Can you easily detect?

@averygirl72 (16675)
Philippines
August 30, 2012 3:09am CST
My question is about dealing with different people in our lives. Can you easily detect if a person you deal with is sincere is just making fool of you? I know no one wants to be fooled and no one wants to hang around people with bad intentions. But there are times they are hard to detect and they seem to be so friendly at first but wait till they have enough power to bite you or somehow back stab you without you ever knowing it. Have you met people like that before, pretending to be friends but actually are enemies?
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@celticeagle (117158)
• Boise, Idaho
30 Aug 12
I think that after sixty years of dealing with people I am pretty good at detecting fake people from the real ones. I am selective and choosy as to who I let into my life. I used to have two very good friends. One I had known for nearly fourty six years and the other about twenty five. The latter one ended up showing herself to be less than a good friend. I have met all kinds in my life. Nothing surprises me anymore. I am just very watchful and can usually tell who I want to spend time with and who I don't.
@averygirl72 (16675)
• Philippines
31 Aug 12
I like what you said. Very true. For thirty years of my life I have been around all types of people too and sad to say when I filtered them very few left in me as real friends most of them are fake. Very sad however, at least I know before it is too late.
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@celticeagle (117158)
• Boise, Idaho
31 Aug 12
Good that you knew before it was too late. That is important.
@berting600 (3458)
• Philippines
30 Aug 12
Detecting such bad intentions do not show even if you are contacting for a few month time.There must be a longer study to all concern because in that way you could study the styles of his dealings,how he pays you from each deals.You could now decide if he is dedicated or not from your previous records from him.
@averygirl72 (16675)
• Philippines
31 Aug 12
Previous records, that is it. You need longer time to deal before you can sense the person's style.
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• Philippines
31 Aug 12
I could not sense if they have no record to observed,even you could never find because it very hard to detect with just one look at the person concerned.This is really true to investigate a certain murder case,that police reports and observations in the crime scene is very important,that everything collected as evidence could determined who are the persons responsible in the making of the crime.Now,do not tell me you do not do these things and you just make friends to unknown people without knowing them very well?You must be very careful.
@bird123 (10481)
• United States
1 Sep 12
You can only be a fool if you choose to be a fool.No one can really make you a fool. If everyone laughs, laugh too, being happy you brought joy to others. The real answer must come from you. How do you choose to define yourself? Remember, your choices are doing just that. As for me, I give everyone I meet the great opportunity to be trustworthy. Now, if they prove to be untrustworthy,sometimes I'll make them my best friend in order to discover why they make such choices. I can work on them after that. After all, isn't that what a true friend would do???
@averygirl72 (16675)
• Philippines
6 Sep 12
Good. Some people wants to fool us but that is to the extent or degree we give them the opportunity.
@jricky1 (6809)
• China
1 Sep 12
Doing that is not easy and i feel hard to detect what's on other people's mind. But actually this is good for our daily communicating and to make the conversation much relax and easier. lol, this is an art i think and personally think i can learn that. I mean not to be a good man but to live who you are.
@averygirl72 (16675)
• Philippines
6 Sep 12
Right it was not easy, especially if you are not suspicious type and you trust people easily.
@JenInTN (27565)
• United States
31 Aug 12
Oh yes..I have certainly met those. I have worked with a few of those for a very long time. There is one particular person that comes to mind with this discussion. She has always tried to "get me." She will go to great lengths to act like she wants to be friends and in the same breathe do something that is obviously intentional that is against me. WHen I got my promotion at work, she told me how happy she was for me and then turned right around and went straight to the office to tell them how she didn't think it was right that I was promoted. Crazy.
@averygirl72 (16675)
• Philippines
6 Sep 12
That means it is a common experience. Pretty crazy coz' sometimes you are already fooled before you see the real picture.
@CTHanum (8254)
• Malaysia
30 Aug 12
Its hard to know exactly what their true intentions. I feel so grateful I have never met with such kind of people. One thing I know is don't easily trust people with your whole heart even the one that close to you as you have no idea what they might do to you in the future.(^^)
@averygirl72 (16675)
• Philippines
31 Aug 12
Wow so great. Your so lucky to be surrounded with real friends. As for me sad to say I have been set up with friends who are actually accomplice to people who hates me. They pretend as my friends but they are laughing at my back because I trust them with my whole heart, laugh at their jokes, take a ride on their snares and traps, have fun with their crazy stuff.
