We may not be blood but I miss my brother

United States
August 30, 2012 9:08pm CST
Growing up my life wasn't dreams and fairy tales. It was hard,cold and unforgiving. I had a friend who was also raised this way. I refer to him as my brother. We cleaned each others wounds when beaten by our parents, cried to each other, supported the other and he was more family to me then my own. My kids call him Uncle and my husband has even taken to calling him his brother in law. (they where friends in high school but not real close). He recently started a serious relationship with a woman he met where he lives (We are in PA he is in FL) and brought her up North with him when he came to visit (he comes here every couple months at least). She was surprised to see him so happy to see me and me him. I do not think she can comprehend our relationship very well yet and it took my husband almost a decade to get it. I miss him everyday. We didn't just share the hell in our lives but all the good moments too. Also it is hard because we know all of each other's faults and we have some doozies. Old habits that can be dangerous and not being able to be there with the other makes us both nervous at times. This last trip was a surprise for me because he knew I was dieting and wanted to make sure I was healthy. At a point in my life I was anorexic and for months the only food I swallowed was what he physically forced down my throat to give an understanding of why this would make him nervous (he saw I was doing it healthy and was very relieved). The fact that he showed up off schedule was so good though. When he is expected I am excited but this time I wasn't prepared and was floored by how much I had missed him. It is hard for most to understand that we are not nor have ever been romantic because we so openly love each other but he is and has always been and will always be my brother. I miss him on the day to day though and wish life hadn't moved us so far appart.
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6 responses
@vipline (134)
• Greece
31 Aug 12
I'm sorry to hear about the hard time you had in your childhood life.Things weren't easy back then and your family made it worse to you.You and your friend had some tough times and I can't imagine how you managed to continiue living your life after this.Also I hope one day your brother will come and do some thing you did like in the old times.Happy mylotting.
• United States
4 Sep 12
We have grown up to depend on each other.
@laydee (12813)
• Philippines
31 Aug 12
I think this type of friendship is rare and I hope that it stays that way. I think the good thing here is you are already married and he has a partner. I would surely hope that he doesn't have any romantic feelings for you as you don't have any to him. But if suddenly he tells you otherwise, what are you to do?? I'm pretty sure the friendship could last if both would steer clear of temptations of the body. Just make sure the you mind yourself and your actions because a friend like that is hard to find. And the best part is, your husband gets it. Have a great mylot experience ahead!
• United States
4 Sep 12
He hasn't tried anything in almost 25 years I think it's safe..
@jenny1015 (13389)
• Philippines
31 Aug 12
Do you know why you are feeling this way towards him? It is because he has become your "shelter after a storm" during your younger years. And you were never that afraid to face any beatings coz you know that you always had him who will comfort you and stay with you.
• United States
4 Sep 12
Yes it was built on our being able to trust each other with everything but that is how all good relationships begin.
@rsa101 (16743)
• Quezon City, Philippines
31 Aug 12
Yeah good for you that you were able to preserved that relationship and there was no malice whatsoever in that partnership you had with him. That is quite rare in many relationship between boy and girl friendship and many would have ended together as partners in life and seldom it is that you were able to keep that brother-sister relationship at all.
• United States
4 Sep 12
Yes I guess it is rare. We met young enough to build that bond before romance was an issue.
@dorannmwin (36698)
• United States
31 Aug 12
There are but a few precious people in our lives that are not our blood but are as close to us as our own family is. That is the way that the relationship with my best friend is. She's been gone for nearly three months now (she is serving out a probation violation) and I have to admit that I miss her terribly. In fact, yesterday was her birthday and she didn't call me so that I could give her my regards and that is something that is bothering me. I know that she is safe and I know that it won't be that long before she is home, but in the mean time I really do have to admit that I miss her every single day.
• United States
4 Sep 12
It is amazing to realize how dependant we really are on others.
@sunita64 (6473)
• India
31 Aug 12
Such relationships are truly divine. Even I have a friend whom I call my father's adopted daughter. We were together in school, shared a similar background, even our families were fond of one another. She is not my blood relation but I have more faith on her than anyone else. Truly such friendships become more than friendship, we are divine sister I feel, and now we are far from one another and miss her so much.
• United States
4 Sep 12
it hurts sometimes I miss him so much...