Very very very depress....
By chicgale
@chicgale (2982)
Philippines
August 30, 2012 4:33am CST
I think it's been a month now or more that I haven't posted or opened myLot. I actually miss being here especially this time. I was very depress about what happened in my life lately. My partner that I was with for 7 years (but I always call him a husband even though we are not married coz for me he was my husband), broke up. I was very very very sad about it and I don't know when am I gonna move on. I am still depress right now thinking about the memories here in the house. I thought everything would turn out OK between us but then he left me and my daughter last Tuesday and I don't even have any IDEA on his whereabouts. I kept sending him emails but he never respond to any one of my emails. I am very worried. I don't really know what to do, and I don't even wanna talk or see to any of my friends coz everything they told me is to find another man so that I can move on. I don't wanna find another man or jump into it right away coz I don't want to and I am afraid that I will get hurt again. This is our 3rd breakup and he always left me but then I still accept him back. But he told me the day he left, he told me that he will not come back anymore like he always did before coz he is not a good man for me and I am too good for him. He told me that he is not a type of person who is easy to live with but I still stayed with him for 7 years. I don't really understand why he has to leave me. He said I need to find a younger man who can give future with me and my daughter coz there is no future with him. It is not easy and my daughter is hurting too! I dont really know what to do. I cried so much everyday. I am thinking of moving to another apartment just for me and my daughter coz this house is very depressing. Please give me some advice about what am I going to do right now coz I am very depress. I know I can give good advice to another people, but when it comes to my own problem, it is hard for me to solve it.
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13 responses
@lynboobsy11 (11343)
• Philippines
30 Aug 12
I'm sorry gale for being on that situation, as I remember your husband left to visit his family in the US right and the last time I remember your last post is that you are not well. So what happened to your husband visit to his family did he already came and talk to you that he would leave you for good? If this happened without clear reason to your mind I think you must move on with your life now. He is not really a worth crying for since he did not cherish the 7 years you been together and then just for invalid reason he will leave you and your daughter.
Moving to another apartment is the first thing to do.
Moving to another apartment is the first thing to do.1 person likes this
@lynboobsy11 (11343)
• Philippines
31 Aug 12
Be strong and pray always I hope you'll find peace everyday the best thing to move is to accept, all things happened to us has it's purpose and reason. Just be brave for your daughter.
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@ryanong (9665)
• Vietnam
31 Aug 12
Oh my friend. I am very sorry to hear your story.
However i feel something is not right in here because suddenly he left with some reasons like that after 7 years living together with you. It doesn't make sense at all.
I really don't know to give any advice to you this time but you should be stronger. He doesn't reply your email it doesn't mean he didn't read it. Better you suggest a meeting then both you guys can have a talk..to understand/know everything clear and go to the final decision. You can write email to him and i am sure he reads it.
Don't think too much, relaxing..everything will be ok, with the time you can find a good solution and know what you should do next.
Try to go out or do something else then you don't have much time to think of this problem when you are too depressed like right now. After a while, you can think it back and you may know what to do, and i am sure everything will be fine back.
We are always beside you. I wish you all the best..
@ryanong (9665)
• Vietnam
11 Sep 12
umh, he is crazy...why did he run from his love also...people say women are complicated but i don't think so, men are so complicated.
Don't be so sad, enjoy your life now and both you guys are still in love, i do hope you guys will be back together soon....
@allen0187 (58438)
• Philippines
3 Sep 12
hopefully everything pans out right for you chicgale.
stay strong for your daughter. if you still need someone to talk to, feel free to pm me and i'll gladly offer whatever help i can.
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@vidhyaprakash_2 (7116)
• India
3 Sep 12
Hi friend, sorry to hear about this, your topic clearly shows that you are sincere with him and your love is a real one, but he is not a proper person for you, as he interested in leaving you. Why you still thinking about him? Don't worry, if you have the ability to live alone and grow up your daughter as a single parent, then go ahead and live alone, otherwise find a person who is apt for you and marry him, forget about your past life. all the best
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@educatorstudent (43)
• Philippines
30 Aug 12
Oh I just want to add more advice.