• United States
30 Aug 12
Met people like that? Oh yea, they are called family, friends, co-workers, salesmen, ect. Its hard to know but most of the time your gut can tell you. Its hard when you get taken advantage of, some lessons are hard to learn but you should at least learn them.
@averygirl72 (16675)
• Philippines
31 Aug 12
Very true. It is hard when they have taken advantage of your innocence. Though they really exist, we have our gut feelings to tell for sure.
@natliegleb (5186)
• India
30 Aug 12
ya i can since i have seen so many people through out my life and based up on their reaction and mind voice and how well they behave i can judge them
@averygirl72 (16675)
• Philippines
31 Aug 12
Yup based on their reactions- body language- eye language- mouth language- it will surface!
• India
30 Aug 12
Hi friend, it is really hard to find the fake person at the beginning,. but we can find them with our experience, a lot of fake persons are available in this world., we must be careful to get rid from them
@averygirl72 (16675)
• Philippines
31 Aug 12
True. When someone is faking, you cannot detect it easily. But it is better to be careful than be sorry
@toniganzon (48524)
• Philippines
30 Aug 12
I'm not so good at judging people. I always have a smile and an open arms to those who wants to be friends with me. I only tend to discover their real colors as time goes by. I'm just blessed that I discover this before they could do real damage in my life. It's not that easy to tell when one is being a good friend or just pretending.
@averygirl72 (16675)
• Philippines
31 Aug 12
That is me too. I am not good in judging people. I am not aware that the person is just making BOLA or making a big joke on you since they appear to be so nice, so generous but the fact is -it is only a front---they actually despise you and I discovered people like that. Real colors do really shows no matter how much they try to camouflage.
@sbrn11 (415)
• India
30 Aug 12
if your enemies pretend to be your friends, there is no way you can find out what their intentions are. unless someone you trust tells you, that this person is going to back stab you. because even if someone is your very good friend, and anyone comes and tells you that he is not a good person, you won't believe. unless the person who tells you is a person you trust a lot. and also you will come to know when they actually do something bad to you.
@averygirl72 (16675)
• Philippines
31 Aug 12
Hmm..that is true when a real enemy pretend as friends it would be much dangerous since your enemy is hiding between a nice face but when you don't see him face to face wait till he back stabs you in front of other people.
@winterose (39922)
• Canada
30 Aug 12
Yes I have I think most people have had bad experiences like that. Sometimes it is very hard to tell a true friend from a hypocrite like that. As you get older you either begin to sense more who is real or who is not or take a longer time to call someone your friend.
@averygirl72 (16675)
• Philippines
31 Aug 12
Hypocrite word....that is it..I would prefer people who are mean at first then becomes good to you as time goes by than people who are very nice at the beginning but slowly shows the little horns they are hiding.
@roshigo58 (4871)
• Pune, India
30 Aug 12
Hi, I have experienced this few times. But these people are very selfish and greedy and they are friends because they have some self interest with our friendship. They pretend that they are our best friends but truth can not be hide. In the beginning they are successful in deceiving us but they can not deceive us for a long time. I hate such selfish people.
@averygirl72 (16675)
• Philippines
31 Aug 12
Yes that it is they are deceivers, but truth cannot hide...eventually it will show up
• China
30 Aug 12
It is not easy or true to judge a person in a short period. Time will tell us everything.
@averygirl72 (16675)
• Philippines
31 Aug 12
True, relationships can be tested by time, it will tell us everything we need to know
@ARIES1973 (9534)
• Legaspi, Philippines
2 Sep 12
I'd like to make friend with people but there are really times that we can sense that others are trying to make friends with us because of some intentions. I have a lot of similar experiences. It's okay to make friends but I set a boundary so that I would know if I am still on the right track. For example, I met a new friend then he/she is extra sweet to me. By this I would try to assess the situation. Why? When money concerns came in, I will reconsider things and make a graceful exit. I was already been fooled a lot of times before. I won't let anybody this time to do it again.