The jewelry saga is over, and I had many surprises!

@Loverbear (4929)
United States
August 25, 2012 4:45pm CST
Yesterday was the end to my jewelry saga. I FINALLY got all my jewelry out of pawn. It has cost $1200 to borrow $250...well to loan the $250 to that woman. I can't begin to tell you how wonderful it is to have my jewelry back. In among the items were several pieces from my childhood that are irreplaceable. But they're home. I was so tired from the stress and activity that when we got home last night I fell asleep on the couch. Bill woke me to go to bed and my head hit the pillow and I was sound asleep until 10:30 a.m. this morning. The one thing that really surprised me was that the woman didn't hit me up for another loan, a soda, or anything else! She also apologized time after time and I actually felt that she meant it. She is discovering so many things that I had tried obliquely to teach her. Like you cannot buy true friends...and that you have to learn to live within your means. I suggested that they do like many others in the area and start going back roads and collecting aluminum cans. I've seen many people along the road that I drive to town with huge bags full of cans. They must have close to 100 pounds of cans in their trucks. That is a tidy return for a little exercise and work. But when I suggested it she told me that it was beneath them to do such a thing. Oh well, to each their own. But she is now finding ways to stretch their food budget, she isn't impulse buying anymore, and she sat down with her husband and they have had many long talks. It is now the point that they are going to make their marriage work. He doesn't feel that he is obligated to take care of her and provide for her, that it is a part of being married. She has realized that she cannot have him do all the house work, that he gets tired too and that she should do her share. Apparently there was quite a blow up between them and it ended up with their having many many talks. One of them was that she promised that she would NEVER borrow from me like she did with the jewelry. She is obligated to him via a promise to pay me back all that is owed to me...I am not holding my breath, but it would be nice. The jewelry has been in the pawn shop for 2 1/2 years! It was kind of like Christmas getting to go all the jewelry that was recovered from pawn. What was even nicer was that the woman didn't hit me up for anything! I am soooo pleased!
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@carmelanirel (21108)
• United States
26 Aug 12
Oh, I am so so so so happy for you, but I hope you don't get sucked into loaning her any more money..If she needs money, just make suggestions, because now she owes you and you owe her nothing. If next time she desperately tries to get you to loan her money, point her to the nearest place she can collect cans, because if she is so hard up that she would try to get money from someone she already owes, then she is no longer beneath collecting cans!!! And I would tell her that too!!! Of course you are probably too nice to say anything, so give me a call, I'll tell her for you...
@Loverbear (4929)
• United States
26 Aug 12
I definitely won't get sucked into loaning her more money! I may be slow, but I do eventually learn something. I just hope that she learned that when you loan money it takes away from things that you may want to or need to do! I have a package with books and other things that have been waiting to be sent to a special lady and they have been sitting waiting for the funds to ship them. The great thing about life it there is this great two letter word that a person can use, and that is "no". I will help her out with other things, and I will advise her on things but loans are a big NO. If I slip and even consider it, I'll give you a call so you can tell me how big an idiot I am. Of course the other thing is that I can pick up a very special ring that my Mom gave me that I thought I would never see again. I went through the jewelry last night and I laid my hand on that ring and cried. It's a gold teddy bear ring that I really wanted. I saw it at one of the bear shows I did, but because of the business I couldn't afford to purchase it. Somehow Mom found the lady and the ring and she put aside what she wanted and bought it for me for Christmas. When I opened the tiny package I cried over the ring... and I realize how valuable the ring is, not in monetary terms but in the memories it brings back. Mom has been gone 12 years now, and I still miss her so very very much! Speaking of teddy bears shows, I do have to share this really cute story. One of the shows I did Mom had wandered through and found a really ugly teddy bear she wanted very very badly. The person selling the bear didn't take credit cards or personal checks, so Mom had to go to the nearby bank to get the cash. In the time that she was gone I went to the booth and bought the bear. I asked the woman to tell her that the bear sold to someone from out of town while my Mom was gone at the bank. That's what happened, and of course my Mom was devastated. Of course the whole show knew what was going on...we weren't too busy when I bought the bear so everyone heard what was going on. Mom tried to find another "ugly" bear but came up empty handed. She dejectedly came back to the booth, and started to plop her fanny in the chair. It hit something lumpy and she turned to find her teddy bear! She let out a happy squeal and the whole show cheered and clapped! I also still have that teddy bear.
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• United States
26 Aug 12
Oh, what wonderful stories you have between you and your mom, memories to cherish and now you have your ring back!!! I can't tell you again how happy I am for you...
