Should I greet her a 'Happy Birthday' or not???
By itsmechelle
@itsmechelle (114)
August 30, 2012 8:38am CST
As what I have recently posted, I have already let go of everything that has something to do with my ex bf including his family. I have nothing against his family especially to his mom. It's just that I just wanted to start moving on with my life and I think it would be helpful for me if I won't be having any connection with any of them. I disconnected from them so suddenly, I just don't know if they noticed it.
Tomorrow would be the 50th birthday of my ex boyfriend's mom. Part of me would like to greet her a 'Happy Birthday' through FB out of respect. But I'm not sure if it would be a good idea. I just don't want them to hear anything from me. I don't know if I am being sensible or reasonable here, but this confuses me.
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7 responses
@Trustyguy (69)
• Thailand
30 Aug 12
Hi!
If i were you I'd think about it twice. If you are not friends with your ex bf i don't think that it's a good idea to greet his mom "Happy Birthday". If you don't have any connections with him and his family it's not that importsnt to greet her mother. But I am wondering do you talk to his mom often or may be you are friends with her?
@itsmechelle (114)
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30 Aug 12
My ex bf, my ex bf's mom and I were/are in good terms despite of all that happened between me and my ex bf. I just needed to disconnect from them, because I find it hard to move on with my life if I stay connected with them. My ex bf's mom and I used to communicate through fb.
@watchamacallitz (1171)
• Philippines
29 Sep 12
You can just send his mom a private message so she's the only one who gets to read it and not the whole world. His mom would really appreciate it if you'd still take the time to greet her despite the fact that you and her son (your ex) is already separated. Just send her a message and that would be fine :).
@thinkingoutloud (6127)
• Canada
30 Aug 12
If you like his mom, and have always been on good terms with her, then by all means wish her happy birthday. Especially if all you're doing is sending her a message on FB, it's a simple expression of good wishes, nothing more. It's not like you're showing up on her front doorstep, with a gift in hand or anything, waiting to be invited in. Just wishing someone happy birthday doesn't imply you want to re-establish any connection to your ex-bf or his family. You know it's her birthday and you would simply like to acknowledge that and wish her well. Nothing more, nothing less :)
@enelym001 (8322)
• Philippines
30 Aug 12
I think your ex-bf's mom would be happy if you greet her on her birthday. I don't see anything wrong with that. You have known each other before and even if there's something wrong that has happened with you and her son, I think we should not let other family members get affected with it too. Especially if you have a good relationship with his mom.
@BigMoney25 (1286)
• Philippines
21 Sep 12
if you think this can affect you and your process of moving on, I think it would be better for you not to greet your ex, life is too short be happy while you are still alive. Goodluck