Join purefilipina.com or dateinasia.com
There are genuine persons there who are really searching for true love.
If your ready just try that website. But don't fall too or too serious.
Okay. That's all!
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@educatorstudent (43)
• Philippines
30 Aug 12
I understand your situation chicgale. Oh by the way I'm from Philippines. I can give tagalog language advice instead of English. For me the first thing you must do is to go out in your apartment and go to church. Have a confession to a priest so that your emotions will release the negative energy. I think that's the simplest yet a very good thing to do because I done that too. The second advice I can give is to find a new environment. Find a new place to live in. Find a new apartment and start a new live with your daughter. Third, its time for you to be a strong woman! A strong single parent just like my mom who is a single parent too. It's the better thing to do to sacrifice everything especially love. You must control yourself and accept the fact that the guy left you. If he really loves you he will come back to you. Just enjoy the things you have right now and please try to move on in every step of the way. I hope my advice can be helpful for you.
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@Thoroughrob (11742)
• United States
30 Aug 12
You have to think of your daughter right now. If moving can give you a new start with her than do it. I am sure that some of the emotions she is having is coming from seeing mom so upset. You need to be on your own two feet before even thinking of bringing another man into your life. You don't need another stressful thing in your life. It is about you and your daughter.
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@jillhill (37354)
• United States
30 Aug 12
First of all you should do a few outings....and get out of the place where all the memories lie.....then you need to wake up each morning and realize how special you are and that all things happen for a reason.....Mr. Really Right might just be around the corner....but I understand that love doesn't die overnight. Cherish the memories you have of him...but make a plan to move on.
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@piya84 (2581)
• India
30 Aug 12
He has his own reason to leave you and looks like he dont want to share it with you.
He dont want you back thats the bottom line.
You better spend some time alone ask friends and family for support,after all thats why they are there.When you need support they should support you otherwise they are not really your friends.
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@jenny1015 (13366)
• Philippines
30 Aug 12
Hi, Chicgale! I am so sorry about what happened to you and your partner. Please help yourself to be strong most especially for your daughter. I he did leave you for good, then it about time to move on with your life. It still hurts a lot at this time, but eventually it will lessen as the days will pass. Make yourself busy with other things and do not indulge with sad thoughts. I think you already did your part of being a good partner by accepting him 2x. If the cause of your problem is something that has hurt you a lot, give yourself a chance to be happy and enjoy life with your daughter. SMILE! It is not the end of the world. Someday, you'll find a much better person- someone that will love you and your daughter and would always paint a smile on your face.
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@Bhebelen14 (5194)
• Philippines
30 Aug 12
Hi chicgale, While reading your post it broke my heart and a little bit shock. I never thought that your going through this very hard situation, i thought your not active here because your sick and I am little bit worried about you. I know your hurt right now but be strong and brave for yourself and for your daughter, sooner or later everything will be fine and you can move on too in due time. If only I can run and go to your place right now I will embrace you and cry with you so that it will lessen your pain. Moving to another apartment is a good idea because it can help you to start a new life and move on. I am hoping and praying that one day your husband will return like before and never leave you and your daughter again no matter what. If you want someone to talk with or someone to listen to you just pm me then I try my best to respond as soon as possible.
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@PageTurner (2825)
• United States
31 Aug 12
Hello chicgale
I am so sorry to hear of these recent developments in your life. My heart is heavy with sorrow for you and your daughter.
It sounds like he is not being completely honest with you, and even though you hurt very much now, you will make it through this and find happinness again.
I am keeping you and your daughter in my prayers. Don't give up!
Peace
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@nawazgabol (7)
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31 Aug 12
i am really sorry for you as i have been there myself, and i know how it feels like , one should never give up your hopes , you can always have a better partner , you just have to look for it.
