Wearing a White Dress for your Second Marriage.

@Jshean20 (14374)
Canada
September 1, 2012 8:00pm CST
A lot of people see a white wedding dress as a meaning of purity and a lot of people look down upon someone who wears a white dress for her second marriage. I don't see an issue with it, maybe she is not wearing white to represent purity but rather wearing it because she likes the dress in itself not what it represents. How do you feel about it? Would you wear white for your second wedding? Thanks for commenting.
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13 responses
• Indonesia
2 Sep 12
I dont think it is wrong to wear white dress for second marriage, I believe it is the bride's right choosing whatever colour she desire. The wedding day is the day where the bride and the groom become the queen and the king for a day....so the bride have the right to wear the dress that she wants to wear and makes her happy...who cares what people's opinion whether it is her first marriage or second marriage, it is the bride' and the groom's day...not other people's day. About white as the colour of purity, it is just a symbol anyway but I dont think it is related with virginity. I think it represents the purity of love between the groom and the bride that they decide to be united in a sacred marriage. I never been married and I pray to only get married once in a lifetime, but I believe everyone deserve to wear white dress for her marriage whether she is still virgin or not, first marriage or second marriage.
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• United States
2 Sep 12
I didn't wear a white dress the first time I was married. It was more a marriage of convenience-I was three months pregnant, didn't really want to marry the baby daddy but did so out of obligation. My father, mother and sister were there, but I was married in someone's living room. NOT how I pictured my wedding. This time, I am marrying Jim for the RIGHT reasons. Unfortunately, both sets of parents are deceased; we each have a child; and I want to wear a white dress for ME. I'm wearing a formal dress, but we plan to be married on the edge of the Grand Canyon, with two witnesses. That's all we need-I don't want a formal wedding and neither does Jim.
@caopaopao (1044)
• China
2 Sep 12
I think purity lies in a woman's heart, no matter what color dress she wears on her wedding day. Here in my living place , some people wear red dress, in fact, most people wear red wedding dress as red represents joyousness , in countryside people wear homemade red clothes. And some people from city wear white wedding dress like people in western countries.
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@Jshean20 (14374)
• Canada
2 Sep 12
Yes a big part of a womans purity does come from the heart, I agree with you. It's interesting that most people in your area wear red for their wedding day, I would say 95% of women in my area wear white.
@Bhebelen14 (4561)
• Philippines
2 Sep 12
gown - Red wedding gown!
Hi Jshean, I was wearing white gown 7 years ago during my wedding gown not because its traditional but the wedding gown was a gift from my husband family, it really beautiful and fashionable and I really like it. Three years from now my husband and I planning to get married again and we want a garden wedding. We both agreed that I am going to wear red wedding gown during that day and all our visitor should were white. I think there nothing wrong if the couple will not were white in their first or second wedding the most important they love each other and will to be together forever.
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@Jshean20 (14374)
• Canada
2 Sep 12
The gown in that picture looks lovely and very suiteable for a garden wedding! You're right, the gown isn't of great importance during a wedding the important thing is the couple and marriage itself.
@deebomb (15347)
• United States
2 Sep 12
Hello Jshean. No I would not wear a white dress for a second wedding nor would I wear it foe a first wedding. Some years ago i read that in some countries white is the color of mourning and grief in China and white was worn by those who mourned Julius Caesar. Since wedding is supposed to be time of celebration White doesn't seem to be appropriate for such an occasion. White is also a symbol of surrender. Now a wedding is not a surrender as far as I'm concerned but a time of agreement to be together and a lot of giving to each other.
@Fishmomma (11562)
• United States
2 Sep 12
I see nothing wrong with wearing white for a second marriage. Its more important to be happy and if white is the color you like, then that is what the bride should wear. My daughter showed me the gown she wants to wear and its not white, which is certainly fine with me.
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@silverfox09 (4727)
• United States
2 Sep 12
I dont think anything is wrong with wearing a white dress for a second marriage . A lot of people know virginity before marriage is not very realistic these days so that purity is out the window unless your in one of those cruel religion . I think a woman having what she want for her wedding is understandable and people should mind their own business . I hope ill never have a second wedding unless its with my same husband . and Ill wear white dress that time if I want to ...
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@bunnybon7 (34462)
• Holiday, Florida
2 Sep 12
i know what you mean but thats just the old symbolism. i wore white for my 5th marriage mostly because my hubby said if thats what i liked get it. at the time it was the most expensive id ever had.ordered from Fredricks of hollywood. i hated to waste the money. i told him id likely not be able to wear it any where else but he said it just looked like a white dress so why not. i was right. when i wore it to a special dinner, the matre de said, oh a bride, boy was i embarrassed!
@bunnybon7 (34462)
• Holiday, Florida
2 Sep 12
my wedding dress on 5th marriage in vegas - this is the wedding dress if it will let me upload it. this was vegas
wonder where the photo went? try again i guess
@allknowing (58097)
• India
2 Sep 12
This thing about wearing a white dress for a wedding even for the first one is just a form having no substance for the simple reason that in today's world I doubt if there would be any 'pure' brides
@Jshean20 (14374)
• Canada
2 Sep 12
You have a point! It certainly is less common to be defined as a "pure" bride these days, I'm sure everyone has their own defination of purity but most people would agree with this I think.
@jenny1015 (13391)
• Philippines
2 Sep 12
White wedding dress has been used as a symbol of purity, and so a lot follows this tradition. But when I got married, I did not feel like using a white wedding gown. I wanted to be a little different, and so I used an off-white or cream colored gown which turned out still to be great. When my sister got married, she wore a moccha colored gown. I guess, being nontraditional with the color of wedding gowns is okay-whether it is your first or second wedding.
@jaiho2009 (39034)
• Philippines
2 Sep 12
I don't see anything wrong with it. There are first time marriages where the bride choose to wear a different color. It doesn't mean that the bride is not pure- but it is her choice to be different. Sometimes, some bride wants to break the monotony of wearing white- so they choose to wear their favorite color instead.
@shaggin (32726)
• United States
2 Sep 12
I do not plan to get married again but most people anymore no matter how many times they are married they wear white each time. I have no problem whatever they choose. I was taught when I was young that a pink wedding dress was for second marriages but I dont think I ever saw someone actually wear a pink one. Pink is my favorite color so I wouldnt mind wearing a pink wedding dress at all if I ever do get remarried. Finding a pink wedding dress would be harder then a white dress.
@natliegleb (5186)
• India
2 Sep 12
i hate white dress not for superficial reasons but also for several factors like it can get stained and the color is hard to maintain,so i hate it during weddings also