its your own doing don't try to get pity

@911Ricki (13602)
Canada
September 3, 2012 2:30pm CST
A girl I went to college with dated a guy not even two weeks of dating she got pregnent. She wasn't on birth control or any protection. Now 2 - 3 months later she's texting me, asking how I'm doing. I said I'm just finishing work she goes I'm just being pregnent being sick. I just ignored her, its her own doing doont try and get pity over your own stupidity.
6 responses
@GardenGerty (101839)
• United States
3 Sep 12
Does she want pity, or maybe she wants you to be envious in her own way. Either way it is not happening is it?
@911Ricki (13602)
• Canada
3 Sep 12
Coulc be but either way she wont be getting anything from me. She told me she purposely got pregnent, she doesnt work, lives with her parents, has no education, and clearly nothing else.
@NailTech (6890)
• United States
3 Sep 12
How do you know she wanted pity? Maybe she was just alittle lonely and was reaching out to a friend. Was she asking for pity or did it just sound like she needed someone to talk to?
@911Ricki (13602)
• Canada
3 Sep 12
I've tried giving her a change to talk and told her I was there for her. But she didnt bring it up until she asked what are you doing, me Im just finishing work, heading home to make supper her Im just being pregnent much better. This girl thrivers on attention which is why I think she got pregnent, she told me she purposely got pregnent. Shes never had to work, lives at home, and her parents basicaally ignore her (her older sister was moved out, and supporting herself by 18), she is 24.
@sedel1027 (17854)
• United States
3 Sep 12
I would have replied, 'that sucks. Guess you learned your lesson the hard way'. I would still feel bad for her to an extent though. I. Et most of her friends abandoned her now that she is pregnant and she has a hard road ahead of her.
@911Ricki (13602)
• Canada
3 Sep 12
Most of her friends are in the same situation as she is. I told her shes clearly immature and irresponsible but she needs to grow up now before this child comes. We went to college together, but she flunked out twice. She kept asking when I was going to have kids, and grow up. I told her clearly having kids make you a grown up, I think Im more of a grown up being on birth control, and holding down a job to support myself. I think she just very immature and until her parents tell her to grow up she wont.
@winterose (39918)
• Canada
7 Sep 12
why are you so nasty? She got pregnant that is her business, she is just trying to share her life with you, it may not be what you want but nevertheless that is her life. Morning sickness is a part of pregnancy and I can tell you from experience it is not fun.
@dorannmwin (36698)
• United States
5 Sep 12
I know that it is impossible to give pity to someone that is pregnant when you have never been there yourself. However, for me it is difficult to give pity to someone that is pregnant as well because I had wonderful experiences with both of my pregnancies. I was lucky enough to not have to deal with morning sickness with either of the babies. The place where I would be more than willing to give anyone sympathy is if they were to experience a pregnancy loss because I believe that kind of loss is one of the most profound losses that a person can experience.
@Raine38 (9193)
• United States
3 Sep 12
She could be wanting anything; there's a lot of possibilities on why she wants to strike a conversation with you now. If I were you, I would be feeling awkward and uncomfortable talking to her. I am not too good with listening to sad life stories of people and how they messed up. But I have been also crashed and burned when I entertained and tried to be friendly with those who are in a mess and starts talking to me about their life. Maybe you can try asking her directly if she needs anything to you the next time she contacts you again. There's no harm in it I think. That way it wI'll be easy nOf to raise her hopes up or to avoid wasting your time when you already find out what she's contacting you for.