Your honest opinions
By aubrey
@averygirl72 (37716)
Philippines
September 1, 2012 5:25am CST
I have a simple question which I need to find some opinions. You see I have been tracing the reasons why people around are so mean to me. I look at myself in the mirror and I found myself of average appearance. I am not super celebrity looking but I am not so ugly too.
Then I am on my quiet times when I got the answer to my question. I found out people around our community seem to hate the look of my mother. I found out, they have negative tags around her. Yes I agree as compared to many beautiful faces around my place my mother's look is way below. She is dark skin in color,has coarse hair, and plain looks but I love my mom the way she is. She is not beautiful at first look but when I look at her for a long time, She really looks sweet and nice looking.
I had a revelation that the reason people mistreated me is because of my mother's plain not so pretty looks. I found out people tag her as negro-black, poop, feet and monkey. That is the reason why I am around they sell candies which looks like poop, they arrange classmates that are mostly black, and they always prepare bananas when I am around. In our church too, they ask me to make an art with foot on it and also send my brother to Negros Occidental in Philippines which shaped like a foot.
Not only that people here in our place called us fools because they are just making BOLA or spin our head or is just using flattery but they are actually ridiculing.
My question is, just because you are far good looking should you tag a person and degrade a person? It hurts because I don't judge ugly looking people that way. I pity poor looking people and I cannot afford to hurt their feelings more since they are disadvantage in terms of looks.
12 responses
@Cutie18f (9551)
• Philippines
2 Sep 12
The only thing I can tell you is this: don't mind what other people are thinking or saying because it's how they were brought up. Their narrow minds can only judge appearances. They are not worth your worry. Junk them and move on with your life. Hold your head up high and show them that people like them do not matter to you.
@averygirl72 (37716)
• Philippines
2 Sep 12
Thanks, actually if I pay a lot of attention to those things, I cannot move on with life. I am actually innocent of those tags until such time I really don't get the people around me as they act so weird and I am doing my best to be nice to people but they seem to reject even my kindness so I wonder what is the real problem? Then I found out it is all about those things. Probably when behind our backs they say all those negative things and when the time comes they need to look at us face to face they cannot look directly at the eyes also after sometime they realized we are not actually as garbage as they judge us to be.
@averygirl72 (37716)
• Philippines
2 Sep 12
Thanks, actually if I pay a lot of attention to those things, I cannot move on with life. I am actually innocent of those tags until such time I really don't get the people around me as they act so weird and I am doing my best to be nice to people but they seem to reject even my kindness so I wonder what is the real problem? Then I found out it is all about those things. Probably when behind our backs they say all those negative things and when the time comes they need to look at us face to face they cannot look directly at the eyes also after sometime they realized we are not actually as garbage as they judge us to be.
@ARIES1973 (11426)
• Legaspi, Philippines
1 Sep 12
There are really those people who are happy commenting on a negative way to other people. Sometimes they don't realize that even them got negative traits also. I am a very sensitive person and I know that if something will make me unhappy, most often, those things would also make other people unhappy so I avoid those things. If I were you I will just ignore them and go on with your life. Make your life more productive and time will come they would envy you.
@averygirl72 (37716)
• Philippines
1 Sep 12
Very true...it is fun to comment negatively on others, probably when I am on their shoes and I am so pretty I would do the same thing.
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@ARIES1973 (11426)
• Legaspi, Philippines
2 Sep 12
Hi averygirl. Being pretty doesn't give us the right to insult or to make negative comments on others.
@winterose (39887)
• Canada
6 Sep 12
it is disgusting. These people are not nice people, they are prejudice and just plain mean. They are in fact the ugly people not your mother.
@averygirl72 (37716)
• Philippines
6 Sep 12
Right, PLAIN MEAN and PLAIN PROUD MOCKERS! They love doing it and there is more of it and if I write it all here, they would not believe I detected them all no matter how subtle or not seen on the first look. simply because they are so great and we are so garbage! Anyway, hate me all they want to their hearts content if that what makes them happy, who am I to stop their happiness? Cheers!
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@bird123 (10632)
• United States
1 Sep 12
OK, first thing you must realize is that this is their problem not yours. On the other hand, you are in a position to teach them great lessons. I have a friend who is a black man. He is about the most ugly physical person one could know. He gives so much love, kindness and understanding to those around him that everyone draws near to him. They see who he really is.
Give Unconditional Love, kindness and understanding to everyone around you. Give a double dose to those who hate. You will discover, in time, people will draw near to you. Yes, God needed a teacher. That will be you.
@averygirl72 (37716)
• Philippines
2 Sep 12
Thanks
very encouraging. I guess and I reflect that life is all about Love. God is teaching us to love the unlovable. They despise us because of our looks and I despise them because of their attitude...but like what you said..Let us learn to love unconditionally because God loves us that way Too!
very encouraging. I guess and I reflect that life is all about Love. God is teaching us to love the unlovable. They despise us because of our looks and I despise them because of their attitude...but like what you said..Let us learn to love unconditionally because God loves us that way Too!
