
27 Aug 12
First of all we have to feel at home and this has t do with many other things as well! As far as making your house a home, it depends on ones taste and also what is practical from ones own point of view !It is the little personal touches that make a house a home - warm and inviting !
@jugsjugs (13045)
27 Aug 12
She has no money and there are things that she wants in each room to match and these are all certain colours that she wants in each room. I can understand what she is saying, as all the things in each of my main rooms do match and this is a way of making my own mark on my home. Me and a few of my friends have managed to get her lots of the things that she wanted, as well as the colour that she wanted them in, so lets hope this will cheer her up a bit, these things were given to me after I asked a few friends to keep their eyes open for the things that she was looking for and one of the friends got loads of things at a car boot sale that people were going to the throw away after they had finished their car boot sale.The lady who was throwing them away helped my friend take the things to her car and in return my friend bought her a coffee.
@Lakota12 (42684)
• United States
26 Aug 12
yup ya have to put you into the house to make it a home!
@jugsjugs (13045)
27 Aug 12
I agree, as you have to make your own mark on the house, rather than the person who use to live there.
@natliegleb (5186)
• India
26 Aug 12
its nice to hear,its all about maintaining it well and how well it must look with minimal things and pleasant environment in the living room
• India
26 Aug 12
Hi friend, we have the ability to make our home in a good manner, our house is based on our decorations, if we are interested in making it like a heaven, we Can do it with our self interest, good to know that your friend send her home photos to you to get your opinion
@jugsjugs (13045)
27 Aug 12
There were things that she wanted for each room, so that they would all colour coordinate, so what I done was spoke to a few friends and those few friends spoke to others and we have managed to get nearly all the things that she was after for only a few pounds, as a lot of them were given for free.Later on today she will have them all as a good friend of mine is going to take them all to her, as I am unable to drive any more, I know that she will love all the things that people have given to me to pass on to her.
@sweety_81 (2129)
• India
26 Aug 12
When we move to a new place, we do wish for things X or Y to change, to have better of "A", or more or less of something else. Some of the things satisfy, others do not. It takes time to adjust. Yet, this is a continuous process, and takes time.
@jugsjugs (13045)
27 Aug 12
Well, I have managed to get a few things for her that she wanted for her rooms, with help of my other friends as well as a person who has split with her boyfriend, so I hope these will all cheer her up, as she has been feeling really down of late. Other things that she want in the colours that she wanted have also been asked for by me to people and a few of these things will be bought here for her tomorrow, so I will have to send them with a friend to her who can drive.
@freedang (320)
• China
26 Aug 12
i always dream about have a house of my own and make it my home then.if i have a house,i will make a big study filled with book i love,and i also plant a lot of flowers cos i love them much,i also want to paint the wall green... but i cannt afford a house now and i am working for it.making a house a home,this is a warm subject i once say a sentence:it is the time you have wasted for your rose that makes your rose so important
@savypat (20247)
• United States
25 Aug 12
It never takes long for any house we move into to become a home. Sure it's just Hubby and me now, but the animals come with us. And before long the family visits and the rug rats, (crawling babies) will have toys strung out all over. Somethng is always cooking so it smells like baked bread or stew or beans. So what I am saying is no matter what you have in your home, if people are there and welcome, that's home.
@jugsjugs (13045)
27 Aug 12
I think what she wanted to do was to put her own mark on here house and she has no money spare that she can use. She also wanted to make space in her house for it to look bigger than what it is, so more room to move in it. She is like me and loves her candles as well as room plug in freshners, so she has lovely smell in each room.