How to be romantic

@patgalca (14590)
Orangeville, Ontario
September 3, 2012 2:22pm CST
What is romance to you? My husband and I recently saw the movie Hope Springs with Meryl Streep and Bobby Lee Jones. It's about an older couple, married 31 years, sleeping in separate bedrooms, barely talking, barely touching, very little romance. On the way home I told my husband he needs to get romantic. We've been together 20 years, married 15, and he is not romantic at all. But in thinking about it I wonder whether he is not romantic or whether he just doesn't want to put in the effort. Perhaps is mind is more focussed towards work and golf and not on romancing his wife. I told him I was going to write him a list of ways he could be romantic. I could only come up with a couple. I'd like to hear from you all. What exactly do you consider romantic in a partner? What romantic thing would you like him/her to do for you? And I'm talking about the little things, not buying diamonds and such. Your thoughts?
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@BarBaraPrz (20689)
• St. Catharines, Ontario
3 Sep 12
Many years ago, I was driving around the countryside with my boyfriend when he stopped the car and jumped out of the car to pick a wild rose bloom from one of the bushes growing along side the road. I thought (and still do) that that was very romantic.
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@patgalca (14590)
• Orangeville, Ontario
3 Sep 12
That's what I mean: Something so simple can mean so much. My husband seems to have his head in the clouds and I guess after so many years just takes us for granted. Thanks for sharing.
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@ajithlal (14569)
• India
11 Feb 13
I think most probably you love roses very much and that is one of the reason your boyfriend might have picked rose for you.
• United States
3 Sep 12
There are so many things men can do and they're all so simple, the idiots. I don't know about you but I find it so charming when my hubby does something exclusively for me, like go to a furniture store to go get a jewelry armoire I've been wanting. We took a half hour ride out to the store, picked it out, had lunch and when we got home he put it together for me. I know this is all too specific, but when my man dedicates time to me it always works! ;-)
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@patgalca (14590)
• Orangeville, Ontario
3 Sep 12
That's exactly it. Doing something I want to do WITH me and willfully with interest. It's not very romantic if he is a curmugeon about it.
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@fatlex06 (895)
• Philippines
7 Sep 12
My boyfriend and I are 8 years in a relationship until now. But then, he never failed to surprise me everytime it's our anniversary. I always appreciate his simple thoughts everyday. I find it romantic when he will suddenly calls me for no reason, we will be textmate for a day, he will just have a stare at me eventhough I don't really feel beautiful, he will give me some snack in the office if it's his off ( it happened before when I work in an office), when he will kiss my hand even if we're at the jeepney, he holds my hand even if he's infront of his friends or my friends and many more. I don't know if that's romantic for you but for me, it is. Very romantic. I just feel that I had the sweetest man in the world. Haha. :)
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@patgalca (14590)
• Orangeville, Ontario
7 Sep 12
That is so sweet. I think my husband CAN be romantic if he puts his mind to it, but I guess I`m just not top of mind. LOL! We`ve been talking about it and hopefully he`ll make some changes. I`d be happy with just the stare you talked about. That is so adorable.
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• United States
23 Sep 12
Romance is what you make of it. For example, take the most romantic Valentine's day I've ever had. My boyfriend had a Dr's. appointment in another city, so he picked me and my daughter up early that morning because he wanted someone to go with him. When we got to the city we were early, so we had McDonald's from the drive through. We then went to the hospital, and he was called pretty quickly...leaving me and my daughter in the waiting room for a good while. After he was finished, we talked as we got lost trying to get home. We did finally find our way and got back to my house about noon. I gave my daughter some lunch, and we went to the basement to watch some TV...after a while, I fell asleep on his lap. I know you are wondering where the romantic part is, but to me the whole day was romantic. Out of all the people that he could have chosen to spend the day with, he chose me. We even fell asleep together after that big day, and its a day that I'll always hold special in my heart. So its what you make of any time that makes it romantic, rather than what you are actually doing. Just do something you enjoy and make sure to engage each other in plenty of conversation.
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• United States
3 Sep 12
My husband is not the romantic type. When we first got together he bought me flowers. They were not expensive, but the thought was nice.
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• Portugal
20 Apr 13
Well I'm Married Will Be Next July 31 Years!!!And Me & My Husband Still Like Soulmates!!!We Play,We Laugh,We Watch Movies,Do Things Together,Go Out Together With Hands In Hands,Say To Ich Other Beautiful Things,He Help Me At Home & In Every Moments!!!That's Is Romance,We Don't Need Diamonds,To Be Happy Together!!!
@ajithlal (14569)
• India
22 Jan 13
My husband is very romantic to me . He love me very much . And I am also love him very much