Have you ever felt that your mother does not like you?

@blinjk (613)
Philippines
August 31, 2012 12:50am CST
There should be an equal treatment at home.Mother should treat her children equally. I really do not know if I am just being paranoid or something but I think that my mother is just like that.When she is angry to me, she never will talk to me and as if I am the baddest person.Then she will say something about leaving us and would talk about you.Well, I am her daughter so I have to be sorry and everything even if it not actually my fault.Then she never brings me with her, she usually calls my eldest brother and younger sister.I am thinking that it is all about the money because my brother and my sister have jobs so they can give her money. I have a part time job but I cannot give her money because I have a son. She wants me to work but how can I work if she is always going out. Who will be the person to take care of my son if they are not even helping me,right? I know I am responsible about it but they should also understand and help me because they are my family.I really do not know what and how to react about my mother but still I respect her and love her even if she is like that to me.
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• Philippines
31 Aug 12
Oh, I guess your son is still young to leave. That's why you only have a part-time job. There should be someone to look after him. My son is also young so my husband is looking after him. Some people are asking me, why I am the one working and not my husband. I have this job for four years already. He had his small business which we decided to close when our son started to go to school. It's my choice to work. I can provide our daily expenses, etc. For now, I don't worry a lot because I'm still earning enough for us. I hope your mom will try to understand you. It's not always about the money. I hope she isn't materialistic. She should consider your situation. She's still your mother. You're a good daughter I know. You just don't have the money she wants from you. Let's pray that you and your mother will have a better relationship soon. Happy mylotting.
@blinjk (613)
• Philippines
31 Aug 12
Yes, my son is still young and thank you for your comment. It makes me happy that someone understands what I am going through.It is a good thing that you have a husband.I am a single parent and the father of my son does not even support his son.He calls and texts me but he never gave anything to us that is why I am really having a hard time.All I want from my mother is consideration and understanding for the mean time.
@jenny1015 (13390)
• Philippines
31 Aug 12
That is sad, blinjik. Unfortunately, there really are mothers who does not treat her children equally. I am hoping that your mother isn't one of them. But if you think that she is treating you unfairly, maybe you just need to humble yourself with it. No sense of arguing with her. Just show her that you can somehow be a responsible parent to your son and that you do not need every financial help in rearing your child.
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@blinjk (613)
• Philippines
31 Aug 12
Thank you for your comment. I know that there are mothers who have favorites. Even if my mother cannot understand my situation,I still respect her that much because she is still my mother and she have made a lot of things for me.
• United States
31 Aug 12
If you have a son then you should have a full time job. It seems that you almost expect your family to stop doing what they do just because you have a child and you need help with that child. First and for most it is not your Mothers job to baby sit for you, she is the grandma its her job to spend time with the child when she chooses. Do you pay her for baby sitting when she does watch your child? I am sure that if you did she would not be so mad. Once my family turned their backs on me and told me that I got my self into it I had to get my self out of it, maybe that's kinda what your mom is saying to you. If I was you I would get a full time job first and for most your child deserves better and so do you. Next I would talk to your Mom and find out why she is so upset with you. Then offer to pay her for the times that she has to baby sit. Last but not least see if you can afford to pay your own baby sitter and do that rather than relying on your family to baby sit for you. None of them really want to do it they are only doing it cause you have no other options and you are really forcing it on them. IMHO
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@blinjk (613)
• Philippines
31 Aug 12
You have a point but I hope that they should help me because my son is having problems on his studies and he is in a homeschool because of that so I need to guide him in his studies. I like to have a full time job but if no one is going to help me then how can I look for a job. I cannot leave my son alone at our house.This is so hard for me. I felt really so down because my mother won't let me go out because of my son.I am trying so really hard to be responsible and I am looking for any job online that is home based but I have no luck. Good thing,I have a part time that is online but it is not still enough.
• Philippines
2 Sep 12
hi blinkj, Mom always loves me they even say that Mom can't live without me this is really a overwhelming but I think all moms are like that. Maybe there are just misunderstanding about it but for sure your mom loves you the way she loves your siblings. happy mylotting
@Jshean20 (14374)
• Canada
1 Sep 12
I've never felt like my mother doesn't like me, but I have always felt like I have to do things to impress her all the time and I feel like she judges my every move. It's tough to say why I feel this way because I don't recall any specific situation that would make me feel this way, I just feel it for some reason.
@Melody968 (124)
• China
31 Aug 12
Dear friend, if I was you, I will never keep this in mind. Maybe there is some misunderstanding between you and your mother. If you really care about it, pls try to find an opportunity to talk calmly and truely heart with your mother then both of you may understand each other better and you may have better relation than before. Life will have to go on and don't think about something that make you unhappy.
@vanessa11 (296)
• Philippines
31 Aug 12
We feel your melancholy. Just continue that attitude of yours, still respecting your Mom despite the things she does to you emotionally. Try to have a heart to heart talk? That might work you know, so you can both understand each other.
@jaiho2009 (39021)
• Philippines
31 Aug 12
I feel the same too. but like you said, our mom will always be our mom. This happens in the family and misunderstanding is inevitable no matter how close we are with each other.
@jazel_juan (15767)
• Philippines
31 Aug 12
Somehow she loves you and no matter what you are still her child. Maybe she just find it that you are already capable of being alone and is independent thats why she does that. But i would not be able to say anything at all as it is only your mother that knows what is deep within. I also feel and harbor some similar feelings like you, i have a brother and most often i feel like my mother is more into him and always supportive of him rather than of my decisions. but as a parent now, i try my best to be equal as possible though there are times when i really do feel that some of my kids are easier to handle than some.
@Fulltank (2896)
• Philippines
31 Aug 12
Nope, not at all. But, there are times in my teenage life especially when I was learning to discover the world on my own. She keeps on calling my dormitories phone to check on me. My dorm mates used to call me mama's boy and I'm too embarrassed about it. I never tell here anyway what I felt and never get angry with her. Now that I do have children of my own, the situation would definitely be the same.