Abusive friends

@Daisy_22 (1230)
Philippines
August 27, 2012 6:15pm CST
Last few days I was out of mylot for a while. I tried to communicate my friends for i miss them already. But to my dismay it seems no one misses me.They are all busy.Some don't even bother to reply my messages to them. It's such a big disappointment. I was quite depressed.I start to ask myself, Am i the only one thinking about them?Is it because they are not in need of me anymore? One of my friends reply and told me we will go out but your treat...I ponder that maybe she wants to see me so that she will be treated a dinner. How abusive she is!I was shocked and never expected that i'm just like that to her....She didn't bothere asking me if I'm okay....She doesn't even recognize that if I will going to chat or text them it means there's something bad or good happen to me. It seems that I never existed in their world.Starting today I said myself not to pay much value in my life for me not to be hurt this much anymore... How about you mylotters?
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13 responses
• United States
27 Aug 12
I have been sticking to mylot these past few weeks. I miss a few days moving my mother in her place. So,I am not all the fast to call anyone up to spend time with them. If I can't mylot I don't want anything else. the extra money I make here is all I am in need of.
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@Daisy_22 (1230)
• Philippines
27 Aug 12
well i guess i just need to focus wrting here..
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@ravisivan (14055)
• India
27 Aug 12
She is telling about friends living in her own place --that way it must refer to people living in your area --NY. there may not be many probably and even then may not be in touch with them.
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• United States
28 Aug 12
That would make you some really good friendships and give you something else to do. thanks.
@Juliyan23 (600)
• Indonesia
27 Aug 12
I do admit that I never really had a real friend in my other life ( I called other life because being online is my another one :D ) They never texted me first unless they want to borrow my notes - ask me to teach them - or more even worse they ever asked me to lend a room at my house for many people and ask for breakfast also dinner (they have planned to take a lunch at somewhere) Don't you know they never replied when I texted them just to have a talk? And moreover, they even ever had a plan to go karaoke or just take a walk in a mall and I asked to join - they said that they cancel it - in a meanwhile one of them told me accidentally how great the karaoke was. And when I asked why they did that? They told me don't be too sensitive - and they continued abuse and bully me ( whenever I rejected to help them anymore, they spreaded the rumor that I was a jerk and some lecturers became hate me and gave me a lot of difficulties in campus) and they did over and over . I just don't care them anymore. I'm happy with mylotters - where everyone seems so helpful and never complains even critisizes a lot . Dear Daisy, you are not alone , dear.. I always believe that even the lightest pain - God always has His reason and want us to learn how to be a stronger by our own way :) Have a good day, Daisy :)
@Daisy_22 (1230)
• Philippines
28 Aug 12
Thank you for giving an encouraging thoughts today.
• Indonesia
28 Aug 12
You're welcome.. Actually that thoughts also for encouraging me as well as it happens to me too :) Have a nice day!
@kongno (431)
• Philippines
3 Sep 12
what happened to you is a one way relationship, they are your friend but you are not their friend, but good thing you noticed it, you always have the choice to choose true friend that really care about you, in the end those abusive that you considered friend will a treasure and you will loose nothing but a peace of unwanted garbage...
@Hatley (164654)
• Garden Grove, California
2 Sep 12
Daisy people do get caught up in their own world and doings but give your friends one chance as it may not be as bad as you think then if what you feel is true you c an find some real friends who will care for you like you care for them, No we do not exist in their world when they are away as they are busy in their own comfortable world but yet i have had old friends meet me and have a sandwich with me and tell me they just keep forgetting to call me. married people are bad at staying caught up withe single friends especially .Just do not be hurt because people are being people and we cannot do much to change them.make new friends also do not depend on very old friends.
@ARIES1973 (9531)
• Legaspi, Philippines
29 Aug 12
This thing may happen because most of them are already busy with their own life. But asking you for something in order for them to have time for you, well that is another issue I think. Personally, I don't have such time to spend with my old classmates because of the kind of job I have.
