Why Won’t He Say I Love You?

Philippines
August 26, 2012 1:30am CST
I love him and he’s such a great guy but how long should a girl wait around before it’s not worth it anymore?
1 person likes this
10 responses
@silverfox09 (4727)
• United States
28 Aug 12
Have you told him you love him ? Sometime a girl got to make the first move .
@nyssa102 (748)
• United States
27 Aug 12
Be careful here, and not to quick to judge him. There are plenty of men that have been 'trained' since childhood not to show their feelings. however, they do it with their actions instead. What does he act like? Actions speak louder than words. Some men marry women and adore and love them and have a hard time with words. Others tell women they love them just to keep them on a string, so that the woman will wait for him. I knew a woman who waited for a man who said 'I love you' every day. Know what? She waited for that man to marry her for 15 years. she dumped him and met this shy guy and married him right away, lol. Just saying that you should be careful here, that's all. No one's situation is like any other in regards to love. just make sure his actions speak of love, an eagerness to spend the rest of your lives together. etc. For some men, words are not important
@Shavkat (65269)
• Philippines
26 Aug 12
Guys are not so expressive in their feelings. You can try to confront him, what he feels towards you. In the first place, he needs to tell you his intentions prior to the relationships now.
@KateMary (23)
• Romania
26 Aug 12
That`s a harsh situation .Maybe this guy is a shy one ,or he doesen`t think that he loves you. The guys are a real enygma till` you get to know them better .Not all are the same . Try spending a little more time with him ,try to be more friendly(not sufocating) and then act.Some guys just wait for the right moment , they expect it to be the perfect moment . If he doesen`t act , try to stay a little time apart from him .And then if he truly loves` you ,he'll came back to you .If he doesen`t ,it means he never loved you . The world hasn`t finished ^_^ , in this world must` be a boy that could make you happy .
@luxlyangels (1286)
26 Aug 12
Do you tell him all the time? Some people are scared to say the words because of a past experience with someone who felt they loves them so much and finally took them for granted , in the end tearing their heart apart, am sure this is he's case and he doesn't want to re live the whole process again. Also, some people don't just say it and its not that they don't love you too, its just maybe not part of their culture or something, trust me, you ll know if a guy loves you from his actions, words has little or nothing to do with it. In all, if you feel he loves you back and this shows in his actions and you would love to hear him tell and assure you with his words, then you would have to teach him how to. Talk to him calmy about it and let it come to him, gradually , he ll start saying it back to you.
@enelym001 (8333)
• Philippines
26 Aug 12
Is he your boyfriend already? Or you just hang out with each other? If he is your boyfriend then I doubt if he really loves you. Although I must say that there were guys who are not really as expressive as others. They will make you feel it but they won't say it. But If you both are just friends... you love him and you FEEL he loves you. Then I guess you have to do something. It's either asked him if he feels the same way to you. Or just set yourself a limit on how long you must wait. I did that. And now I realized it isn't worth wasting my time thinking about a guy whom I feel is a coward and not the serious type.
@WakeUpKitty (8706)
• Netherlands
26 Aug 12
Some people say easily: I love you. Others only if they are sure they do. Some say it a billion times, others never will but do show it! How long one should wait? Till that person says: this is the limit, I need more or something different, I waste my life sitting here, waiting, hoping...
@Oktavist (396)
• Romania
26 Aug 12
I personally had it extremely hard to say "I love you".My thoughts were the following:"I love you.Why would she ever want to hear this?Isn't it a little bit selfish of her wanting this?I love you.Huh...I love my parents and my siblings".But some time after,I could feel that if she went away,I would feel bad.And in a moment,I felt how the bubble is breaking.I couldn't help myself and told her that I loved her.Had the best sense of relief!
@berting600 (3458)
• Philippines
26 Aug 12
Do not play a martyr type.You could still find many more guys around.He is not the only man in the planet.If he still do not bother to notice you,even if there are many instances you made some invitations to meet him,then you got to move yourself girl. There are more deserving men out there that can still make you happy.
• United States
26 Aug 12
The girl should leave when she knows nothing good is going to come out of the situation they are in.