@natliegleb (5175)
• India
2 Sep 12
for sure had it been anybody,it will hurt all ,so try to judge people by how their character is and how well they behave and not by their appearance alone
@averygirl72 (37716)
• Philippines
2 Sep 12
Yeah it will surely hurt because it is very mean. There are people who looks worse than me then probably they have the same tags too. I cannot give that tags just because they are ugly, they should be pitied not ridiculed more. No one wants to be ugly and being pretty is not a privilege to mock people all you want. Sad but true.
@cleoselene8 (14)
• Philippines
1 Sep 12
Its great that you appreciates your mom despite of everything what she looks like.but you should know that your mother is the most beautiful person in this world.Why?Its because she is your mother.And our mothers are beautiful and great women.Without their sacrifice on us,we will never be here.Kudos to you and to your family.The most important people in this world is our `family,so dont mind the rest.
@averygirl72 (37716)
• Philippines
2 Sep 12
Love what you said. I love my mother for her sacrifice for us and I don't mind her looks. I look at her heart. Yeah I keep my family and those bullies--let them bully all they want!
@averygirl72 (37716)
• Philippines
1 Sep 12
That is really mean...but what I can I do...I just smile.
@LetranKnight25 (33121)
• Philippines
1 Sep 12
That's racism for me I think, then they have no right to complain when ever a FIlipino or Filipino gets criticized abroad because they're real problem is also them. these are the people that practically brainwashed by commercials and other shows that promotes WHITE Asians and Filipinas.
the REAL looks are in the inside and besides we all turned ugly as we grow old but beauty is how the way we defined it and not because what others tell them to
@averygirl72 (37716)
• Philippines
1 Sep 12
Yes, I know you are a Filipino too. We Filipinos have mixed breed many of us looks Spanish Americans and those with plain looks are actually the real Filipino race. People in Bisayas, Mindanao, the tribal people--they are actually 
the real Filipinos. My mother belongs to that group and me too- though my father somehow has American traits they are tall and white skinned with high bridge nose etc.
the real Filipinos. My mother belongs to that group and me too- though my father somehow has American traits they are tall and white skinned with high bridge nose etc.
@allknowing (130066)
• India
1 Sep 12
This situation obviously has not cropped overnight. This could be a precipitation of what has been going on between you and the rest there. If you make a sincere effort and delve into situations that could have landed you here may be you will get some answers.
It is entirely in your hands to ignore slights that you get from others specially if you are not dependent on them for your survival. You seem to be giving too much importance to who in your eyes you see them as riffraff! Am I right?
@averygirl72 (37716)
• Philippines
1 Sep 12
Oh right, not overnight...it started during the times when we are just starting schooling and people around our place starts to notice me, my siblings and my mother. It continues until today we are grown ups. At first I don't get it. But I delve deeply and sure I found out the reason...It is all about looks!
@namiya (1713)
• Philippines
1 Sep 12
these are people who can't think better of what to do with their lives. don't waste your time worrying about their opinions. Spend this on finding ways to improve your skills and things that you think could be of benefit to you. Everyone has his own moment, and who knows if you use your time wisely, tomorrow might be a different situation.
@averygirl72 (37716)
• Philippines
1 Sep 12
Thanks, Why would I waste my time worrying about them...Let them tag us as many mocking words they like. They can devise millions of harsh words and who cares!
Our lives is just a gift from God, I will not waste my time on them.
@jenny1015 (13366)
• Philippines
1 Sep 12
There are really some people who are into making fun of other people's appearance. You should not get close to them. They are of no good. It not good to degrade anyone. We should treat one another equal.
Just brave yourself with all the insults. Do not mind them. Just do the best that you can so that someday they will look up to you not because of your appearance but because of how good a person you are.
@averygirl72 (37716)
• Philippines
1 Sep 12
Thanks actually I find it funny. It hurts at first but I learn to accept those insults anyway those insulting people I don't respect them anymore.
@prashu228 (37526)
• India
1 Sep 12
Its so disgusting, people tagging others like this, its so mean of them In India we have all kinds of colored people, from more fair to dark ,brown and everything, but we don't treat people basing on their color, at least i have not seen people like that,where ever i go. I didn't understand why people in your place are so much worried about color and complexion,i mean didn't expect this in your place to happen . This is unbelievable for me, a kind of shock news.But never mind dear, don't think of those people, who cant treat the fellow human beings as equal to them. "believe in yourself and all that you are , know that there is something inside you,that is greater than any obstacle" all the best
@averygirl72 (37716)
• Philippines
1 Sep 12
Yes, true...They are so lucky they are pretty and we are of average poor looking physical features but it does not matter. What is the use of their beauty if they don't know how to be kind and understanding?