@wolfie34 (26793)
• United Kingdom
28 Aug 12
In life you can count on your fingers your true friends and you know who are your true friends is when you can count on them in a crisis or if you really need them, they will be there no question. Friendship is a two way thing, both parties give, when one doesn't then that is not a true friendship. Friendship is about caring, warmth, being there, comforting you when you are down, someone to talk to, unconditional friendship when it's not one sided, not about what the other person can use or get out of you. In all honesty with you, these people don't sound at all like true friends and they have their own agenda which is a great shame because they are missing out. If they are abusive why would you want to be around them in the first place? You deserve to be treated far better and by different friends who truly value you as a person and want to spend quality time with you!
• Kenya
28 Aug 12
Its just sad to have people in your life that you can not count on. The definition of a friend is a person who stays by your side during good and bad and make your life easier and if they do not fit this description then they are not friends. There are people in your life that are there when everything is working out fine but when there is a hint of something not going right in your life, they are out of it. To error is to human and at least you have found out how people are, live your life well and learn to be happy by yourself so that if your friends don't show up, you still maintain your joy.
@rsa101 (13336)
• Philippines
28 Aug 12
Well sometimes friends can be so insensitive with what they tell you not because they wanted to abuse you or hurt you but they just wanted to play candid with you. But of course that depends on the mood of the other. I think being a good friend you wanted to be with them, just try to understand and maybe just be considerate with them. Everything will be okay if you do that and not keep this hurt in yourself. It would be good for yourself and the friendship you had with them.
@toniganzon (49914)
• Philippines
28 Aug 12
TWo years ago I was living like a hermit. Not meeting a single friend at all and nobody even bothered to check on me. Did that make me feel bad? Yes, for awhile. Then I started to talk to one of them and even got invited to a party. That's when I got myself back into my circle of friends. Gone were the thoughts that they never cared about me or nobody remembered about me. I had only myself to blame. I was the one who stayed away.
@ElicBxn (60884)
• United States
28 Aug 12
I don't have any "friends" close enough to meet on myLot. I have met a couple, one I got Tony from, I drove to San Antonio to get him, he's a WONDERFUL cat. The other I drove to Kansas and then she and her husband, also on myLot, drove to where we were and we all went and spent the day at Dodge City. I'd like to meet more people from myLot, but I don't get to travel much.
• India
28 Aug 12
sad to hear about this, but it is really hard to find real friends in online world. We consider all our friends are real and have more affection and real care about us, but some of our friends are pretending that they are our good friends, but in real they don't have affection with us and showing their fake face to us. If we expect a lot from this kind of friends, we will get disappointment only, better to avoid high expectation with friends. We have lot of friends in online and consider them as our real friends, if we are busy with our work and in need to miss online activities, we will message to our friends about our absence and expect their reply, some of our friends will reply to us and some of them don't consider our message, it is the best chance to find our real friends, if our friend don't consider our message, then they are not very much concerned with us and they don't bother about our missing, we can keep distance from this kind of persons. This kind of absence is a chance to find the real person who have real affection with us, the person whoever consider us as an important person will surely reply to our message and expect our arrival, this kind of activities are the symbol of real friends and fake persons don't care about our missing they are busy with their activities and don't have time for us.
@dsw313 (321)
• Philippines
27 Aug 12
I know exactly how you feel Daisy, I had experienced everything. From the very beginning I am a very supportive, kind and loves my friends dearly. I am always honest and I can give my help as long as I can, in terms of everything. But when I had this problem, and felt like it is the most darkest part of my life, they were no where to reach, and had left me one by one. Until I had this one true friend who stays with me and communicates with me even thought we're apart. Sad to say but, there are people who only stays with you if they can have benefits in return. I know this predicament in my life won't last long, and I know I can make it up again, when that time comes, I will still consider them as friend but I already know what they worth. :) I know who my true friends are. :)
@ravisivan (14055)
• India
27 Aug 12
Daisy Yes. probably you tell about your friends in your own place - philipines. that is good to meet. Since most members may not be able to spend for others -- the best option -- that that man that that pay -- that is each one will pay his bill. This is the understanding we have when we friends go out in chennai -- not now about three /four decades ago. Nowadays since we are above some age we know who is to spend and how much to spend.