@GardenGerty (87578)
• Marion, Kansas
25 Aug 12
I am so pleased for you. I hope it helped her marriage for more than just a little while. I am not above cashing in cans, but have not been out looking lately. Let's just say I do not look a gift horse in the mouth though, if I am walking or in a parking lot and see one. Now that it is cooling off maybe hubby and I will do that some. I need the exercise. Your post kind of makes me think I should go visit my jewelry boxes and armoire just for the sake of memories. I hardly wear jewelry now adays.
@Loverbear (4929)
• United States
25 Aug 12
Many of the pieces I will be going through are gifts from my Mom. It will be a lot like having her back with me again. I miss her each day and especially when I hurt it is so nice to be able to feel close to her again. I am in pain today because of the first injection in my right knee for the arthritis in it. It hurt so badly that I think both eyes went into the same socket and then they both shot across the exam room!!! I think the doctor used a blunt needle that was made especially square for me! The first thing I did when they got my bear head bracelet out was grab it and it went on my wrist. I paid $300 for it in 1997 so you can imagine what it is worth today. But the thing is that I missed it so much and am so glad to have it back. Also there are a lot of pieces of Indian turquoise jewelry that I have reached for many times but it wasn't in the jewelry box.... The Labor Day weekend is going to be great for cans for me. It is the last long weekend of the summer and a lot of people will be in my area. I figure there will be close to $100 for the batch. I'm glad to hear that someone else isn't so full of themselves that they won't pick up aluminum cans for extra cash. I did it with my daughter when she was 5 years old, she used the money to buy Christmas gifts for her friends and her teacher. She was soooo proud of herself that she earned the money for the gifts.
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@GardenGerty (87578)
• Marion, Kansas
25 Aug 12
I have a friend on another site that started picking up scrap when he was out of work, and I have another friend whose daughter junks out old appliances. I have been poor, I would rather pick up a little, get exercise, and benefit the environment. I have heard those injections for arthritis are painful. If you can eat things seasoned with turmeric, that helps arthritis, as does ginger and sour cherries too.
• Philippines
26 Aug 12
Wow, Its really nice that you had your jewerly back. I hate people who lend money that the interest is much more higher that what you've borrowed. That's why sometimes you end up paying for the interest for so long. And it grows bigger and bigger. Our family also experienced this. But not that it was pawned, but they borrowed money from the bank.
@Loverbear (4929)
• United States
26 Aug 12
I can understand loaning money with a small interest rate, but there are too many places that try to make a HUGE profit at the public's expense. With stuff in pawn, you HAVE to pay the interest when it comes due or you lose your stuff. Like you say though the interest is horrible. The interest on some of that stuff was over 400%!!!
@Raine38 (8909)
• United States
26 Aug 12
That's good news! Double good news it seems, it was a long and tiring journey for your jewelry, as well as your friendship with her but it seems you've seen the end of the tunnel now.
@Loverbear (4929)
• United States
26 Aug 12
Yesterday I took some time to reunite with my jewelry. I sat and cried over one piece. It was a very special teddy bear ring that my Mom had purchased for me on Christmas. I so remember drooling over the ring and wanting it so badly, but the price tag was more than my budget could stand. Christmas morning came around and there was a tiny package under the tree...Mom handed it to me and when I got it open and saw the ring I cried like a baby. Mom has been gone for 12 years now, and it is the most precious thing I have..."IF" this woman ever tries to borrow my jewelry again for pawn all I have to do is pick up that ring and the answer will be NO! There is more than light at the end of this tunnel.
@cutepenguin (6458)
• Canada
26 Aug 12
What a relief it must be! And what an expensive lesson to learn. I know a few people who think that certain things are beneath them. And I don't understand that philosophy. Because you'd rather be in debt to your friends or your family than do some honest work? Hopefully she learns not to repeat the same mistakes. And I really hope that her marriage improves.
@NailTech (6892)
• United States
26 Aug 12
Really happy for you that you were finally able to get the jewlery out of the pawn shop, it was alot of money and time bu I guess worth it to get it all back? I hope that your friend does start to do some improving on her lifestyle and spending habits. I won't ever loan anything out to anyone here again, I have finally stopped my brother from borrowing money. It has been a whole year since he borrowed any money when it was going on for like 2-3 times a year. All I had to say to him was he had to "let" (he's a tv addict) me watch some TV here if I let him borrow the money and now he never borrows anything. If only I would have known that years ago. Nothing comes between that 45 yr old "boy" and his TV.
@ElicBxn (59911)
• United States
25 Aug 12
I'm so glad this is over and that she seems to have learned something in the end. I would still be very very wary
@ANTIQUELADY (36491)
• United States
25 Aug 12
Good for u. i am glad that chapter of your life is over & hope u don't get into another situation w/her or anyone else .